Thread: Multiple Sex Partners?

Well, it ain't my cup of tea either! I'm happy to be with just one man myself. But if people aren't getting hurt, and proper precautions are being taken, then I don't see why people shouldn't have as many partners as they wish.

I think most people here have had multiple partners over a period of time - not necessarily all at the same time....although I'm sure some here do have multiple partners going all at once - but most people would call that dating.

Originally Posted by lauralight

I'm trying to understand others. So many people seem to have multiple sex partners, or am I just misreading how many people seem to be doing this? I find it gross, and dangerous, etc...

Laura

Originally Posted by lauralight

I'm considering dating women just to see how it feels. I'm all ready divorced once from a guy, and I've found a couple of women extremely appealing? I don't seehow it could hurt anyone if I'm up-front with the women.

Originally Posted by lauralight

Also known as no strings attached sex. I'm considering it, I'm confused..I'm not young, exactly at 35, but know I'm very attractive, and love a guy whom has moved on, and I'm very physically lonely.
Just wondering if anyone can talk to me about this? I have had an STD before, so I'm sooooo afraid of that again, but I'm very missing sex and that sort of enjoyment in my life(after about a year now). I know I could make a deal with a guy, like we're exclusive lovers, even if there's nothing else between us. I just abhorr bed-hopping. See my quandry?

Laura

Sex is fun. Some would consider sex with more people to just be more varieties of fun. There is risk - but lots of fun things involve risk: skiing , mountain climbing, parachuting, etc, etc.

So, it doesn't surprise me.

Sex is kinda like mountain climbing, skiing and parachuting all at once without travelling that far.Or with a whole lot of gear.

i would imagine that, after your divorce, you feel alone, bitter, angry, sad - maybe not in that order. probably the apparent contradictions above stem from that.

you have a solid understanding of what you believe is OK, what is safe & responsible.

but sometimes you wonder if stepping outside that might make you a little happier? not trying to put words in your mouth.

my advice is to see the temptation to pursue casual sex with different guys - as fleeting. you won't feel that way forever, and any decisions you make today that fly in the face of what you know (beneath your immediate loneliness & pain) to be right for you could haunt you later.

and the pleasure it brings you now will be short-lived. any heartache you bring on yourself chasing those temporal pleasures could be with you for a lifetime.

it's not easy. maybe not popular. you don't have to be a prude or a nun. i'm not deciding for you what is OK sexually.

i'm just encouraging you not to ignore what YOU think is OK sexually. and don't let a broken, hurting mind trick you into doing something you'll regret.

you will heal & you will wonder why you didn't take better care of yourself when you needed it most.

I have had multiple partners over time and the one time when I had multiple partners during the same stretch of time it was with two men I knew really well and trusted. We used condoms and I was on bc at the time.
I was attracted to the idea of two different people because they both offered very different variations of sex...I guess it was kind of a rush not just having the regular "we're dating" sex. (I wasn't dating either of the men at the time or anyone else)

I don't know if age has anything to do with it but I know that when I was just starting college (18/19 yo) I was much more into sleeping with a couple guys then dating one.

Its all about sowing your wild oats.