Thread: Anal sex- can any help?

I have done anal sex with my wife twice only during her period.
which was no problem the 1st time and she enjoyed it.
But the second time was horrible, because I insisted on doing it after the 1st time by on day only. which was painful to her.
she cried and we had a fight about it.
and since that time it was like a bad memory to both of us.
Do you have any idea how can I convince her into doing it again to remove the bad memories between us.

Well it sounds to me like you know what you did wrong - you made her do something she was uncomfortable doing, and it caused her physical pain. But the first time, she enjoyed it. So maybe explaining how sorry you are, how you would never want to hurt her emotionally OR physically (I am assuming you don't) would be a start. You can tell her that you'd like to try it again sometime. But when she is ready to do it, she can let you know and you won't mention it until then. And when you're doing it, let her instruct you - it is very different than vaginal sex and needs to be taken one small step at a time.

She may be more receptive to that, to being the one who makes the decision. I think that's how I would feel if I were her.

Anal sex is something that not all women like. I have done it for my husband but it's not at all enjoyable to me. It feels like having a bowel movement and that's just not a feeling I associate with sex.I don't think that men really understand this. It can make you very sore if you don't do it often. It's possible that your wife will be receptive to it again, but then again she might not. One day after the first time was just too soon. There are a lot of other activities you two can do during her period. My husband dosen't care, we have sex anyway. If you are grossed out by the blood, do it in the shower. Maybe she can give you a bj instead. All in all, it's not worth fighting over. Tell her you're sorry and lick her head to toe as soon as you can! Good luck!

Thank you for your reply.
I would never do that to her if I knew it will make her feel uncomfortable. Actually, this is the main reason why I want to do it again, to make it up to her and to show her how I can make her enjoy it even better. But she wouldn't understand. She don't want discuss it at all even after I told her how sorry I was.

Don't press the issue - give time for her to get over the fight, and maybe wait for her to bring it up again.

Personally, I love anal sex but the emotional connection has to be there and be strong. Focus on connecting with her emotionally and getting her good and arroused. Then, let it be her idea.

Thank you all for the active discussion.
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now the question is:
Do you think she will bring it up?

it feels like she never want to talk about it ever.

I don't like anything to ruind our sexual activity.
I really like to get over it.

You basically raped your wife's behind. It was so traumatic for her that she cried. That is something serious. She might even need counseling to "fix this."
If a man took you from behind and it hurt so badly that you CRIED, would you ever want to do it again?
No. Not even to fix the relationship. I advise you to let it go, or else you may end up having to let your whole marriage go, let alone your sex life.