Thread: How long?

How many dates have you gone on? How long has it been since the first date?

well i know for me i am not ready yet. but first date was last saturday and we went out again on tuesday friday and he came over yesterday. so been four dates within first week, next date is on tuesday. how long do you wait? if you dontmind me asking.

Depends on if you want a long term relationship or if you are just hanging out with him for fun. If you see it going somewhere (which sounds like you do) then I would definitely wait. Wait until you feel you are ready, I don't think there is any set time limit, just be comfortable.
You two are seeing a lot of each other so a month may seem like a long time if you are going on 3 dates a week. I think I would wait a month or so, but that's based on only seeing someone on the weekends of every week and a half say.
Bottom line is, just wait until you are comfortable and ready. If this guy really likes you, he won't have a problem with that. And if he has a problem waiting, then he's not for you.

i am begininng to think he may not be for me cause i think he may be coolin down do to the lack of sex. he thinks i am doing it purposely to him. that is so not so.

Originally Posted by roxxie1

i am begininng to think he may not be for me cause i think he may be coolin down do to the lack of sex. he thinks i am doing it purposely to him. that is so not so.

If he's "cooling down" because you haven't slept with him after three dates then he's not for you. Not relationship material anyway.

Originally Posted by roxxie1

i am begininng to think he may not be for me cause i think he may be coolin down do to the lack of sex. he thinks i am doing it purposely to him. that is so not so.

If he is only there for that reason then he is not worth you. You are far more important than that.......If I was young and dating again I would never give a man my body unless I wanted him and was dying to have him touch me sexually and wondered how it felt to have him go up my leg. Unless that sexual hunger was there, why should I fulfill his wants. My treasures are more important than that.......

Having been a serial dater throughout my twenties before I met my husband, I can honestly say that this is how I lived - if he made me wildly horny, I did what I wanted, when I wanted. As a result, I dated guys that I slept with immediately, I dated guys and it never got to the sex before we broke up, and I dated guys where we got around to sex after anywhere from two weeks to a month of dating. My husband and I waited a month and a week for actual intercourse... but everything else had been going on from about the fifth date.

It depends on how you feel. I partially agree with what the others are saying, but I don't think I ever felt I was being taken advantage of... I just felt, this is what I want right now, and whatever happens, happens. The thing is, you have to be able to deal with what happens and not slap your head and say, if only I hadn't slept with him!

I'm not that much younger than you and I think if I were single again, I would still operate the same way. Sexual confidence is a positive attribute.

And of course it goes without saying that I went out with plenty of guys who were of the "I'm screwing this chick tonight" mindset... and I could smell them a mile away. They never got anything, because they didn't want to know me enough to deserve it.

i am very sexually attracted to him but.... i have this thing in the back of my mind that stops me.. i know i have to work it out myself but this is often my thought process. i mean for example after a few date what do we know. like if i slept with him last nite. i would have done so before finding out so many other things to come. yes there will always be someting but in the beginning its all new and today i didnt love his attitude well thank goodness i didnt sleep with him. i mean i may have just been sensitive but i just feel sexual attraction is great but knowin a person is very important too. i may be jaded i am divorced and dont want to meet someone and get stuck but thats another story. lol thanks for all htis support its great.