Here is the problem. My husband and I have been together many years. I am overweight, like 50 lbs. overweight. He is always begging me to get on top. I am embarassed to, even though I want to really bad, because of my weight and I am not really sure how to do it this way. I think it would be a huge turn on for us both because he loves me for me. I just don't want to be horrible at it. Any suggestions on techniques being a larger woman?

To be honest, there really isn't any diffrence... I am 70 lbs. overweight and I have no problems being on top. You may need to hold yourself up with your arms beside his head or shoulders, but that's about it. You could also try turning around so you are facing his feet. Since you have been together for so long, you ahould be comfortable with him, so all you can do is try.... Good luck

I think the best way to ride him is facing the front. When I first tried this I had a few extra pounds on me too and I am far from a bean pole now.....but happy....I have heard something once about reverse cowgirl and being careful of the fracture of the penis. Something about stretching it back too far..

I get on top of him and lean forward. That way I can make love to him. I am the one that can lean down and lick his lips and kiss him. I love bringing my breast's to him and dragging a nipple across his mouth. It keeps him hard by stimulating him this way. Talking dirty to a man in this postition can drive him wild. You can feel the hardness occurring as you talk. The movement inside you is awesome and if you feel you can bend back and put your hands on his legs and leave your breast's exposed it is one trip.....

I have found that leaning forward while doing this stimulates my clit and sure can get me off.....Just so many wonderful sexual things you can do and really weight does not mean a thing.........Have fun...Sex can be wild and magic

I've got my fair share of fat, and the "on top" position has been confusing for me ... it's something my boyfriend has had to be patient with as I "learned how" to do it. [It's a long distance relationship, so we don't get to have a lot of sex.]
I do feel a little self-conscious about my tummy, but otherwise it's just something I have had to "feel out" ... what feels good to me, what feels good to him ... like Caroline said, clitoris stimulation is a great plus to this position!
If you lift your hips up a bit, he can thrust with you on top, too, and I don't know if it's the angle on me or what, but that's one of my favourite positions

You might want to put a pillow under his knees. Mine bend backwards a bit when my wife rides me. Then get sore a couple of days later. Took me the longest time to find the connection - was getting near having knee surgery. (really).

There will likely be no physical barrier for your spouse. A man's hips can support a tremendous amount of weight when he is on his back (hundreds upon hundreds of pounds).

But regardless of weight DO NOT start bouncing up and down like its a pogo stick! That may look fun and flashy in pornography movies where all the men are hung like moose (or is that mooses...moosi?) but for those of us with more mainstream proportions (men like women who know flattering euphemisms for "average" even if they dont know it ) this could lead to some very painful moments! I suggest letting him do most of the thrust function while you operate in a side-to-side or circular motion.

Thank you, SinisterUrge! I didn't know that you weren't supposed to bounce ... I was wondering why I didn't feel anything when I did that ... oy with the porn movies teaching incorrect form.

Bouncing can work too. Basically do whatever feels nice to you, that will probably feel nice to him as well. Just like sex with him on top, sometimes slow is nice sometimes fast.