Quote Originally Posted by Franny&Zooey View Post
I've only been dating the same man for 19 months now, and although we talk about and plan on getting married, we aren't as of right now. I can honestly tell you that after only about eleven months, my sex drive went way down. The relationship was still very new and so was sex, being that I was a virgin before dating him. After going through about a month of what you described- him advancing, me refusing - he stopped advancing. Everything was fine for about a week, then I really wanted him more, simply because he didn't tell me that he wanted me. Since then, instead of having intercourse at least once every day, or more, we space it out better. Although it's not just once or twice a month, more like twelve times a month. We try to make every time different. Different places, positions, the order of things, etc. I can't imagine what to do in your situation, but I can say that I am proof of this female tendency. I'll get back to you after we actually get married, and let you know if it's gotten worse.
Your sex life after you are married will only get worse if you let it get worse. Don't do anything different. If you flirt with him all the time now, do it then. Never stop. That is why marriages get in trouble. Don't let it change........If is up to the two people to keep it that way....We have a lot of sex, maybe two to three times a week because we love it, it makes us feel so young and keeps my husband young. It is HIS fountain of youth. A woman must do this to stay juicy or else masturbate daily or quite often to keep her sex drive up or she will get flat and not have her strong desires anymore. I have never stopped flirting and it has gotten me through a lot of women that have been after him for years.