Thread: How to tell my mom i am having SEX??!!

I am 15 now and it has been over 4 months now that me and my new boyfriend have been dating now. he wanted to wait to have sex until i was ready and so did i. well i was ready but terrified about how to tell my mom that i was having sex at the age of 15. i mainly wanted to just get it over with and he hasn't wanted to do it again. DID I DO THE RIGHT THING BY SAYING YES ABOUT THE SEX OR WAS I WRONG???

CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE ON HOW TO TELL MY MOM??!!

If you felt ready to have sex with him then it wasnt wrong, but why do you need to tell your mum?

Originally Posted by shweedart

If you felt ready to have sex with him then it wasnt wrong, but why do you need to tell your mum?

Because she's 15 years old? She needs some kind of adult help if she's sexually active- she needs to see a dr., get on birth control, get condoms, all that jazz. You can't do all that alone at 15. You can't even DRIVE there at 15.

Originally Posted by ChelseaRenee

Because she's 15 years old? She needs some kind of adult help if she's sexually active- she needs to see a dr., get on birth control, get condoms, all that jazz. You can't do all that alone at 15. You can't even DRIVE there at 15.

why can't she buy condoms at 15?

What conversations have you had with her so far? A lot of moms will tell their daughters, "There is this thing called birth control, when you are ready to take that step let me know." Are you telling us she's never talked to you about that, at all?

You may have to accept the fact that you are more comfortable talking about this stuff than she is. You'd be surprised, adults can get really intimidated, because the main thing they remember is what it was like for them when they were your age.

I can certainly remember what it was like at 15 and I would have told her not to have sex. But knowing my daughter she, like many other daughters, would not have listened to me...She would have thought that this daring thing was the right thing to do to prove that she could do anything that she wanted to do in life...It would have been her way of saying to me F*ck You....She probably would have threatened me and said I will show you and do it anyway...Then she just may have wandered from boy to boy looking for that magic that her Father and I had found and never found it...

I believe this age is so far too early to have sex....They are not yet a woman and able to appreciate the thrill of being this sexual person that they are to be....It can be a very sad and have no stimulation whatsoever...They may come out of it thinking, is that all there is....The winner is the boy....He has accomplished his goal with maybe a few words called love which meant nothing to him except a way to part her legs farther and faster.

Oh, and this same girl I spoke about would probably have said to me at age 42, with this new man I have who will be my husband, brings me to that place that I have watched you and Dad at....I have found all that you have and it would make me wonder if she had waited would all this waste of woman have had to happen...TC, C

She can't buy condoms at age 15 because most stores are too far away to walk to, and that goes back to the driving thing.

There are some mothers that can't be talked to. You have to weigh that. YOU know how your mother will react, deep down. She may surprise you for the better or worse, but you know the range.