excitement issue

J3nnyuk · 02-06-2008, 01:18 PM

hey every1 am looking for some advice, sometimes when me and my bf start getting playful i seem to get too turned on if you know what i mean! i seem to get really wet and it can be a put off for him. i really want to try and tone it down a bit but i really like foreplay and don't want to give it up. it is just getting a bit much even f we kiss passionately that does it to, anyway i can try and stop getting too excited plz help thx

**Little** · 02-06-2008, 01:24 PM

Are you sure that you want to "tone it down?"
Why do you think it puts him off?
If I were you, I would not turn down that sex drive for anything. I assume you're not having sex yet, at least not with this guy, but when you do you'll be glad that you get wet easily.
Ask him why it bothers him. Don't let him cop out or say something like, "It's just too easy to turn you on." Maybe he's anxious about sex? Or thinks that's the only thing you want him for?
Only you can find out what is bothering him. Set his mind at ease, and go on being turned on by him.

**Celeste** · 02-06-2008, 08:21 PM

I totally agree with the above comment. I did this exact same thing when I was younger, and got self-concious about it too. Dont! Its a good thing! When you have sex regularly, plenty of natural lubrication is a blessing. My boyfriend tells me that it is a huge turn on that I lubricate so plentifully and quickly. He knows that it means I am turned on by him a lot. Your guy should see that too, point it out to him if he doesnt!

J3nnyuk · 02-07-2008, 01:25 PM

hey ladies thx for ure advice but i have not only just met him we have been going out for 4 years and we are engaged, the thing is he does like it sometimes when i am really wet but sometimes not because he says he cant feel it much thats why i want to tone it down a bit, i love the fact that he turns me on loads i just want him to feel like its gr8 as well

C · 02-07-2008, 01:37 PM

Just a bit of advice from an older married woman.....I feel the same way that you do even after many years....He puts his arms around me and I still get wet....but it is usually a sexual thing he is whispering to me that helps bring it on.....he still is a sex addict with me....But hold these wonderful feelings you have now and as you age keep pulling them forward and smile about these moments you are in now....these are the things that will keep this marriage hot and you this wonderful sexual juicy woman that you now enjoy......Don't ever forget to remember these days.....They will make many of your tomorrow's better....Much luck to both of you....Caroline

**Little** · 02-07-2008, 03:10 PM

I see what you mean now ... I am not sure if you can do anything in that case; except maybe make foreplay shorter before you have sex. We've had a few threads about "too much" lubrication on here.

C · 02-07-2008, 03:26 PM

You can't tone down your passion. It is what you are. I am like this all the time and the best I can say is maybe wipe yourself off a bit if I am getting what you are saying right. I am so wet that he can come up from eating me and be a mess but that is who I am and really it is a blessing rather than a curse. It not only lubricates you but it makes you feel sexual inside and want him more.

You just might be an ejaculating woman and you are doing some of this when you are in passion. This is very possible and just enjoy....The only thing I could think of is getting some glands cut out but I sure would not do that if I were you...

J3nnyuk · 02-08-2008, 03:39 PM

thank you so much for your feedback i will just enjoy it and take ure advice to wipe off if i get too wet thanks again j3nny x

**commonsense** · 02-09-2008, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by J3nnyuk

thank you so much for your feedback i will just enjoy it and take ure advice to wipe off if i get too wet thanks again j3nny x

Congratulations on your passion. Sound like it's right on.
What's going on with him is that you are so wet he can't feel your vaginal muscles. I would advise you to "rev" up on your kegal vaginal exercises to tighten the muscles. You should be able to grip him and it wan't matter that you are wet.

**SinisterUrge** · 02-10-2008, 02:50 PM

This is a problem for my wife too! While I consider it a huge turn-on during oral sex it can be a problem during intercourse ("I don't think you've got any tread left on the tires.").

The only solution so far has been shifting position slightly until you get better traction. I consider these things obstacles to overcome myself.

02-06-2008, 01:18 PM	#1
J3nnyuk Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: stockport Posts: 13	excitement issue hey every1 am looking for some advice, sometimes when me and my bf start getting playful i seem to get too turned on if you know what i mean! i seem to get really wet and it can be a put off for him. i really want to try and tone it down a bit but i really like foreplay and don't want to give it up. it is just getting a bit much even f we kiss passionately that does it to, anyway i can try and stop getting too excited plz help thx __________________ J3nny

02-07-2008, 01:25 PM	#4
J3nnyuk Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: stockport Posts: 13	re excitement issue hey ladies thx for ure advice but i have not only just met him we have been going out for 4 years and we are engaged, the thing is he does like it sometimes when i am really wet but sometimes not because he says he cant feel it much thats why i want to tone it down a bit, i love the fact that he turns me on loads i just want him to feel like its gr8 as well __________________ J3nny

02-08-2008, 03:39 PM	#8
J3nnyuk Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: stockport Posts: 13	reply thank you so much for your feedback i will just enjoy it and take ure advice to wipe off if i get too wet thanks again j3nny x __________________ J3nny

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02-06-2008, 01:24 PM	#2
Little WH Junior Administrator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: whjuniorad[at]hotmail[dot]com Posts: 1,559 Blog Entries: 4	Are you sure that you want to "tone it down?" Why do you think it puts him off? If I were you, I would not turn down that sex drive for anything. I assume you're not having sex yet, at least not with this guy, but when you do you'll be glad that you get wet easily. Ask him why it bothers him. Don't let him cop out or say something like, "It's just too easy to turn you on." Maybe he's anxious about sex? Or thinks that's the only thing you want him for? Only you can find out what is bothering him. Set his mind at ease, and go on being turned on by him.

02-06-2008, 08:21 PM	#3
Celeste VIP Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 56	I totally agree with the above comment. I did this exact same thing when I was younger, and got self-concious about it too. Dont! Its a good thing! When you have sex regularly, plenty of natural lubrication is a blessing. My boyfriend tells me that it is a huge turn on that I lubricate so plentifully and quickly. He knows that it means I am turned on by him a lot. Your guy should see that too, point it out to him if he doesnt!

02-07-2008, 01:37 PM	#5
C Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,002	Just a bit of advice from an older married woman.....I feel the same way that you do even after many years....He puts his arms around me and I still get wet....but it is usually a sexual thing he is whispering to me that helps bring it on.....he still is a sex addict with me....But hold these wonderful feelings you have now and as you age keep pulling them forward and smile about these moments you are in now....these are the things that will keep this marriage hot and you this wonderful sexual juicy woman that you now enjoy......Don't ever forget to remember these days.....They will make many of your tomorrow's better....Much luck to both of you....Caroline

02-07-2008, 03:10 PM	#6
Little WH Junior Administrator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: whjuniorad[at]hotmail[dot]com Posts: 1,559 Blog Entries: 4	I see what you mean now ... I am not sure if you can do anything in that case; except maybe make foreplay shorter before you have sex. We've had a few threads about "too much" lubrication on here.

02-07-2008, 03:26 PM	#7
C Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,002	You can't tone down your passion. It is what you are. I am like this all the time and the best I can say is maybe wipe yourself off a bit if I am getting what you are saying right. I am so wet that he can come up from eating me and be a mess but that is who I am and really it is a blessing rather than a curse. It not only lubricates you but it makes you feel sexual inside and want him more. You just might be an ejaculating woman and you are doing some of this when you are in passion. This is very possible and just enjoy....The only thing I could think of is getting some glands cut out but I sure would not do that if I were you...

02-10-2008, 02:50 PM	#10
SinisterUrge Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 423	This is a problem for my wife too! While I consider it a huge turn-on during oral sex it can be a problem during intercourse ("I don't think you've got any tread left on the tires."). The only solution so far has been shifting position slightly until you get better traction. I consider these things obstacles to overcome myself.