Thread: Vanilla or Kink?

Kinky sex is fun as it adds a different slant to what you're doing, but it can't be a substitute for the passion that is required to make sex amazing. I've done some kinky things in the past, ie a long term BDSM relationship, which truth be told is more about the bottom than the top... in fact, it's a little selfish that way because you're having things DONE TO YOU.

Restraints -- whether they're silk scarves or leather cuffs -- are all about letting go and being deeper in the moment.

I wouldn't necessarily consider using sex toys as being kinky, probably depends on the toy. A double headed dildo for dual anal play... that's kinky! But using a dildo in itself, isn't (now on a strap-on... yes, that's kinky). It's too common play for women who need to get off at various time during the day and can't get at their man.

With my fiancee the sex is fairly vanilla, 69 occasionally and doggie when we know we have time for a second, 'cause i reach orgasm really quickly in that position, so I want to be able to go again for her BUT overall it's amazing, it leaves us both in extreme euphoric states -- easily some of the BEST sex we've both had. I know it has everything to do with our connection with each other, the love and passion that we feel for each other and the desire to please the other and please ourselves.

Delving into the kinky side of things is something we've both talked about from time to time and well probably get more into exploring our fantasies when we more out of the shared apartment that we're living in. Hard to let it all lose when roommates can over hear.

Does Tantric Sex fall into the kinky category?

Originally Posted by BandofGypsies

Does Tantric Sex fall into the kinky category?

From what I've read, and that's very little on it, I would have to say it does not fall into the kinky category. It does however seem to peak my interest and I would like to investigate more about the connection that is claimed to be achieved between the partners involved.

I have to say I am fairly basic. However like alot of others. I have my moments that I think I could just have wild jungle sex. I am never opposed to trying new things with my husband, But I enjoy every loving encounter. Vanilla or Kink.

I chose kinky, only because vanilla is to me missionary, and everything up from that is kinky without any other choices...

i would also have to pick kinky. we like to mix things up once in a while with toys and outfits and stuff like that, even though we do have a routine, its nice to break out even if its once and a while.

I think the biggest opinion here is that we all have our normal days and our kinky days
They are both fun and can both make us happy!
Yay for getting some at all te he