Thread: Kindly Help

Hi all...
this is my first post in this forum.
Kindly help me...

I am not so expressive in telling out my feelings.. pls ignore if i do any mistakes..

I am a 22 years gal, very introvert and innocent by nature. im in love for past 3 years with a married guy who is almost double my age. i have been sexually active with him from an year or so.

He is very nice man and loves me very much. i just want to know if there will be any problems in our sex life say after 5 years??

please help.........

Originally Posted by RedHot

Hi all...
this is my first post in this forum.
Kindly help me...

I am not so expressive in telling out my feelings.. pls ignore if i do any mistakes..

I am a 22 years gal, very introvert and innocent by nature. im in love for past 3 years with a married guy who is almost double my age. i have been sexually active with him from an year or so.

He is very nice man and loves me very much. i just want to know if there will be any problems in our sex life say after 5 years??

please help.........

I did it when I was around your age, in some ways it was nice - after awhile you start to notice their age.

Your friends are your age, their friends are their age, do you have lots of things in common ?

You want to go out and have fun with people your own age, he's been there and done that, and your young friends fine it odd that you are with him, I could be wrong though ...

Your mentality is different from his, the way you see the world is different from the way he see's the world.

I personally would not do it again.

Like I said in my other post:
Stop this relationship. He is married. It is not love, it is you being used.
Your sex life will surely suffer ... when his wife finds out and leaves him. No reason to have a mistress if you haven't a wife, so your relationship with him, sexual and emotional, will disappear.
And if he marries you, he'll cheat on you too; another reason your sex life could nose-dive.
Leave him for the dogs he belongs with for having cheated on his wife.

Originally Posted by Little

Like I said in my other post:
Stop this relationship. He is married. It is not love, it is you being used.
Your sex life will surely suffer ... when his wife finds out and leaves him. No reason to have a mistress if you haven't a wife, so your relationship with him, sexual and emotional, will disappear.
And if he marries you, he'll cheat on you too; another reason your sex life could nose-dive.
Leave him for the dogs he belongs with for having cheated on his wife.

Hello RedHot-
I agree 100% with Little on this one. I would only add that you're young and while it may hurt initially to sever this relationship - you will recover, move on, and survive it. What is in it for anyone to get someone elses leftovers? Surely you must know you're worthy of so much more?!

I did this too...the guy I was involved with was 17(which is pretty much twice my age) years older, married ...It lasted for about 4 months....it's not worth it.It was one of the most painful things I've ever been through but I deserved it for getting involved with him in the first place.Everytime I would be by myself I would start crying but I'm getting better now.It's just not worth it...We quit on good terms if I saw him again I'd probably just smile and say Hi, but I will NEVER touch a married man again unless it's my own husband...

Well from my experience being married ( now divorced) to a man 17 years older than I, it was good when he was in his 40's but turned bad in his 50's.. sex dropped off and he got really old.. we ended up divorcing.. I think it can work for some but you have to be realistic about the age difference.. you will not slow down as fast as he does.. its nature.. good luck

It's a bad scene. Get out of there. You are young. Years from now you will look back and wonder why you did not get your head examined to do this. At that time honey, be kind to yourself. Many women are lonely and make this mistake. It is called the hot female sexual hormones dying to be aroused and taken. Once they are aroused you are in deep trouble. Frequent sex makes frequent sex. BUT you have got the wrong guy. He is taken. He does not have a For Rent sign on him. He belongs to another. He is also a jerk to start. Don't waste your life. You are being used.

You see I know all the answers to the above saga of love and sexual hunger. Been there and done that. I was not quite 21 and he was 50. He was young looking and smooth as silk. I knew he was married but she seemed cold. He played me good and I went with the game. I was going with my sailor and he was at sea. I was hotter than **** and great looking and sexually untouched. Even my sailor had not gotten to me yet. I never allowed penetration but I did rock and roll. Oh and he was my boss. I was his hot young secretary.

Looking back I wonder how I could have been so dumb but I was. This affair ended before I got married but it went on until my husband-to-be got out of service. A lot of this is the sexual thrill that we women get. I know this was it for me. I played with fire and truly in the end I did get burned. Oh, and my husband never knew about this.

This bothered me for a long time. The cheapness that I felt for the easy woman I was to that man. I had no self respect and believe me I was a respected woman but young and so naive yet I thought I was wordly.

Get out of there and find yourself a man all to your own. He is not yours and will never be yours. Even if he would be someday, it would not work.......Take care, Caroline

in my opinion.... no problems .

Thanks a ton for all your reply and suggestions..
in the same way also pls adxice me as to how i can face that agony and pain when i leav him.. first of all how can i end this relation??
this is my ever relation with a man, and it happenes to be a bad choice

i cant imagin myself without him.. i tried to break up with him a couple of times when we fought. but it dint work. again like a fool i went back to him and asked sorry for his mistakes.
not even half a day i can hold myself from talking to him or mgsing him..

i think im totaly addicted to him... how to come out pls help...
sorry if i am posting this in a wrong section

Block him on the computer, delete his number from your phone and block it, etc. Take a vacation. Remove yourself from him! Get help from your friends and family.
You can do it!