Met--again now you're kinda getting the picture here. It's one more aspect in that "selfishness" area of our lives. (and yes he's been violent--breaking and punching things) Bipolar people are know for being sexually adventurous--which scares me--but the self esteem issues I have most likely wouldnt be there had I not been with this kind of person for so long. My Dad was an alcoholic and abusive to my mom. I know I am tougher/stronger than her but I have these ****** issues. I just want a loving, fulfilling relationship which to nurture and show my girls what life can bring.