Thread: help in the bedroom

I need some advice...any and all would be helpful.
My boyfriend works a construction job and works 10 hour shifts. I work 3 nights (until 9) a week and by the time I get home he's laying on the couch usually pretty lazy-like. I usually get ready for bed and go up and wait for him. He usually follows after shutting down the house. When we get up to bed we watch our usually nightly show and as soon as I try to get him to have sex he turns over and closes his eyes. I feel like he doesn't want to. In fact we usually only have sex about maybe once a week lately. I am 19 weeks pregnant so most of you know my sex drive is pretty high. He used to want sex all the time now he's too tired. I've tried going to bed earlier thinking he less likely be "tired" and it's not happening. I know for a fact he's not cheating on me (I've investigated thinking that could be by checking his cell phone calls and text messages and nothing.) I've asked him if he's seeing someone else (is he getting it elsewhere) Because he's a 23 year old man and he shouldn't be in a slump. I feel like he doesn't love me and that's my emotions, I've asked him if he still feels the same way about me, and he usually cuddles me and says he does so much but he's tired. I understand his job is hard work and he's working a lot, but why can't he take 30 minutes out of his day to give a little to me? What is going on?

Maybe he's having trouble coming to terms with you as a wife AND mother?
Some men really get off to pregnant women ... but if I were a man with a pregnant partner, I wouldn't want to think of poking my kid in the head O.o It's really a disturbing thought.
You'll either have to drag the reason out of him or live with doubts.

Like Little said this is a very special time for him too. He will be a first time Father and they really are not too sure how to act with a new Mother-To-Be. They do not know if you are fragile or if they will hurt you. So he is probably trying to help and give you a break by not bothering you.

At dinner or when you are sitting and talking, tell him how sexual you are. Tell him that you can have sex right up until near the time the baby is born. Thinking back, during this time for us was wonderful as we did not have to use any precautions and he must understand that the baby is still so far up in your abdomen that it would be difficult to harm it in any way.

I think a good talk would help a lot. It is all so new and learning but so very wonderful....Have fun and I envy you......So very much.....xox