Sistaboo

Me and my boyfriend had sex on the morning of the 9th. This was our first time having sex together. I hadn't had sex in 8 months before that. We had sex really rough! i mean he was pulling my hair and everything and we were making so much noise! I mean it was great but afterwards I was sore a ! the was speckles of blood all over the sheets. It burned a little when i went to the bathroom. An when took a shower, I could barely touch down there to wash it. I felt sore all day and the next morning i felt like I just had a baby. It hurt when I coughed or laughed. i stayed over his house that night and in the morning on the 11th we tried to have sex again. It hurt so bad i was almost to tears and yelling for him to stop. we had to go real slow. Before that when we were sleep i was having this terrible cramping in my pelvic area that felt like bad cramps. i could barely sleep. 3 days later we had sex again but i felt better by then. again it was a little rough but I did have to many problems. then we had sex again on the 18th and 19th. Once at night and twice in the morning and those times we all rough. later on i got those bad cramps again and yesterday but it was a little sharper. Why am I having this cramping. Is it beacuse Of the rough sex? Is my cervix bruised or something? I made a doc's appt but Is this normal or should I be concerned? someone let me know please. I've never had sex this rough before him.

nikki22

Glad to hear you made a doctors appointment, the pain can be from anything.

I had a situation similar to yours years ago. I had sex with a guy I was seeing and prior to our night together I hadn't had sex in about 7 months. I was no virgin, but holy **** was I in pain the next day. There was a little blood that night, and it continued on the next day. If I remember correctly it was painful to sit down
Went to my doc and all was fine, she just said that it can happen to woman that are smaller down there. She recommended my guy and I use some lube for a while until my body gets 'use to it'.
I didn't however have any cramping, just very very sore. So like I said, it's a good thing you are going to your doc. Make sure you let them know it has been a while since you have been sexually active, and don't hesitate to tell them all your symptoms.

Good luck hun

seeking32

Why is your intimacy based on roughness? Have you ever just taken it slowly but yet intense? It's absolutely wonderful. My theory is you all are having rough sex that is causing YOU to bleed, cramp, swell, and burn then YOU need to re-evaluate if he's wanting to please the both of you or just concerned with himself. Do you enjoy the actual session or the metaphor of it all? Be good to your body and it will be good to you. Tell him to take his time, and promise him that it will not get up and run away. As for you, take care of your most precious gift...............YOURSELF.

CHANDLERS WISH

I also am glad that you have made a doctor's appointment but also have diarised the dates, and situations that have occured for you, as this will be important for your doctor to discuss and diagnose for you.

This is a new relationship. He may be a very eager person and excited but you are a woman and that part of our body is not like the heals of our feet.

I would also speak with him, even in this early stage and suggest that at the beginning, if there is no oral sex involved that he needs to be a bit more gentle until you are stimulated enough for him.

If he is just agressive, and pushes deep and hard with no consideration then he needs to also understand a female's body.

You probably have spoken to him regarding what you experienced after and burning to me sounds a bit like "thrush" which is caused by allergies to nylon, and other allegeries but can also be caused by non lubrication of your natural fluids or other assisted methods and hense it's the "dry body part against another dry body part" rubbing together causing friction.

Perhaps he just simply goes there straight away and doesn't allow you to experience any sexual feelings, just you know " wam bam", which is not going to be a nice experience on going for you either.

After you see your Doctor, sit down with him and explain what you have been feeling, the reactions and what you both need to do for the future sexual relations to assist.

C

Honey, been there and done that...The problem comes when the height of passion is so high that even the hurt feels good...You suffer later but the thrill of the hot sex and penetration at the moment cuts off any right and wrong from your mind.. So you endure and later say, I shouldn't have done that. Then your nipples hurt for two days from biting and pinching and you smile thinking about it...It was hot.....BUT you would do it all over again...So what to do!!!... The hot sexual hunger sets in and you are again off and running......Just have him be gentle...

I doubt that you tore but a small fissure is possible..That would heal with time but I would have it checked out...What I have done on this occassion is to sit in the bathtub and spread open my lips and vulva and let the warm water seep inside me...It really does help...Vaseline is a good lubricant to put inside you to sooth the pain or possibly even a K-Y Jelly for the comfort...Stay away from sex until you see the doctor or until everything feels great inside...