My name is Tracy and I am 30 years old. I have two daughters the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 1. I don't know why but since I had my youngest daughter I am not interested in sex at all. I know it is not fair to my husband but I feel that is is not fair to me either. I miss wanting it. I used to love it and now I don't. Any ideas as to what is wrong with me. I have condidered seeing a doctor about it but I feel really silly about that. Well thanks for reading.

Tracy

I just said this to someone else having the same problem....

Keeping your sex drive alive is also something that us women have to work at as we get older. This means staying healthy and happy. The healthier and happier you are, the more of a sex drive you will have. Try to keep the stress levels down because this will kill your drive. It is also important to have confidence and a good self-image. You must believe that you are desirable and sexy and this will really help. Keep things in your love life spiced up. If it is boring, then you won't want sex. If your man is slacking and not romancing you, that can be a problem too. Try new things and stay in tune with what makes you feel good.

tracy, i am right there with you. I have noticed since i was 27 that my sex drive was declining, i blew it off for a long time thinking it was because i was married and you know honestly after a while the spice is hard to find among everything else, anyway now one child later i am sick of it i agree wholeheartedly, it is not fair to either of us, i truly think mine is a hormone change, i use to not need lubricant and i have now for a long time and i know that is a hormone thing, i read that long use of birth control pills could lower your libido, i was on them for 8 yrs so... Anyway i am new to the area and i am looking for a ob/gyn if you know of any good ones but as soon as i do i am going to talk to them about it because its went on long enough.

Sorry to say I am right there with you,too.I am only 24 but I have no sex drive what so ever.The truth is I haven't had it since I got pregnant with my first baby in 1999.So I haven't had a sex drive since I was 16,and I shouldn't of had one then.I don't know what to do or what my problem is.I am confident and secure about my body so I know that's not it.I need help,too.I don't want to talk to my doctor about it because I don't want to sound silly.I have been married for eight years but my husband doesn't seem to have a problem with sex drive at all.It is just me.

Girls
I feel all your pain, as I'm 35 with a 3yr old son and a 17 yr old step daughter.

I don't remember when I lost my sex drive as it has been so long ago. I love my husband of 5yrs very much and this is driving me crasy. As he is 39 and does not have any problems with wanting me , night and day. I am lucky enough that when we do have sex that I'm not dry. It just I feel please just get it over with.

I have been working alot in the last month as i have 3 jobs and I'm realy tired but this all started when I was only working 2 jobs.

this is kinda the weird part becasue , when I look my husband I get turned on but when we start fooling around I just want to jump in and get it over with.

I'm going to grab a bottle of wine on my way home and try and relax and have fun!

hi - Sweety you're not alone. I have the same problem. I used to have SEX evry day at least 6 times a day but since my last child came into the picture my sex drive has gone in slow mode. I spoken to a few friends about it and they sa y stress could be playing a big pasrt into that. I'm not working and i'm trying to raise two kids on my own> What i'm trying to say it could be things going on in your lfe maybe a have a part to play in your sex drive in slow mode. Then again you just had a kid so all that stress surrounding raise infants is putting a toll on you.

I'm no doctor so if you think u need to see your doctor do that. It's not being weird it's just you wanting answer to your question.

hope i helped

Hi! I can definitely relate to a lack of sex drive. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and for the first 6 months of our relationship we had passionate, frequent sex. I am attracted to my boyfriend, but when it comes down to sex, I do not get aroused anymore. I would like to attribute it to the fact that he does not give me foreplay long enough, but I have to say in the beginning of our relationship, all I had to do was touch him and I would become aroused. Now, just touching him does not work and I am getting frustrated because I want us to get back to the passionate sex that we once had with each other.

Ok, I just registered to this site to find out if there is something seriously wrong with me or what. I have been with my husband for three years and if I desired him any less, he would be my brother. He wants sex all the time and I find myself finding excuses to avoid it. I've even went in the bathroom when it's time for bed and pretended I was ill untill he fell asleep. I'm afraid it will eventuall distroy my marriage but I can't magically turn on a switch. Iv'e tried creams, exercise, meditation and other drugs and nothing works. I'm just destin to be celebate. I just feel sorry for my husband in the mean time.

I ended up divorcing my husband because he constantly badgered me for sex. From day 1 all the way thru 10 years of marriage I never had an orgasm while we were having sex. I could do it myself of course, and he could manage sometimes with his mouth - but over time I lost interest in even that as it seemed to take so long for such a small payoff. I became disgusted with the thought of him kissing me afterwards which lead to a general disgust with all fluids sexually related. I imagined that if I parted my legs during the day my co-workers would be able to smell sex on me - I certainly could. I got to the point where I would only agree to sex in the shower so I could wash off