Thread: he talks dirty at bed

I think fantasies are one thing (with a purpose) and what we would want to do in real life is another. That's why it's called a fantasy! My bf has certain fantasies that would not physically be possible. I have fantasies about him receiving anal from another man but in real life, I would like want that to happen. I think fantasies are just that ... fantasies and not necessarily indicative of something we would want in real life.

record your sex on a video tape and show it to him.
then he will be satisfied and he will not repeat those dirty fantasies again.

Originally Posted by swordiano

record your sex on a video tape and show it to him.
then he will be satisfied and he will not repeat those dirty fantasies again.

hahaha, that would be amusing.

As for me, I'm not much of a dirty talker. I just personally cannot take it seriously. One guy tried it real hard on me one time, and I just kept quiet, which he hated. "What? you don't like to talk dirty?" It totally killed the mood, but I wasn't really into it after he started talking that way anyway. That's just me personally.
I see sex as a zesty physical occurance, and I like to concentrate on what I am feeling emotionally and physically, and for all I care I could forget what the english language even was. That's just me.

If your not into it, ask him if he can at least meat you in a middle ground and tone it down to a level you can tolerate and perhaps learn to like. Who knows!

ok, I totally just spelled meet meat. Sorry.

Originally Posted by landare

He talks me about wanting to have sex with other people, and that he imagines me with other men and women, and that he wants me to have sex with another man and to tell him.

It may be for fantasy humiliation (on his or your part),but having a mild cuckold/hotwife fantasy isn't uncommon. It may also just be a passing phase inspired by friends/porn/movies and next week he'll want you to dress-up in a rubber nurses uniform.

Do you think I should worry?

I wouldn't.