Thread: Need advise...caught husband masturbating....

I went through early male-menopause in my late thirties. It was diagnosed and treated with testosterone shots. This helped my drive, but I had a lot of trouble ejaculating during sex. This disappointed my wife but she was very orgasmic and I always made sure she got off as many times as she wanted. Still, I held my silent frustration of being highly aroused, watching her get off multiple times and finally getting tired of me 'pounding' her for 15 minutes. I would roll off and she would go to sleep. Later, I would get up and masturbate (this was also recommended by my urologist for prostate health especially after high arousal).
Once, she walked into the room (from behind me) and saw me go through the whole process start to finish - she stomped through the room to the bedroom and slammed the door. Obviously, a failure to communicate. As I was trying to explain the scientific reasons for my masturbation, I mistakenly commented that I had actually walked in on her masturbating several times but had graciously not mentioned it.
Anyway, the long and the short of it, is that my condition has remained but over several years of talking and explaining and most importantly convincing her through speech and action that she absolutely is the most beautiful woman I could ever want to be with, she accepts things as they are. It makes me want to be with her all the more, now that we basically take turns. She gets off with vibrators and my touch, I screw her to several more orgasms; then she strokes me until her arm gets tired and I masturbate to an incredible finish.
Food for thought, hope it helps. The key: talking, making him talk, no judging. If the rest of your relationship is ok, you can work this out.

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