Thread: New 2 sex??

umm, i have 2 q's. (by the way - hi! i'm new)

1st - my man can't get inside me?
i'm a virgin and when my boyfriend and i have sex he cant get into me. i think it's because he's too gentle with me but could there be something wrong with me?

2nd - i'm a little shy
when me and my boyfriend are talking i'm all confidence and apparently sexy but once i get to the bedroom i get kind of scared that i'll do something ****** or wrong - is this valid? but recently i've decided that i need to let go of my fears but i still get weird...

answers are appreciated
thanks

Both of those sound very normal to me.
And both of them sound like you're just not ready for sex yet, or that you need to work at it more before it actually happens.
You have to trust your boyfriend completely before you have sex with him; when you trust him, it won't be so important that you could do something that isn't perfect. Of course you'll still think about that, but it won't be so scary or important.
There COULD be "something wrong" with you because he can't get in, but I doubt it. I think you're just not ready yet; still working on being able to have sex. It took me a LONG time to be able to have sex ... a few boyfriends tried over a few years, and none could get in at all.
But now I'm with a man I love like crazy, and we have sex with no pain whatsoever. He was VERY gentle with me when we first had sex ... I was the one controlling everything. It helps if you just push in an inch or two at a time.
Good luck

You may still have a fully or partially intact Hymen.
Even if that were the case, foreplay, foreplay, foreplay....

Once a women is turned on enough, she could take a bed-post if so inclined.

Good luck.

Originally Posted by unwillingly_loved

1st - my man can't get inside me?
i'm a virgin and when my boyfriend and i have sex he cant get into me. i think it's because he's too gentle with me but could there be something wrong with me?

He might not be fully erect, he might be attempting approach from an incorrect angle, He might be incredibly endowed, its hard to say without more info.

I'd have him rub his unit down with lube (I like ForPlay® Gel-Plus™, but use whatever you like) and see if that doesn't help things greatly.

I'm inclined to agree with Little and say maybe you're not ready. Maybe you should wait a while longer.
Or you might just be really tense due to nerves. As everyone else said foreplay. Try to relax and not worry too much.

ladies, i think you may be right about the foreplay suggestions because once my guy is hard then he tries to go in - and i'm not wet yet.

Also, the trust thing? I trust him everywhere but the bedroom, because when we first started fooling around in there it was when he was going away for a long weekend. When he got back i found out from him that he had cheated on me - twice.