Good point but how old is too young?
In today's day and age, it seems to be very different.
I believe when i was young, my friends were 15 and 16 when they first experiemented, and i recall how i was wanting to very much however, oral sex on me i didn't even think of as i didn't really even know about it, i had only heard girlfriends talking about sex in general and oral on the male.
When you truly reflect it was a different world.
My mother has advised that in her era, they were 20- 23 and who knows before her era and again, pretty much the way i was thinking certainly not so broad.
What was without a doubt special back then was that it was based on love. And, to day, perhaps lust, learning and wanting to "be part of the croud" as we were back then, or so much more knowledgeable that they want to experiement now.
But then, our parents as i've mentioned before and probably their parents scared us of or tried to on the basics. Sex, basic sex.
Today they teach it at school at 15 and 16.
18, therefore, in that equation in today's society is "old" for a beginner if today they are starting at 14 and younger.
It is hard to ascertain what to advise and not to therefore, as they will be doing it anyway. If they pose the question then it is in their inner most thoughts and they will be acting on it, now or in the very near future.
But 17 going on 18, or 18, going on 19 certainly should be in no hurry to grow up into that "woman hood world" and want to please so much a man, or him her but that's reality. They do. And, i am not one to judge.
As in my previous post, communication is the key. Teenagers fall in love so easily and most when they say "boyfriend" it is a form of love they have for each other. They may have been dating since 14, very common and want to grow further now.
They marry young but most statistics show much later in life and more than norm these days, there have been more than a few partners before that constumation.
It is in deed a different world....
I have stated many a time, i am 45. And, i have admitted acting like a "teenager".
I can then only imagine what a teenager in today's age is thinking and doing.
I have also stated that my youngest at work is 23 and her mother discusses with her. My Mother when i was 25 refused to still discuss anything.
If they seek and they find their answers, where they were unable to find and those answers include be careful, or communicate, or some additional motherly advise then we have done all that we can as the older generation.
Just my thoughts as it is interesting to view these 18 year olds as more than "children' but they are.
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