Thread: is it normal to just...

want to see an ex only to have sex? i mean im starting to dig a friend who i've been talking to lately.. but i find myself wanting to see my ex.. i really havent been with anyone since the beginning of November.. with an ex-friend.. but now i just find myself wanting the ex.. should i tell him since he's still single and not looking for a relationship.. as im not either?? please any advice would help.. please and thank you!

just be careful...sex (especially with an ex) usually develops into more...

If you can both keep emotion out of it, sure... and if you both want to get back together and that ends up happening, great. Its hard though, especially if one of you ends up meeting someone that makes you want to end the sexual relationship. It can seem like a break-up, even when its not, and even the friendship could end at that point.

but better then a one night stand I guess. I guess if you are horny and your hand/toy can satisfy, and for me my hand or toys can not replace my BF's ****.

Have you spoken to this ex about this? I am pretty sure he would jump all over this, what guy wouldn't. Sex no strings attached!

Originally Posted by iLOVEcrayons

want to see an ex only to have sex? i mean im starting to dig a friend who i've been talking to lately.. but i find myself wanting to see my ex.. i really havent been with anyone since the beginning of November.. with an ex-friend.. but now i just find myself wanting the ex.. should i tell him since he's still single and not looking for a relationship.. as im not either?? please any advice would help.. please and thank you!

You're experiencing what's known as the "soul tie" syndrome. It's when you were very emotionally and sexually involve with someone and you still have longings for them. You can tell yourself it's just for sex, but it rarely works out like that way for women. Don't take this leap unless you are ready for the emotional roller coaster ride.

You don't miss him, the hottest part of you as a woman does. What is between your legs will never go away. It will hunger as your body does for food. Only the sexual want of a woman is much worse. It pulsates with want.

Before you take this step think it over carefully. Why did you part? Do you want to go through the emotional you were in before? What will happen the next time you are in heat? If you do not love him then two people are using each other as f*** buddies. Is this what you want?

If you still love him and think that there is a chance to make this work then go for it. If you need it that bad, which I have no doubt you do as I, too, am a woman, be careful. You speak of another man that you have interest in. It is not easy or fair to yourself to be torn between two lovers. It is possible that despite this not being planned, it could happen.

As a guy I'd say that men can not take sex seriously... But I think if you found your way into his arms again you'd start to feel comfortable, to be hurt again when he moves on...

thanks for repling! i very much appreciate it! all the replies have sort of the same answer if you read between the lines.. "thinka bout it before i jump ahead".. and thats exactly what im going to do.. and if i need to then ill talk to him about it.. but i should say.. its hard for me to find someone i can trust with my body.. ive been threw some very horrible things.. and with my ex.. i trust him because he was with me when i was going threw it all.. anyways thanks for the replies!

Originally Posted by iLOVEcrayons

thanks for repling! i very much appreciate it! all the replies have sort of the same answer if you read between the lines.. "thinka bout it before i jump ahead".. and thats exactly what im going to do.. and if i need to then ill talk to him about it.. but i should say.. its hard for me to find someone i can trust with my body.. ive been threw some very horrible things.. and with my ex.. i trust him because he was with me when i was going threw it all.. anyways thanks for the replies!

Best of luck - it soundsl like a bit of an unhealthy dependance though, and one in which he has all the power.