Thread: orgasm or not?

i read somewhere it takes on average 45 mins for a woman to reach climax. Either when alone or with my boyfriend, i reach this 'state' after only about 10-20 mins. its incredible, but also unbearable.
i think in other forums ive posted, but never really found the help i want.
I get this over whelming urge to pee, my legs tremble, then my vagina contracts in pulses and feels intense. then my toes and legs tense so much i have to stop!!!!
its unbearable!!!
my partner wants me to carry on, and i can obviously push myself further, as im incredibly sensitve after touchin myself!
i dnt know how to relax my legs! over the past three years ive hoped that as i get more usued to experiencing this feeling the next stage will just happen naturally. but i dnt seem to be progressing. im not unhappy by any means with the sensations i do get.. but just wondering how i can move it on...
ive tried being totally relaxed, home alone.. and spent ages building myself up.... but with no more luck.
are some women just simply not able to cum?

It sure sounds like you are but what I don't understand is the "unbearable" part. Do you mean painful? Could you be more specific.
It almost sounds like you are not quite getting to the peak, then I could understand unbearable. Do you ever feel the release?

sounds to me you do have an orgasm. i'm one of those also after i reach orgasm i can not go on. it is just to sensitive. the urge to pee i feel is from the intense orgasm i have. i have never been able to have multiple orgasms. i just have one great big one. most of the time i climax in 10 to 20 minutes after oral sex or manual stimulation. i find it very hard to orgasm from just intercourse alone. in my opinion from what you are describing is that you are acheiving orgasm. sorry i don't have an answere about carrying on afterwards. i can't but i know if i rest a bit after then i'm not so sensitive to the touch and can carry on after that. i guess you can say i'm kind of like a guy in that sense. once i cum i'm done!!!!! oh well..... good luck to you.

Being a man, I can tell you that I've made different women orgasm and everything you described sounds like you just did. I am assuming that the unbearable part is the urge to pee - my suggestion is try it in the bathtub and take it as far as you can go and see what happens. It's unlikely you will actually pee - you may release fluid, but it probably won't be pee. I think you know there is more to come so you don't think you are having an orgasm when in reality you are - you're just cutting it short.

Let me know if this helps.

My last piece of advice is to consult your ob/gyn. It may be embarassing, but that's what they are there for.

when i say unbearable its in a nice way!! but its like i cant go on!!!! its like.... so nice i have to stop. like i said.. im happy to just keep achieving this.. iam far from bored from it. but my boyfriend thinks am stopping to early.. and that i should be cuming.
am i just orgasm-ing with out cuming?

not all women are able to have an ejaculate that actually comes out like a mans does. i personally don't have a liquid that will squirt out persay but i do definatly get wetter when i orgasm. i was under the impression that when you orgasm thats the same as cumming. maybe i'm wrong though.

Your BF is an idiot.

While some women can ejaculate fluid like a man, not all women do. And it's not semen that women excrete - only men have that.

Tell him to stop watching so much porn...

your hilarious met!!!! well angela maybe your boyfriend just expects you to do something your not capable of doing. just be honest and tell him straight out you just can't go on. your not a machine your only human and every womans body and how it responds to sexual pleasure is very different. there are lots of variables here. just because he can go on does not mean you should be able to acheive the same thing.

Originally Posted by angela4770

when i say unbearable its in a nice way!! but its like i cant go on!!!! its like.... so nice i have to stop. like i said.. im happy to just keep achieving this.. iam far from bored from it. but my boyfriend thinks am stopping to early.. and that i should be cuming.
am i just orgasm-ing with out cuming?

I think you can go on...You are reaching out but not finding it....I am assuming that he is giving you oral and eating you...Next time have him finger you at the same time he is licking you. Work with him and relax and give it to the passion as he tells you how beautiful you are inside....Spread wide for him and if you can when you get to this point raise both legs in the air and separate and give to that pee urge inside....Go with it. Give to him and get it out.....I think there is more to you than this but sometimes the inhibited part of a woman can get in the way......

Originally Posted by angela4770

i read somewhere it takes on average 45 mins for a woman to reach climax. Either when alone or with my boyfriend, i reach this 'state' after only about 10-20 mins. its incredible, but also unbearable.
i think in other forums ive posted, but never really found the help i want.
I get this over whelming urge to pee, my legs tremble, then my vagina contracts in pulses and feels intense. then my toes and legs tense so much i have to stop!!!!
its unbearable!!!
my partner wants me to carry on, and i can obviously push myself further, as im incredibly sensitve after touchin myself!
i dnt know how to relax my legs! over the past three years ive hoped that as i get more usued to experiencing this feeling the next stage will just happen naturally. but i dnt seem to be progressing. im not unhappy by any means with the sensations i do get.. but just wondering how i can move it on...
ive tried being totally relaxed, home alone.. and spent ages building myself up.... but with no more luck.
are some women just simply not able to cum?

I forgot to add be sure and pee before you have sex...That is real important....

That's happened to me to, Like this one time I my partner was going going down on me I had an orgasm and I just wanted to push his head away cause it was too much. And yes I had to pee too. After a break you could possibly go for it again but if its too much just chill and relax.