Wanting more for Wife

**rebellee47** · 03-06-2008 07:57 AM

This is awkqward to discuss but here it goes:

For years now my wife of 24 years and I have had great sex. I introduced toys about 15 years ago. She has ALWAYS had massive orgasms when using them. She would insist sometimes she didnt want them but then would litterallytake them from my hand during the moment and go crazy using them until she exploded. About 6 months ago she decided she didnt want them anymore and we havent used them she has had orgasms but nothing like the ones when using the dildos. My ? is do you think she is tired of the NOT -Real ones? I have siggested a 3some with a very well hung male but she acts like she doesnt want to do that . Anyone experinced this before????

**rebellee47** · 03-06-2008 08:15 AM

Also let me add that i am not very well endowed and the Dildos were 8 - 10 in and she really seemed to enjoy but she also enjoys me!! . We have been totally faithful to each other for our whole marriage. Since stopping toy usage though our sex life is very plain jane, quick, and basically not fullfilling for me anyway. The toys didnt do anything for me other than make it last longer and I actually got a lot of plesure form her pleasure if that makes sense? Anyhow any advice will help...

C · 03-06-2008 06:00 PM

I have read a couple of your posts. One thing hit me in the face as it hit home...It was not on this thread but on another one that I happened to read. It said "if you lost 50-70 pounds your penis would probably be 4 1/2 inches" or words to that affect. Having a husband and knowing how the weight issue goes....70 pounds is the magic number.

You can go in circles about toys and 24 years married. Here we double the years + on you.....Your secret is in the food....Nothing tastes as good as being thin and especially sex....I know. Been there and done that...

Just about three years ago my husband was very close to being a diabetic. I sought out a nutritionist to find the right diet to help him with this affliction before it progressed any farther. Oh, and may I add he was 65 pounds too heavy. According to him 45..He shaved off 20....Deliberately...Just like a woman does... This was far from his football jock weight of long ago, but then aren't we all. I had watched his weight gain in the last few years. Retirement does this...Plus eating and the easy life so between she and I we started his low carbo diet....It was during this time that since seeing he was on Viagra and I had turned into a sexually wanting woman, that I decided to take him off of it. He had been getting headaches and so I put my own plan into operation. Lots of sucking off, playing with him, tucking him in bed with a hot sexy wife...Just hot stuff. Believe me nothing over bearing but bringing him around to what I used to be when we were younger. He started losing..Sexually we were wild...Soon we were having daily sex with tempting him and being able to insert him inside me. We could snuggle closer. Everything came together. He became wild and in this process with all the sex I was giving him and pulling him and sucking him he ended up with an added inch on his penis. This I can assure you of....He now weighs 205 pounds and is hung. Lord we do have fun.

Before he started losing the weight we were missionary. We were always great but nothing like it is now. Now I ride him all the time...I love sex with my legs over his shoulders. Doggy is a dream, even did some anal....I have got a stud back and just plain love it...Riding his tongue was wild and there are so many other positions we can do without those pounds. I can't tell you what my sexual change in myself and his weight have done to our sexual life. We even got some sex pillows. Threw them out after he fell off the bed....The best way I can put it is we are all our yesterday's only with some up to date new moves.

Now you can try and treat your wife to a threesome, which is kind of an insult to her, or you can lock the door of the refrigerator and learn to like vegetables. Learn to count your calories because honey, there is no magic button that can turn your wife on like having her man back minus those pounds. What you both can do is mind boggling and hot.

I hope I have not hurt your feelings as I would never do that to anyone, but if it is the secret to walking down that wonderful Yellow Brick Road to sexual heaven, I will just have to take the hit...

Please understand, what I say I say in genuine love for my fellowman and not to hurt....xox C

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-07-2008 01:10 AM

Originally Posted by rebellee47

This is awkqward to discuss but here it goes:

For years now my wife of 24 years and I have had great sex. I introduced toys about 15 years ago. She has ALWAYS had massive orgasms when using them. She would insist sometimes she didnt want them but then would litterallytake them from my hand during the moment and go crazy using them until she exploded. About 6 months ago she decided she didnt want them anymore and we havent used them she has had orgasms but nothing like the ones when using the dildos. My ? is do you think she is tired of the NOT -Real ones? I have siggested a 3some with a very well hung male but she acts like she doesnt want to do that . Anyone experinced this before????

Hi Lee, i am only new here and i wouldn't attempt to answer something that i don't believe i can contribute to assist. But you asked me on another post.

Firstly, i would say to you why would you ever, ever consider bringing in a third party unless you want that 24 years to end? When did you ask her that, 6 months ago?

Remember, it's not the size but how you use it. And, you can bring her to the "best" with other ways of making love to her.

I think, you felt you had that "edge", 15 years with a dildo, no nil, and like all of us, insecurity creeps in, we think there's something wrong, but there's not. We show it, it shows, no one knows what to say and the next thing, there's a problem.

So, if you have read mine, then you should read others, they are the experts, they have had a lot more experience than me and they are telling you the truth.

Start working in other directions, start working at what pleases her, you know the secret is that "women" not men, but "women" want a man to do everything, to her make her experience the world and then they give back.

Time to change direction that's all, but not, please, by introducing another man with a larger penis than you.

Re-read Caroline's specifically to what she refers to as things that they do, have done, and never did earlier.

It's your turn to really go there.........

That's my thoughts....

Best of luck.

K.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-08-2008 10:57 PM

I read your reply today, on those 100 points, that was a bit of fun but it was also perhaps an eye opener or could be for those who read how many times they said (no).

Like Caroline, i recalled reading that you were over weight and usually, that's depression but not always.

I read, lots and lots, of (no's) and i read also lots and lots of (wants)

But what i saw the most, was you referring to having a small penis.

And when i re-read what your question was, you are trying maybe to find solutions for that. And, that you may be worried, as she had slept with someone way way back before you were married, and may compare.

So, i wanted to say a couple of things: -

1. If she thought he was better, or loved him more she would have married him.

2. If she was disatisfied, she would have left you before marrying you.

3. If you think your small, you'll be small.....

You created "dildos", they are larger, bigger and enter in width, therefore for 15 years she has experienced larger and width.

Now, you want to re-introduce the same, but via another man.....

As far as i recall, a woman adjusts to a man's size. Her body will accept any size and she will feel it and be able to have orgasms and enjoy and from what i read, a over large size one, is horrible can't all fit in, hurts, gets dry etc etc.

Perhaps your concentrating on the negatives here. Perhaps if you realise that she chose you, that you made her go there before, that you have to let go of your "size problem" as it's all in your mind, not hers.

I imagine, when people feel that way, then they show it. Perhaps therefore, you need to let that go and remember the beginning and go there again.

Explore again with her and just be "that man" that she married and she will start to feel everything she did before, again.

If you love someone size is not relevant and if the body adjusts, it's just as forfilling and beautiful and yes, perhaps concentrate therefore, on losing some wait as well so your fitter, more pleasing to the eye and can move better as well.

Good luck.

**rebellee47** · 03-10-2008 08:27 AM

Thanks to both Caroline and Chandler for the replies . They do make alot of sense!! I am definately self contious of my size but i was larger when i weighed 225 lbs when we got married I weigh 300 now and definately cannot do now what I did then. I have given alot of thought to what you have said and believe the weight loss will achieve what I want put me back in normal penis range 4.5-5 inches and lasting longer . I do not want to introduce anyone else !! Thanks to you all and I will keep you updates on my progress. Thanks Again......Lee

C · 03-10-2008 11:04 AM

Dear Lee:

Thanks for the note. There is NOTHING wrong with the size of your penis.....Honey, it is the size of you. I know this. A woman can gain weight and still function pretty well sexually but a man can't. With the weight gain comes stomach. With the stomach comes overhang. With the overhang comes a shrinkage of his penis. He cannot get close to his wife when mounting her in missionary and sexual wise, that is the best he can do. All the other positions are out. You just can't do them.

A woman can love a man to death but as he gains weight, that love is put in a tough spot. She is sexual and wants him sexual and he is placing himself in a dangerous spot both sex wise and health. This can affect the marriage...This post is not to preach but hopefully, to make men aware of the reason that so many women WILL have an affair. This is not your case, but the reason that so many marriage's fail.

Change your eating. If you are interested you can answer this and I can tell you a great diet that we still follow. Doctor's tell me it is one of the healthiest diet's around. They are right. No quick fad diet but this is pretty much a life time diet.

Don't get discouraged. Like I wrote to someone once, go into a store and carry 10 or 20 pounds of potatoes. Each time you lose that amount, do it again.

Now sexually I can tell you, once you have your stomach down and have lost weight, she will be able and want to ride you. This riding cowgirl orgasm is one of the hottest sex for a woman there is. Another is when you are in the missionary postion and you pull her legs up in the air after you have licked and sucked her out. She will be moaning with want but then wind her legs around your neck and hump her good. Believe me your penis will be more that adequate. Thank God for what you have. There are many men who are much smaller and believe me when you lose weight, you will be surprised..

Good luck......I think you are on the right track.......Much love, Caroline

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-10-2008 05:55 PM

Originally Posted by rebellee47

Thanks to both Caroline and Chandler for the replies . They do make alot of sense!! I am definately self contious of my size but i was larger when i weighed 225 lbs when we got married I weigh 300 now and definately cannot do now what I did then. I have given alot of thought to what you have said and believe the weight loss will achieve what I want put me back in normal penis range 4.5-5 inches and lasting longer . I do not want to introduce anyone else !! Thanks to you all and I will keep you updates on my progress. Thanks Again......Lee

I am pretty sure that even if you weighed 95 or 100 lbs, that you would still be a 4.5 - 5 inches. Perhaps you don't want to go down that far, but 300lbs explains the " disappearing act" of visual maybe..

I am so pleased you don't want to introduce anyone else and i am sure she doesn't either.

Please keep us posted and best of wishes, think of it as a "new journey" one that will take you where you both want to go for the rest of your lives.

Unfortunately, like any journey, it takes time, patients and hard work, so don't give up along the way, remain positive and smile.

to then get

that smile... xx

**rebellee47** · 03-11-2008 03:01 PM

No I dont want to weigh 95-100 lbs, I want to lose that much. I weigh 300 lbs now and weighed 225 when married . I was pretty solid then and still have a lot of muscle but alot of stomach fat also. I am 5'11" and 47 years old. I had heart surgery at 44 and was 327 then I have been as low as 280 and as a matter of fact I just weighed at 296 , I have started an excercise program and just got back from gym. I walk about 3 miles in an hour and do some abdominals trying to get rid of the gut. i have taken you 2's advice also and have curbed the food intake . I will keep you posted on my progress. I dont have any trouble penetrating my wife doggy or if she is on top I can penetrate but not great missionary style it is just I weigh alot and that weight kinda smothers her so we dont do it. I am going to try the hands pulled back doggy style next time and see if it is better to her. I LOVE my wife and actually enjoy her orgasms. We made love this am and she had 3 good ones with my finger inside masaging her cervix and she massaged her clit and then 1 good one doggy style afterwards. She said she has "tingled all day" so I reckon for now she is satified but I still want to strive to be better for her and the wieht loss will give me an inch of length as well as free up other positions for us. I will stay in touch and THANKS A MILLION,,,,,,,,,,,,,Lee

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