Thread: Being Bisexual

Ive noticed more and more among women being bisexual is fairly common and more acceptable. I myself am bisexual and not that I brag about it its still something that I keep to myself but have found out that also many of my friends and coworkers have at least experimented with it. Is it as common among women as I think it is or am I just an exception?

This is something that I am recently struggling with. I was actually offended by the label of "bi sexual" at first, since it is just a fantasy in my head. What exactly does it mean?? Am I really bi if I fantasize about being with a woman but never actually do it? I think, personally, that women do think about it but are afraid to actually admit it, like all this masturbation talk. Or I am just a freak of nature, I really didn't think that I was the only women in the world that masturbated but since being on this site have now decided I must be, LOL!! Sorry to go off topic but I got a little frustrated. I do think that bisexuality is a little more mainstream for women. Not to say it is completely acceptable to everyone.

Originally Posted by bellababe

This is something that I am recently struggling with. I was actually offended by the label of "bi sexual" at first, since it is just a fantasy in my head. What exactly does it mean?? Am I really bi if I fantasize about being with a woman but never actually do it? I think, personally, that women do think about it but are afraid to actually admit it, like all this masturbation talk. Or I am just a freak of nature, I really didn't think that I was the only women in the world that masturbated but since being on this site have now decided I must be, LOL!! Sorry to go off topic but I got a little frustrated. I do think that bisexuality is a little more mainstream for women. Not to say it is completely acceptable to everyone.

You are completely normal. I think ALL women have a bit of bi-sexual in them. I think all sexes have this. There is nothing wrong with it. It scares us but why. What is the harm.... It brings on one heck of a fantasy during sex. I saw my first Porn with a woman in it near two years ago. Jenna Jameston was the star. We were downstairs on the sofa watching it. When I saw the sexual parts of these women for the first time I was turned on. I had never seen what a woman from this sexual side of life. I liked it. My husband noticed how I was aroused even though I did try and hide it. I was squirming and getting hot just from what I saw. About five minutes later we were on the floor having hot sex. I was watching the TV at the same time. I liked what I saw. That does not mean that I would have made it a habit of wanting to watch Porn. It simply meant that she was hot and I liked seeing what I was seeing. I believe all these things in life make me a better lover.

I don't know about the rest of the women here but I masturbate. My husband does me great and I have a lot of sex but I need it. Even with as good as he is, my own hands with Eric the Eroscillator are just awesome. Because of a high arousal I only use him about every 8 days as that little guy could be a habit. But he does take me to a fantasy world and I groove. Like you I also, have thought sexually of having sex with a woman. This does not make me bi-sexual it makes me a woman that has thought how hot it would be having sex with another woman. But I am only thinking it. So what.... It makes a great rush when you are getting aroused. There is nothing wrong with my thinking this anymore than there is anything wrong with you. I talked with a very good friend of mine who is a Sex Therapist and told her my high sexual feelings seeing that naked woman from the underside and see the dildo used on her by another woman and she laughed. She said that all women feel this but so few will admit it. I kind of go along with what she said.

I have entertained the thought during sex of having a hot sexual relationship with a woman. But this is when I was young. Not now. But it is a fantasy that I am thinking and if it helps me go to that place of the God's that I am going to. What is wrong with it? At the end of the fantasy I treat it as just that. I return back home and to my lover.

Now for your last question I will answer you this way....If you are a freak, I am a freak and honey, there are many more of us around.....Don't worry and enjoy life.....I sure do

Yeah, bisexuality is more common among women. I saw on study that showed that women who described themselves as straight were more likely to become aroused by lesbian porn/erotic images than straight men to porn with gay males. Though it is true that it maybe just be more bicuriousness than bisexuality.

I saw a study somewhere (hm, without a reference its pretty useless, but anyway), where they measured men and women's arousal as they were shown various erotic images of men and women.

Most men were either aroused only by male images, or only by female images.

Most women were aroused by both male and female images, but to different extents.

As far as I'm concerned, whatever floats you boat is fine.

I am married, but I have been bi-curious. I want to open up with my wife. I don't want to leave her or anything. I just want to experience what I think is okay to experiment. But I do not want to do that behind her back. I don't know exactly how to do it, but I don't think it is a big deal. To say that one can only reach orgasm being heterosexual it is a lie. It is possible to like both sexes.

Originally Posted by ThePhotographer

I am married, but I have been bi-curious. I want to open up with my wife. I don't want to leave her or anything. I just want to experience what I think is okay to experiment. But I do not want to do that behind her back. I don't know exactly how to do it, but I don't think it is a big deal. To say that one can only reach orgasm being heterosexual it is a lie. It is possible to like both sexes.

It is possible to like both sexes. It is possible to be physicaly attracted to 2 women (or men), but it may not be a good idea to act on that attraction. To be clear, I have no moral objections to homosexuality, or in fact to any safe, sane, consensual activity between any number of adults. But:

Many people are not so open minded. I know nothign about your wife, but there are some women who would absolutely freak out if you told them you were bi and wanted to experiment.

So - do you have openly gay friends - how does your wife react to them? If she is in the least bit homophobic, don't even think of telling her.

Do you have any poly friends, what is her reaction? This is to test her ideas about multiple partners.

Maybe start with a joke (to give you an out). Next time she comments on a male charater in a movie as being attractive, you could try saying something like 'Yes, he's so cute that even I'm attracted to him..."

Remember, lots of men and women have to live with their sexual desires unfulfilled. Desiring men is no less important than these other desires, but no more so either.

Think this through - good luck whatever you decide.

omg I Just wrote this long post in here.. went to post it and the website shut down thats real sad lol but lets see if i can remember what I put.

I have been confused with the label "bi sexual" for some time now. I am bisexual. I told my family when I was about 14. But to my family that interpreted to them that I was a lesbian. I had boyfriends when I was younger and girlfriends. Never was I the type of person who was very public about who was I dating just very content with myself and whomever I was with at the time. I attended the gay pride parades and never was ashamed of being a bi sexual. I remember when I was younger tho going to partys and seing girls making out ...not because they were woman who were attracted to woman... but because oh the boys loved to watch!!! That always made me angry I know it was all in good fun I guess but to me I felt like veryone would just take being a bisexual a JOKE! So if you have read any of my other post you may know that I have a bf who I am very muchin love with going very close on to 4 years. So I am not a bi sexual anymore lol this is what PEOPLE tell me.. lol Isnt it so funny how people just took the lablel away now that I am with a man. You just dont stop being who you always were. I do love my bf and plan and hope to be with him for the rest of my life but hey I know what I am attracted to it doesnt just go away. Even my mother laughs at me and jokes with people about me saying wasnt that a CRazy PHASE i was in... WHAT.... i just dont get it lol.
NOw the topic of 3some .. Im not into them. People think that just because you attracted to both sexes then 3some is YOUR thing lol. Ive always either been with a man or with a woman... I take it very seriously its not a gameto me.
so basically im not writing this for advice or anything more just to see what peoples opinions are on the subject.. Hmm A good topic question being.... so would you consider a person like me a "BISEXUAL"?! quite a strange question huh? I thought so too .

Originally Posted by helen99

so basically im not writing this for advice or anything more just to see what peoples opinions are on the subject.. Hmm A good topic question being.... so would you consider a person like me a "BISEXUAL"?! quite a strange question huh? I thought so too .

I'd consider someone bisexual if any of the following is true:
1. They have slept with people of both sexes within the last year or two.

2. They would like to sleep with people of both sexes.

3. They think of themselves as bisexual.

So the point is, I don't consider myself gay. I LOVE women. I am always around beautiful women and flirting with them. I am not like that with guys. But I do want to have a threesome with another man involved. Me, my wife and another man. I have tons of bisexual movies and I know exactly what I want. I would like to know if there are women out there who is attracted to this kind of relationship - threesome where there is action also between the 2 guys involved and the woman with them.