Thread: NO not that hole!

So my current partner always asks if I will have anal sex with him and I always say not because the idea makes me cringe. And sometimes when we will be doing it doggy he will try and put it in and I am always quick to say NO NOT THAT HOLE. Because a good gay friend of mine told me that it is not to fun as the reciever and I have been turned off about it ever since. Anyone have anal sex on a regular basis or recomends it? If so do you think I should give in and just let him do it?

Don't "just give in". If you don't want to do it then you don't have to and your partner shouldn't try and force you.
Ask him if you can stick a dildo up his arse and see what he says. Afterall, he shouldn't expect you to do something if he's not prepared to do it himself

I found this article to be quite interesting...

Rectal romance - Salon.com

Well I'd like to add my .02

Personally, I REALLY enjoy it, whens it's done correctly. But if you don't feel comfortable doing it, DON'T!

But if you want to try it, here are a few tips.

Rule #1
NEVER go from anal sex to vaginal sex, even if you wash the penis first. Just "end" it right there.

Rule #2
Use LOTS and even MORE LUBE! Your rectum does not lubricate itself like your girl bits do when you have sex, so it can be pretty painful to enter in dry! Also, use only water based lubes, oil based lubes can dry you out quickly!

Rule #3
NEVER rush! Go as slow as possible. If he can't have patience, then stop and leave it. The actors in porn movies can SEEM to do it right off the hop and really fast. But what they don't show in porns is the "warm up", where the girl gets all "stretched" out and ready to go fast. Patience is key (and VERY important here).

Follow these steps and you can have a very joyful experience! Also you can have regular sex to get warmed up and turned on. You can also use fingers or a small dildo at first to get used to it. Remember to relax the rectum as he enters, it helps.


good luck

okay maybe ill give it a try then. he never forces me whenever he tries to it results in a playful fight nothing forceful or demanding. but yeah maybe ill let him once and thanks for the tips ill be sure to follow them if i do try it

It CAN be as pleasurable for the receiver as the giver.... you could have the strongest orgasms of your LIFE! (But if you don't want to, don't do it!)

A few more recommendations... be sure you are relaxed. If you get nervous, you'll clench up, and trust me, nothing will get back there! lol
Have him give you a massage or something that will relax you. You really need to be in the mood to do it, I've discovered.

One more thing... if you have a vibrator or some little vibrating device you can use on your clit while he's back there, it goes a long way toward having very strong, hard orgasms. I've heard some women orgasm just from anal, but not me.

Oh... the first time you do it, it may feel very strange when he starts to slide out - moreso than when it goes in - but just exhale and relax and it starts to feel great.

Have fun!

One more pointer....

The spooning position is probably the easiest way to start with anal.

I definately recommend anal! The orgasms from it can be incredible. I prefer clitoral stimulation when I get close to the edge, as it makes it that much more intense. Take your time, and take it very slow at first. Maybe use a vibrator first as they are smooth and slick and will slide in easier. Well not to ramble on, but I would def. give it a shot if I were you, but do it on your terms, not his.

I really feel sorry for anyone who doesn't try anal sex at least once in their lives.... it's amazing!

My husband and I have anal sex at least once a month, usually during my period when we can't do much else! And the orgasms are... omg....

I will say NEVER let him just "put it in" there.... that kinda hurts! It's amazing fun, if done right. You need lots of lube, and I'm sure everyone here has already gave you some amazing tips... so I won't repeat them.

However... I will say that maybe drinking a glass (or bottle) of wine first (if you are legal age) would be the thing to do, espeically since you are nervous about it. It will relax you!! Have him go slow and you be encharge, if you say faster, slower, harder or stop, he has to listen!

I think you have some good advise here. I would suggest even going slower. Mayby start with him giving you a rim job and finger insertion. Then mayby toy insertion before commiting to the full meal deal. You are going to need time to get use to the feel and he won't have the urge just to shove it all the way in. Another thing, clear out your bowls and take a hot shower before you start.