Thread: Did he cheat or Not

First off - yes to both questions.

But my bigger issue is how the **** did she pull his pants down while driving? It simply can't be done without the drivers participation...he at least had to pick his butt up a bit to get the pants off...

your husband is full of it...

Oh yeah, i'd say most definatley yes to both, sorry hun, that sucks!!

I had a very important meeting at eleven
and had to see a client before then so
considering logistics, we'd meet at a
particular restaurant at nine thirty am
which would give me over an hour, as
the important meeting was not seven
minutes riding from the restaurant.

I had just sat down when in walked
two collegues; both dressed rather
casually.

They saw me and blanched, and because
I was looking directly at them, we greeted.

I turned then to the file, discussed the
matter with my client, noticed the two
in harsh whispers, and remembered both
of them were married to other people.

I had no time for reflection, I had to get
through with this matter and hasten to
the other.

I left about ten fifty, reached the other
meeting and didn't leave until three o'clock.
I went home and didn't speak to anyone
about them.

I don't know what the couple told their
respective spouses. I can assume they
lied at first, because they expected
me to tell someone who would tell someone
how I'd seen them having breakfast at
such a place.

Subsequently they separated from their
spouses.

When I read this fabulous car story immediately
my mind went to that breakfast meeting.
No doubt someone saw them and they concocted
this story...

By the way...I hate to say this, but if your husband is having sex in his car with some random chick...this CAN'T be the 1st time he's cheated.

Trust me, there is a way for her to give him oral while he is driving! If not, he would have found a way for it to work. And if he let her do it, then YES I would say he is cheating. I doubt that he just dropped her off at her house. I would guess that he went in with her.

As I tried to infer in my previous post, something was going on
for a while. Because someone saw something and the belief was
that the spy would report to the spouse, certain 'revelations'
were made.

When you tell the story you get a certain 'power' over the facts.
You leave out what you wish, twist what can be twisted so
that when the spy tells the spouse, she is supposed to say;

"My husband already told me!"

This is a long term relationship. It's not the first time
he's had sex with her, and has probably come from
having sex with her, when they were driving and
she went down on him just as they passed someone
the wife knows.

So here's the wife's sister, cousin, best friend, brother,
uncle, standing there, and here's Deep Throat giving
hubby a washoff at the Red Light.

"Hey, my wife's...(fill in blank)... we've been seen!"

"Tell her I went down on you to your shock...she's
an idiot. We've been screwing up and down the state
for months and she never suspected a thing...tell
her it's my fault."

who even thinks this post is for real? the OP never commented back...wonder what she thinks of all our comments? or what happened with hubby?

my two cents are that i agree with everyone else. if she wanted to do that to him, he would have to let her right? i mean physically he would have to be, ahem, "interested" enough to let her get her hands on him....

maybe TMI, but i've done this with my husband plenty of times and the location never stopped us

A lot of posts are 'what if' where one wishes to solicit
information. Whether or not the actual incident happened
as was posted the fact that the core issue is worthy of
discussion.

As I mentioned before, very often the 'revelation'
comes out because the husband thinks some one
else is about to tell the wife so repackages his affair.

For example,

Secretary was always calling boss, and one day
wife, sarcastically, amused, mentioned; "Your
other wife is on the line."

Husband turned nine colours and took the phone
from her and his voice was shaky and he was curt
and "I'll talk to you tomorrow..." hung up and stared
at wife, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Wife was catatonic. She never ever thought that
something was going on between her husband and
his secretary.

Now she realised it.

Husband chokes out..."You have to understand..."

Wife continued to stare, silent, telling herself...
(I can't believe this...I can't believe this)

When she came to my office she was totally
shocked by the fact that for years the affair
was going on, and she was completely blind
and deaf to it.

Hello Everyone!
Thanks for everyone who confirmed my thoughts especially to commonsense, chocochip1 and metboogie... I ask the question because although we talk about it and forgive him, I'm still hurting very much.

I have done this with my husband however, This is definatly cheating in your circumstance. I Don't think he is telling you the whole story of what happened. It's not like she could just get his penis out and start sucking on it in less then 1 sec. That is all it would have taken him to slap the ***** and tell her no.