Wow were you reading my mind as you typed this?? I am the same way and i am 27. But the thing is I think I have always been this way. I just don't get it I see other people who would just die to get laid and I cringe at the thought I have to do it again. I am a mother and I am married and I can honestly say that mostly we only fight about sex. (or lack of). I have no sex drive and I don't get HORNY. I don't know what is wrong with me but you are NOT alone.

Hi im 23 and have had a baby he is 17 months old and i have lost all sex drive altogether and dont no what to do, iv tried everything i can think of to bring back the spark. I have been to the doctors about it a few time but they told me there is no fix and to look on the web. its starting to have affects on the relationship everything keeps coming back to sex can anyone help me or is it just me?

I can relate-after I had my 4th child, I thought I never wanted to have sex again. There was nothing there. So finally, about 7 months later I knew I needed to do something about it-I knew my weight gain from childbearing had a lot to do with it so I went on Atkins diet and lost 26 lbs, and I can't tell you how that improved my whole life!! The sex was better than it had ever been, I felt good about myself, I wasn't depressed or worried like I was before. And maybe it helped that my baby had grown a little, and I wasn't in those stressful first few months, you know how those are! But now, 3 years later, my sex drive is kind of a roller coaster, but it's still great-you do just have to try to keep your life in balance, watch the stress levels, and try to rekindle that spark often.

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies

Please see your doctor if you are having trouble with sex drive. You may have to search very hard to find a doctor that will work with you, but don't give up!
It is not normal to not want to have sex! I know,because Iam working on that right now. I really miss the intimacy with my husband and I am in the process of having my hormones tested, Thyroid tested and Adrenal gland tested. These all affect the sex drive. Please check out a couple of websites.
1. www.womenshealth.com
2. www.womemtowomen.com (I think it's .com)

I do know what it is like my sex drive is gone too. Mine started when my husband of 7 years decided to find another woman to fill the void he said i no longer filled only we were having sex and it was goo. I spent lots of money trying to keep him inticed and what was the thanks I got he cheated on me. And somehow he tried to make it seem that it was all my fault. I forgave him and we tried to rebuild our marriage but I no longer wanted to intice him. I got to the point if we did not have sex it was fine by me. I started to feel ugly, fat and it was because he no longer looked at me the same. Now two years later he has the same pattern he had with the last woman he finds it easy to talk to other women and spend time with them than to talk to me. He leaves home and he erases all the calls off his cell phone. He spends alot of time watching porn on the internet and searching the singles sites. I can not compete with all the women and I will not. He has changed me it use to be a time I would cheat harder than he would but now I din't have a desire to. He has killed my desire and i sometime feel that if I be with another man then the desire would come back. I remember with my first husband the thrill of sneaking around was such a rush that I enjoyed sex more. What do you do he says trust him but I hear rumors of him and other women and I just want to give up. I heard a friend say once that her and her hubsand should be roommates well that is what my husband and I are. We haven't had sex in over a month and he seems fine with it. He does not ask and I don't offer. All the signs of cheating are there but what do i do I don't have sex with him.

Heart broken and Lonely

Lady's 28yrs also has the same issue,


Being with the same guy 12-half yrs I thought I had enough of him, We had a
BIG talk and spice up things in the bedthroom and sex has never been better.
Now i'm the problem I don't have the desire for sex, it seem the only time I want to have sex is before or after my period the 1st couple day, After that forget it I don't want to I will even start an argument so he doesn't want to be next to me. that only works for a little bite then he turns to me and tell me let's not fight I love you. I will answer with a yawn OK good night. and when I really don't want to be ask or touch I will go and sleep w/our 10yr Daughter. I need help I want to want it he want me to go see the doctor, I will go.

Also: Is it normal for guy to want or expect sex 2x plus a day?

Are you telling us that you are ok with you're husband cheating on you and you live like roomates. Are you for real "Oh NO.
1. YOU are a beautiful woman and don't you ever think that you are anything lower then that.
2. Get it together get a backbone.
3. Serve him with DIVORCE!
4. Kick that a$$ out.
5. Move on to BIGGER and Better things anything is better then what you find yourself in now!

Honey sometimes it seems that the sun doesn't shine on the other side but it does. it's not gonna be smooth but time will heal your broken heart.

I have been with my fiance for 3 years now. He has helped me raise my first child as his own, and I gave birth to his son 2 years ago and now we are working on my third. The trouble started with the pregnancy of the son though. In the first months of us together I was extremely erotic, and enjoyed pleasuring him in the bedroom. There was not much that I couldn't do. I never had an orgasm during sex but that did not seem to bother me then. But after I went into premature labor and was hospitalized so that our son would have more time to develop my sex drive stopped because I didn't want anything to hurt the baby, but he did not. He asked me for sex 2 or three times a day and he didn't seem to understand my point of view. I continued to try to please him manually and orally but it began to feel like a chore because of his lack of understanding. After the child was bron I sought out my regular doctor for a way to bring back my sexual drive. I don't have an excellent relationship with my doctor but it was useful enough. He sent me to two different therapists. The first one admitted to not having enough knowledge of the sexual field to be of any help and the second I was beginning to become very comfortable with but after we included my fiance in the discussions it quickly went downhill again. He believes that problems in the family should only be solved in the family. After another long discussion with him we got the discontent feelings worked out yet still I have not been able to increase my sex drive nor achieve orgasm through what sex we do have. I am 19 weeks pregnant with our child and I am worried that things will only get worse after the birth.