Thread: Is my boyfriend bi or gay? help

well here is how it start.
Me and my boyfriend have been play with sex toy and he loves it when l use them on him, for anal play.
So l asked him has he ever wanted to do it for real with a guy.
He said that he would but it would be a once off thing just something to try different and only if l was there. He said he wouldn't see himself be in a relationship with a guy or have feelings for one but just to see what it is like to do it with a guy.
l know that some people think about what it would be like having sex with the same sex.
But wanting to try it would this make you gay or bi?
And if so can anyone relate to this having a boyfriend who is bi?

I'm a guy...

I don't have the anti-gay thing instilled by religion or society so much (although I hate camp people). It is something where if I felt comfortable with the situation I might try, out of curiosity (although I don't think I could kiss a guy, that's too emotional)... I suppose that would make me bi? Whenever I'm walking down the street it's girls legs and bums I check out, not men. I don't find men attractive. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man...

A lot of women seem to like to judge their guys on stuff like this, but most women are bi. It's just that we've had society putting people in jail for it (and even further back killing), so we're a bit morally stunted in that area (thank you christianity).

When you look at the sexually "free" societies such as ancient greece, anything goes. Because you might want to try something a bit "out there" doesn't mean that you don't want to settle down with the woman of your dreams and raise a family.

I don't think it necessarily says he's bi or gay. I think it is a perfectly natural thing for people to wonder what it is like to be with someone of the same sex and to even be curious to the point of maybe trying it once just to appease the curiousity.

Thinking it and wanting to do it are two different things.........That is the line that cannot be crossed......

Cannot be crossed? Says who, god?

Also, is it a line that women can cross and men cannot?

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

Also, is it a line that women can cross and men cannot?

The line is the same for each. When you want sexual relations with the opposite sex and have them, you have crossed the line Thinking them is just that. Thinking them. It is called FANTASY.....

Are you talking about when you're in a relationship, as it would be cheating? Or are you simply saying that same-gender sex is morally vile/abhorant or whatever?

What is this line that you speak of? Who created it? Who believes in it? Why should anyone believe in it?

Anon: We did not go to the same school of life nor live on the same street. You make your own rules and break them as you choose. I learned my rules early in life and govern my life by them. Believe me I am so far from being a prude that I cannot even say the word.

We are different............

I appreciate that we are different. Differences are everywhere and that's a great thing. However, 'difference' is often used as an excuse to mask intolerant/wrong behaviours. When a 15 year old Sunni girl gets stoned to death for falling in love with a boy of the wrong religious faction, we can just say - that's the way it is, their belief structure is different from ours, and who are we to judge them.

When you walk into a thread about bisexuality and state like gospel that it "cannot be done", then you are asking for a response questioning your intolerant views.

Thing is, I can see that your moral learning was done in a time period which was still rigerously prejudiced, so I can't blame you for inheriting that. Homophobia stands next to racism, in my opinion.