Thread: Fantasies

Are fantasies healthy and normal? I fantasize a lot during sex and just during the day. Some are pretty normal some are pretty bizzare!! lol Is this common?

Yup...they say men fantasize more than women, but I think it depends on the woman.

yea this is very normal. Sigmund Frued thinks that we fantasize starting as a child. and if anyone says that they don't then they are a liar.

Normal?? I think everyone is different. I fantasize, but the fantasy always includes my SO....even if it is about a threesome or whatever. It bothers me to think my SO fantasizes about other women and being with them alone sexually, but reality is...I think he does sometimes. What is normal anyway?? Ha.

Mine mostly are about other persons then my bf but then we arent married so my mind wanders more. I tend to fantasize more about bondage and control things and multiple partners either men or women.

Originally Posted by metboogie

Yup...they say men fantasize more than women, but I think it depends on the woman.

actually if you read any of "nancy friday's" book on fantasy. she will tell that women have far more sexual fantasies than men do..get her book "my secret garden"..most men have no idea the fantasies that women have running through their minds on a regular basis..that book sure opened my eyes..

Originally Posted by dr.mansview

actually if you read any of "nancy friday's" book on fantasy. she will tell that women have far more sexual fantasies than men do..get her book "my secret garden"..most men have no idea the fantasies that women have running through their minds on a regular basis..that book sure opened my eyes..

That book is hot........Woman having sex with a dog.....That is too wild and I cannot understand how a woman could think this.....I wonder where those women were with their thoughts........If I was sitting here and thinking about jumping his bones I could get into one hot fantasy......but..........if he was doing me and taking me to heaven I would not want to go to a fantasy. I would want to go to my own special place in time.......no place for a fantasy there.....it is just a he and I thing.....

fantasies are just that, fantasies..i does not mean that a women wants everything that she fantasizes about..one of the most common fantasies that women have is the rape fantasy..certainly they don't want that in real life..as for the dog fantasy "caroline", i just don't get that one..were they denied a puppy as a child????

I have read Nacy Fridays books and your right some of those fantasies are out there especially the one about the woman getting raped by a donkey!! But the books are very hot and definitely put you in a mood for more!

From a mans point of view, fantasy's provide a good distraction to prevent premature ejaculation...the sad but true is if you are in the middle of making hot love to your woman and she just feels SOOO good, sometimes that rush in your penis starts to come a little to soon...so you do all the dumb things people have said - count down from 100, picture all the unattractive people you know, think about work...well, one thing that works for me is to slow it down in my head (because who wants to think about work during sex?)...especially if I'm stroking it right (because when you are hitting the spot, there is no changing strokes)...maybe think about another time we made love, but just the before part (undressing, kissing) - instead of the hot and heavy thrusting...