Thread: Guys, please clue me in

Originally Posted by Fallen1

You know, that actually makes sense to me.

Along the lines of this subject - Back several months ago my boyfriend and I were in a discussion about our physical relationship and he said that he would like for me to take a more active role in initiating it rather than waiting on him. I took his advice and on multiple occasions I was the initiator and each time I was turned down for one reason or another. So the immaturity came out of me and the last time I told him that I would never try to initiate or ask again. Guess I need to rethink my stubbornness, swallow my pride and try the approach of initiating again.

I'm sorry your initiatives were not rewarded with fittingly memorable sex! It's certainly a situation that many men will, unfortunately find familiar. In the end swallowing your pride is really the only way forward. Many years ago I went on 'strike' because I felt my wife was not being attentive enough. It lasted two months by which time I was chewing the furniture in frustration. When I finally cracked and spoke out about it it turned out my wife had assumed I was so engrossed in work that I didn't want sex - she had been biting the furniture for weeks as well . The resolution was a whole lot of fun!

Good luck!

I have a s/o who does the same thing he says that he dosen't have a sex drive then when i check his computer he has all of this porn and **** on it it seems like to me that he would rather get off to his porn then me I have a huge sex drive and it is getting to the point now that it is really ****ing me off bad. . . I don't know why he does this but I am always willin and he never wants me just his porn I think that his porn is better then me in a way like it makes him happy and I don't he knows that I am here and willin but he just dosen't want it. I don't know why he says that I am good and all of that stuff but he blows me off all that time no matter how much I throw myself on him.

Originally Posted by gyrator53

The thing I find fascinating about this is that, while there is clearly a lot of both male and female masturbation going on, from the postings on this site and elsewhere it is clear that male masturbation causes much angst among the ladies while men would seem less disturbed by their womenfolk having it away with machinery . I can't find a post anywhere where a guy is going through mental torture because he keeps finding dead batteries in the trash or that the washing machine is always set to "fast spin only" . And this is strange because an imbalance of sexual desires with the man needing more than his partner is often something that crops up. Of course we are always told that if a woman gets a good orgasm from a vibrator she will actually want sex more but is it really true or are the menfolk being sold a dummy on this one?

Thanks for the laugh. This is so true.

Originally Posted by gyrator53

The thing I find fascinating about this is that, while there is clearly a lot of both male and female masturbation going on, from the postings on this site and elsewhere it is clear that male masturbation causes much angst among the ladies while men would seem less disturbed by their womenfolk having it away with machinery . I can't find a post anywhere where a guy is going through mental torture because he keeps finding dead batteries in the trash or that the washing machine is always set to "fast spin only" . And this is strange because an imbalance of sexual desires with the man needing more than his partner is often something that crops up. Of course we are always told that if a woman gets a good orgasm from a vibrator she will actually want sex more but is it really true or are the menfolk being sold a dummy on this one?

The more a woman has sex (fulfilling kind), the more she wants it.