Thread: does any1 find anal sex painful

hey every1 i have a bit of a problem you see my boyfriend really likes giving me anal sex but he has a 9half inch penis and it really hurts me at first anyway and makes my skin tear but after a while i really like it and he makes me come but he wants to do it a lot but i cant really take it any ideas on what i could do to make it less painful? thx

1st - kudos to you for taking a 9.5" penis in the butt - any logical person would tell you that's gonna hurt.

2nd - anyone who knows anything about anal sex knows you should ease into it, and use tons of lube. So since you seem to like it and are willing to meet his desire for it - you need to have a couple of ground rules.
1 - He should never just go right for anal - your body juices should be flowing from foreplay first.
2 - You shouldn't put his penis in first - start with a finger, tongue, toy - whatever - as long as it's smaller than his 9.5" schlong.
3 - You CAN stretch the anus by using butt plugs. Basically, you put in a butt plug and leave it there for a couple hours at a time. Start with a small one, than graduate to larger ones as your anus stretches. This will likely be a permanent thing - so unless you plan on having anal sex this often forever you may want to think long and hard about this option.

Let me know how it goes...

thx 4 reply dont think i will be using the butt plug tho lol but will try everythin else thx

Um, sounds like we are in the same boat... My hubby is 10 inches, and it wasn't until recently that we tried anal sex... Let me say, OUCH. I tore, even while using lube. If you go to sex shops or even if you have a "Pure Romance" seller in your area, they sell a lube that desensetises you, you feel the action, but not the penatration... I tried it and now we are having fun with it.... (Here's a little hint, if you're on your side, it is a little less painful...)

I'd be careful with things that desensitize - pain warns you that something isn't right.

Anal seems to work for some women, not others.

Originally Posted by J3nnyuk

hey every1 i have a bit of a problem you see my boyfriend really likes giving me anal sex but he has a 9half inch penis and it really hurts me at first anyway and makes my skin tear but after a while i really like it and he makes me come but he wants to do it a lot but i cant really take it any ideas on what i could do to make it less painful? thx

If you want to do it and you enjoy it, then go for it. But what does concern me is that you are in pain and your boyfriend insists on doing it.

Hi sourpuss, he loves doing it because he said it feels different and also it only hurts me at the start but once it is in and he starts doing it i actually quite like it, its just getting used to the size of his thing in there

My bf has a very large package as well, and we have toy'd around with the whole anal sex thing. It hurt so bad that i was almost to tears. The thing that i dont understand is that we start off using a finger, then a small toy, then bigger toy and then bigger then the real deal....and still it hurts badly. We also are using alot of lube. What are we doing wrong? I know that this is something that my bf wants and im starting to feel bad beacuse I cant give him what he wants. I can only handle the pain for so long. I want to do this and it excites me, but i cant seem to figure this whole anal thing out.

Sometimes it's not meant to happen...don't be upset, and definitely don't force it. He should be happy your willing to try...

One thing you may want to try is having vaginal sex first...it tends to relax your muscles in that area.

Originally Posted by metboogie

Sometimes it's not meant to happen...don't be upset, and definitely don't force it. He should be happy your willing to try...

I agree metboogie here, it's not for everyone.

If this is something YOU want to do and are interested in that's one thing, but if you're not that's another. You shouldn't have to do anything you don't want to do especially if it's painful.

Originally Posted by metboogie

One thing you may want to try is having vaginal sex first...it tends to relax your muscles in that area.

Do make sure that once he goes anal he doesn't go back to vaginal (without cleaning himself) as it is possible to cause infections.