Thread: Have you (women) had an orgasm in your life ?

I have only had a few orgasms(maybe 4) with my boyfriend. I only have them when i'm on top and he doesn't really care for it that way so I don't get to have them very often.

I had a pretty dismal start to my sex life and was involved with someone for six years that couldnt and didnt care to satisfy me. I became so anxious because of him and his expectations that I started being unable to cope with penetration because it hurt so much. I was convinced I was a freak. Luckily I could have an orgasm through masturbation. So I had an idea of what it was like. The next relationship was better, but I became the queen of faking it. I used to joke with my girlfriends that I would fake it so well I wasn't sure if I had cum or not. Again, my vibrator was my best friend. So this leads us to door number three. Absolutely mind blowing, earth shattering sex. This is only why I think it is like this for me, personally, but we have an incredible bond, I am very deeply madly in love and after nearly two years the sex is getting better and better. Neither him nor I have an incredibly high sex drive, 3/4 times a week is good. And it is great to be with someone who's sex drive matches your own. I am very lucky to be able to have vaginal orgasm's without anything except penetration, I ejaculate regularly and have clitoral orgasms easily too. He is very interested in making me happy, the very sight of him turns me on and I know he loves me and accepts me for who I am and for me these are the buttons that I need pushed. I know it is different with all women. I regularly have more than 2 orgasms per session, it also helps that I dont take long to climax. It is almost like my body has been trained to orgasm now and it is so much easier, I dont think about it, to tell the truth I dont even know what my own name is in the moment of climax And I have no interest in the vibrator anymore because the quality is not as good as the orgasm I have with him.

Originally Posted by mystique83

I have only had a few orgasms(maybe 4) with my boyfriend. I only have them when i'm on top and he doesn't really care for it that way so I don't get to have them very often.

Oh that's a pity because experiencing orgasm with a women is just so incredible.

Life is so short and precious, why not make the most of it, people work hard at their careers, so why not give orgasm a chance - **** its free and it really does make you both feel so wonderful !!!

Originally Posted by Nightelf

I had a pretty dismal start to my sex life and was involved with someone for six years that couldnt and didnt care to satisfy me. I became so anxious because of him and his expectations that I started being unable to cope with penetration because it hurt so much. I was convinced I was a freak. Luckily I could have an orgasm through masturbation. So I had an idea of what it was like. The next relationship was better, but I became the queen of faking it. I used to joke with my girlfriends that I would fake it so well I wasn't sure if I had cum or not. Again, my vibrator was my best friend. So this leads us to door number three. Absolutely mind blowing, earth shattering sex. This is only why I think it is like this for me, personally, but we have an incredible bond, I am very deeply madly in love and after nearly two years the sex is getting better and better. Neither him nor I have an incredibly high sex drive, 3/4 times a week is good. And it is great to be with someone who's sex drive matches your own. I am very lucky to be able to have vaginal orgasm's without anything except penetration, I ejaculate regularly and have clitoral orgasms easily too. He is very interested in making me happy, the very sight of him turns me on and I know he loves me and accepts me for who I am and for me these are the buttons that I need pushed. I know it is different with all women. I regularly have more than 2 orgasms per session, it also helps that I dont take long to climax. It is almost like my body has been trained to orgasm now and it is so much easier, I dont think about it, to tell the truth I dont even know what my own name is in the moment of climax And I have no interest in the vibrator anymore because the quality is not as good as the orgasm I have with him.

Well its great that your new partner is so caring and thoughtful, I cringed when you said it "hurt so much" because really it ain't that hard really to get a women wet with enough foreplay and patience.

I think the biggest problem most men make is not enough foreplay, most men are too eager to ejaculate, and this within itself should not be the goal.

I think to have hot sex with orgasm you need to be reasonably fit, because it really is like a marathon, caressing is quite physically draining after a few hours, I think you are fortunate you have a partner that is considerate enough to give you what you want, both of you will be the winners in the end, nothing worse than when a women is dry and a guy is inconsiderate as he clumsily tries to force it in.

Anyway enjoy !

Nothing like waking up for work on Monday and the sex has been incredible - you feel wonderful, happy and refreshed

Originally Posted by GentileBen

Nothing like waking up for work on Monday and the sex has been incredible - you feel wonderful, happy and refreshed

Absolutely! Also nothing nicer than sitting at work thinking about the evening you have planned. I agree with you about fitness, also nothing destresses me and makes me sleep better than an orgasm or two. I dont have oodles of energy afterwards. I love just falling asleep in his arms.

Originally Posted by Nightelf

Absolutely! Also nothing nicer than sitting at work thinking about the evening you have planned. I agree with you about fitness, also nothing destresses me and makes me sleep better than an orgasm or two. I dont have oodles of energy afterwards. I love just falling asleep in his arms.

Oh that's lovely !!!

Yeah I know what you mean, that in itself is a strategy I use to increase the sexual excitement - by the time Friday comes she's on fire !!! He he

Originally Posted by inquisitive1

Hey GentileBen-
Oh YES, yes I have had orgasms, mild to I touched the face of God! Usually closer to the latter. I usually have them with every attempt. What joy what rapture!! Be Blessed!!!

He he

That night was one I will never forget, it really did change the way I perceived sex and just how lacking average sex really is.

One day maybe people will realise that the way we live and what we value is not ideal.

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