Thread: The best BJ ever

My wife is amazing, and after over a decade of marriage she continues to improve due to communication and experimentation. I can recommend a particular technique where she will wrap her hand around the base, but she does not pump it, she just pulls the skin tight ever so slightly, this makes the ridge around the head ever so slightly more exposed and sensitive. Once she lubes me up with her tongue she will start to focus on the head bobbing her mouth up and down in short swift motions while swirling the tongue around the head in a constant motion. Every time the tongue passed the glans I swear I can feel myself get closer, every single pass, that's how powerful it is. She is so in tune with me, if she wants to tease me and make it last she knows just a few strokes short of me cumming without me having to tell her she slows down and looks at me seductively while licking the pre cum from the tip of my penis. Now once she starts back up she prefers to have me cum deep in her mouth so she can swallow fast, and this is hot, but I do like to see her take it from time to time, so occasionally I'll take charge and place her on her back and ask her to open her mouth and offer her tongue to me while she pumps me in her hand, I love seeing it, just something about watching, its so hot, that moment of submission, giving herself to me, it's a huge turn on. I'm actually pretty excited just thinking about it now. So in short, lightly pull some skin back near the base to expose a little more of the underside of the head and make the glans more sensitive, get it all wet with your mouth, kiss it, lick it up and down, then start bobbing on the head while using a constant swilling motion with the tongue making sure to apply a little pressure each time the tongue passes the glans, do that and you can expect he will want to worship your body in return.

I think the only technique that I haven't seen posted is one that I've experienced because I am uncircumcised. My foreskin does not fully retract during an erection and a past girlfriend of mine would put her tongue between the head and the foreskin swirling it around. There are never endings in the foreskin (and of course the head) that made me go wild when she did this. Of course, having a foreskin, I am always very careful to keep clean and will typically wash it again right before sex.

Otherwise what really gets me off has been said.

The woman who did the foreskin thing enjoyed giving a BJ. I think she loved it so much because I truely enjoyed giving her oral sex too. I would often go down her for over an hour and she would orgams time after time. The knowledge that the person you are giving oral sex to loves to give it back is a great psychological plus. I have moved all they way to asia and am now dating a woman whom I will give oral sex to and give her many orgasms, but she will only give me a bj if I ask her to and doesn't put much energy into it. Needless to say, I wish I was back with foreskin girl.

This woman I am reminiscing about would also start off slow building to a fast tempo. She would start off by licking all over, licking my balls until they were wet, licking my urethra, and she would even place my penis against her cheek. I am not sure why but all of these things get me erect very quickly. Once becoming hard she would build the tempo, alternating between my balls and my penis giving it an little variation by slapping it against her cheek or her breasts every now and then. Once she decided she wanted me to cum she would stroke my shaft with her hand and suck up and down with her mouth over the coronal ridge all the while looking into my eyes every now and then. Her had would also stimulate to different rhythms as well as adjusting to corkscrew and straight up and down. Just one to two minutes of that and I would blast off every time. As for where to let a man cum, I didn't really care. Sometimes she would have me cum on her face which is naughty and I like, sometimes she would swallow which I like, sometimes she would scoot up a bit and have me cum on her breasts which I like. I think the only turn-off is when she just lets it shoot back up on me. I cum quite far and its interesting on occasion to have it splash on my chest and face, but most of the time I would prefer for her to alternate with her body, face, or mouth.

Lastly, the some of the very best orgasms I ever had were very slow. I slow licking followed by a very slow but wet stimulation up and down the coronal ridge. Keeping a tight grip with her lips the whole time and swirling with the tongue. It is heaven I tell you!

I have been told that my head is very sensitive because of my foreskin that doesn't retract too much, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

I agree that 75% of a bj is enthusiasm and desire, and 25% is technique.

Wow! I just read through all those posts, definitely gave me some ideas! I love going down on my guy & over time I've perfected a pretty good strategy that just involves incorporating everything I have into it. We haven't done anything too crazy, he just loves the basic multi-strategy of both hands, mouth & a lot of eye contact! Haha! The balls thing is something else I've incorporated a few times, he seems to love it, I"m still getting used to it (as mentioned in the other thread about those things..). I agree whole heartedly that the best part about a BJ to my guy is my excitement to do it. The best thing he's ever heard was me say that I WANTED to do it. Spontaneous BJ's seem to be a key aspect to a great one, at least for us But I usually start slowly with just my mouth then move up to using my hands, adding lube & then just going crazy.

I've had some excellent blow jobs, and some where I just thought it was a way to kill time. I can't speak for all men, but for me, the faster a girl can make me cum from a blowjob, the better it is. Oral sex (for me) is about the thrill, and I want it to be a wild fast, hot roller coaster ride. I only point this out, because I think giving oral to a female entails a much more paced, involved effort.

In general, men love oral sex that is
-spontaneous
-in a unique, non-bedroom location. (
-involves enthusiasm on the part of the female.

Don't ask me why this works, just take my word. At first, I was creeped out about it, but I hooked up with a girl that had a spike through her tongue. While I realize most of us(including me) have some aversion to tattoos, body jewelry, it felt great when she ran her tongue on the underside of my shaft. I made no attempt to hide my appreciation of that, it felt great! If you can find a way to simulate this without the piercing, go for it, your guy will thank you!

Sucking is nice, but it feels much better if the female is moving her head back and forth, at least a little bit. So my advice would be to create sucking sensation, then bob your head back and forth. It doesn't have to be all the way up and down, but a little bit goes a long way. Also, if you get fatigued, then keep him in your mouth and use your hands as well. Most men won't come out and say it, but essentially a BJ is also part handstimulation as well. You should also pay attention to his testicles and the areas around them. That skin is sensitive to light touch and just cupping a man's testicles can make all the difference.

If my partner can get me 'thrilled' then i tend to forget about where I cum, but let me give you this final piece of advice: Men like it when you tell them WHERE you want them to cum. So take charge, pick a part of your body and tell them you want them to cum on you. If you don't like to swallow, that's a very acceptable alternative.

And yes, enthusiasm and encouragement make up for quite a bit...