Thread: meaning of wife watching erotica on tv

I think more women like to watch and read erotic material than has been reported. The "experts" are so often wrong these days.

There needs to be more research done and we baby boomers are just waiting to be be asked!

I like watching porn and reading erotic stories but I am single now. During my marriage my husband was the shy and inhibited one. Who knew? I had to go along with what he wanted and that included sex less than 6 times a year. What a dud.

Breaking free? You bet.

Grow, change or die. It's that simple.

Both of these women are reflecting everything that I feel. I have watched Porn. My husband is not into it BUT when I want to watch it he puts it on for me when he goes to bed. I love it for it's content and the woman in me does get turned on by seeing other women. I know I am more of a wild woman after turning into this new me and I love it. The poster above said it all when she said they act like "newlyweds". So are we and I wonder why did I stay hidden all these years. It is a joke after all these years but I am more of a woman sexually and hotter than I have ever been in my life. I feel I am what every woman can be but you have to find that place in your mind that is dying to break free and crack the shell that binds you. Don't waste all these precious years like I did.

I would encourage any woman that is watching Porn to be themselves. Share with your partner that hot and erotic sexual woman that they are keeping hidden. Talk dirty. Dirty words are part of sex. They are good when used to turn yourself and your partner on. Turn yourself into his Porn Queen and show him what a lucky man he is. The first time I raised my legs to the ceiling in Orlando I chocked with fright..Should I and could I.....But I did and I spread as wide as I could for my husband and watched his face as he dove in.........And I have never looked back...........

Caroline is so right about the dirty talk. My husband is not comfortable swearing. We are very conservative people. But I have gotten him to start to talking dirty to me and it is such a turn on. I have been secretly talking dirty in my head during our love sessions for many years because I could never get him to talk dirty to me. We have starting the dirty talk and it turns him on too now. I love it when he talks dirty to me. I also get very wet and ready for whatever. I also wasted a lot of years being unhappy and unsatisfied. But thanks to porn my libido woke up and we are happier then we have been in many years. I hope all this made sense.

Macybelle, would you prefer your husband to watch soft porn with you? Or do you think it's better to watch it alone?

I'm just trying to decide if I should turn soft porn on when wife and I are together. I know she likes watching it. I would say she is uncomfortable watching it with me, so not sure what her reaction would be. Or perhaps she's not sure what my reaction would be? so she only watches it when she's alone.

I honestly most times I like to watch it alone. As I feel very self consciences when we watch it together. We bought movies and watched them together and had some great sex doing it. Have you thought of renting a movie and putting it on and asking her if she would like to watch a movie with you? It's hard to give advice on this subject because 4 months ago I would have been angry with my husband if he had brought the subject up. I have a completely diferent mind set now. Ask her if she would rather watch it alone. Does she know that you know she watches it? All you can do is ask and she says no then give her her space but don't give up. It many happen someday. I hope this helps.

She does NOT know that I know that she's watching it.

Our sex life is great, and it is fine with me that she is watching it.

I am just wondering if I'd be better off leaving this one alone and let her watch it alone? I wonder if she would feel that I might be mentally comparing her to those in the film? Possibly?

I could turn the tv to erotica or soft porn, and see her reaction. We have never watched or rented any movies of this kind together. We just haven't talked about or done this. Perhaps it is an embarrassment on both our parts.

But our sex together is awesome. We use toys frequently, and when we do, she uses them to get herself just about to orgasm, while I usually am touching, caressing, or nibbling on her body. She knows where it needs to be to get her to that point.

We've never talked dirty. But I am interested in it if this would help her sexually. I'm not sure how I would even start with that one.

You might try movies that aren't specifically "porn", but have a lot of erotic content and see how she reacts.

Originally Posted by macybelle

I honestly most times I like to watch it alone. As I feel very self consciences when we watch it together. We bought movies and watched them together and had some great sex doing it. Have you thought of renting a movie and putting it on and asking her if she would like to watch a movie with you? It's hard to give advice on this subject because 4 months ago I would have been angry with my husband if he had brought the subject up. I have a completely diferent mind set now. Ask her if she would rather watch it alone. Does she know that you know she watches it? All you can do is ask and she says no then give her her space but don't give up. It many happen someday. I hope this helps.

What you are reflecting in your answer is what many if not most women feel. They are turned on watching this and still have not broken through that invisible barrier with their husband watching them. I know the last movie we watched with Jenna Jameson had me moving in circles on the sofa across from him. As the exposure between the women grew, I grew in sexual want. It just happened. I believe this is a part of every woman but we deny it. How often do we see what our sexual parts look like and seeing them we are turned on ourselves. It is the animal in all of us but it is good. It makes us ready for the copulation (fooled you on that one didn't I) of man invading us and if this is vehicle to achieve it, then go with it.

My husband sensed this and truthfully he did not like it. I could tell this so I choose if I want to watch it again, I will watch it by myself. If he cares to join me then this is great too but I will not deny myself the pleasure if I care to watch it.... I have no doubt that my sexual urges and desires are much higher than his and much higher than his will ever be again. I am a woman and as I have aged I have gone to a new place in time that I have never known before. And I just love it....And may I add many other women are coming out of the walls too and admitting this....This is the reason that I post....

I think Cory's idea is a great one without intruding on her private time watching porn. I also don't think you should let her know that you know she watches it. Let her have her little secret. My husband bought me a laptop so I could watch porn while we are in bed together. Most of the time I don't because in my mind I think well if I watch this will he think I'm weird. I still haven't been able to break free of that feeling that he will think I am weird and I still feel very strange doing that in front of him. Will I ever be free of theses feeling? I have no idea. Good luck!

I think she just wants to keep it private. Late evening when watching tv together, she'll quickly pass over any of the erotic shows that may be on (like cinemax).

However, when I'm not in the room she'll jump to those channels.

When we were together watching tv, I asked her to change to a particular channel (an adult show), which she did, but then she quickly changed back to something else.

I'm confused. Why won't she watch these shows with me?