Thread: Need help

Ok, I know I am not the only one out there that does not like performing oral sex. That has never been my forte! I will be married 10 years and from jump street my husband has always done that to me and he has asked me to do him....and has stopped asking because I DON'T like it. He still continues to do me and I have told him he doesn't have to since I don't do him, but he says he does it because he enjoys it and he likes to see me enjoy it. I have tried and have gagged, thrown up, look at it (and it's not ugly) and get nauseas. I have brought self help books...like how to tickle his pickle, but I still have difficulties. What can I do? I REALLY want to please him in every way.

Have you tried using your hands and tongue without putting it in your mouth? Maybe you can work up to it that way.

Some women have a really sensitive gag reflex and just can't do oral sex. Period.
But there are toys that simulate it. I hear that some of them are pretty good! So, if it's really important to you that he gets that sensation, look at some toys like that ... I think the one I had heard of was called "Magic Lips," but I don't know ... and then spring it on him while he's blindfolded or something as a surprise ....
Christmas is coming, you know ;D

I'm not sure if this would help, but I've seen products online that help women deep throat....they kinda numb the back of your throat and stop your gag reflex. I've heard that the chloraseptic spray you use for sore throats may work because it does a great job of numbing anything you spray it on. I've never tried them before, but I've read reviews that said a lot of women found the products useful and stopped their gag reflex temporarily.

Good luck!

Thanks for the advice...I will look into the toys, because yes christmas is coming! As far as the gagging, he doesn't grab my head...I think it's just me. The moment I get my mouth round it I start gagging like eck!!!! I want to get past that, but I think it might be I have a sensitive gag reflex. I a going to look into the numbing stuff too and see if that will work. Will let ya'll know!!!!!

Choco - quick question...

Do you have the same reflex when you brush your teeth?

I ask because my wife has a pretty sensitive gag reflex as well (so there is no deep throating)...but she is still able to perform oral, and a lot of it has to do with breathing and controlling your tongue.

Yes, I do gag when brushing my teeth if I feel the tooth brush is too far back. But I think mine is a combo of gagging and mentally not wanting....but ONLY wanting too to please my husband....which I am trying to get past my mentalness so I can please him....but I don't know how too!!!! Ugh!!!! It is fustrating....for me and for him.

Just throwing some dumb ideas out there -

- If it's the sight of the penis near your mouth, try a blindfold...
- If it's the taste, try an edible oil...

Mostly, relax...you aren't curing cancer...if need be, speak to a mental health professional...something else - at this point it doesn't seem like there is much fun in this for either of you anymore...try bringing the fun back into it...maybe try doing it in the car, or a public bathroom (so you won't be thinking about the penis as much as getting caught)...

Good Luck...

I'm not sure you should be quite so worried about this. We have the problem that, girth-wise, I am rather large and my dear wife is only a tiny thing so while she still has teeth oral is just not possible :-) Perhaps you should consider what else you might do that would really please him - lets face it there are a whole load of interesting things to try! (In our case my wife pegs me regularly which I find fantastic - a compensation, if any were needed, for the things she can't do)