Thread: expert comments required

No idea of statistics, but I've known people who have made that mistake.

I am sorry that it has been so difficult for you to get the information you came here seeking.

I do agree with the few that said it is unlikely that you are pregnant if there was no actual penitration (penis into the vagina). It is also trued that if you started your period, then you probably are not pregnant. There are some rare situations where a woman is pregnant and continues to have her period for several months later.

Blood tests are more accurate, as someone else said, but urine tests do a pretty good job too. You would probably be safe to know if you took three or so urine tests from the grocery store. If you have taken them, they say you are not pregnant, and you have also had your period, then you most likely are NOT pregnant.

To answer your first question, you really cannot get pregnant just from touching each other's sexual areas with your hands. This would only happen if he had ejaculation (sperm) on his fingers and he then put his fingers inside you. Even then, the chances would be slim because he has to get the sperm up inside you with enough liquid to get where it needed to go.

Don't be afraid to ask for more information here. Everyone is welcome and we will be happy to help you out!

Many of you are way off topic. Has anyone even noticed that I think you scared off the person that started this thread?? Narmeen, are you even reading this anymore?

I am going to be flat out honest, I am dissappointed in this thread. I have so many problems with it that I don't even know where to start.

We are not here to pass judgement on ANYONE seeking knowledge. It doesn't matter if Narmeen is 16 or 65. She is entitled to learn about sex and women's health without criticism. It is also inappropriate for anyone to be pointing fingers at people here and blatantly accusing them of being something other then what they are claiming. How can any of you assume that this is a child simply because she doesn't know as much as we do? Do you know that in remote areas of Africa, they are just recently learning about safe sex and pregnancy because they were CLUELESS about it?? There are countries where people truly do not know these things because there is NOT AN EDUCATION system to deal with it. Not to mention the countries that do not allow women to speak freely or learn about sex because of their religion. Don't assume that just because they CAN have sex, they they know what they are doing. And don't assume that just because someone doesn't know about things and doesn't speak clear English that they are only 12.

Even if Narmeen were only a young girl, wouldn't it be best to arm her with the knowledge she is so bravely seeking. Or do you think it's better to just scare her away with accusations and the reasons why not to have sex? Tell the girl what she needs to know so she can at least be a more educated woman when it comes to sex and pregnancy.

Furthermore, let's stay on topic. Let's stick with what people are asking for which is not a lengthy discussion about Rainbow Parties and Breast Sizes. Make new threads for those things. Right now, you are basicly ignoring Narmeen's questions by talking about something entirely different amongst each other.

Hi, I sort of can't quite believe that my very first post here is in this thread LOL but I do feel I have to.

I just wanted to stress further on a point that Jessica has made and I'm making this statements in general and not specifically targeted at the original poster or anyone else. Sex education is not dispensed with in many countries ... especially if compared to the western world. Think about places where arranged marriages are still very much the norm. In some parts of the world, not knowing many thing about sex at in the late 20s or 30s isn't that surprising at all. But as pointed out by a couple of members, the age really doesn't matter. Also, there were good advice given (sorry I can't remember exactly who) but in some places, even pregnancy test kits are not so readily available or some people might simply be afraid of the consequences of people finding out and drawing conclusions.