Thread: Over-Fingering

Current partner and I have alot of forplay prior to sex. The Forplay often includes him fingering me a great deal before hand, which sometimes feels good, sometimes doesn't do much for me. However he tends to use 2-3 fingers and once even 4 to warm me up for sex, and while idnt mind the effort, it seems like after he fingers me alot I cant get off during sex. Is this because he fingered me to hard prior? Or is this just because were not having good sex? Because neither of us will come from sex after the intense finger sesh. Is it possible that hes over heating the oven, before stickin in the turkey? haha or so to speak.

In all our years of marriage, my husband has never used more than one finger on me during foreplay...This way he has kept me tight...Stimulated me until I cried for entry and even after three children, I am as tucked as before we were married....A woman can get too stretched out and this can hinder orgasm's.....

oh jeez! really? only one finger? wow. every man i have ever been with has used upward of one...but maybe ill try telling him that next time, but i just hate to dispoint him because he tries so hard to please! its so cute. haha

Have him use that finger deep inside you stimulating your g-spot and tongue sucking and stimulating your clit after you hold yourself wide open for him and make it into an ice cream cone holding the hood back and sticking it out for him and then just go to heaven..... It is hot believe me.......Real hot...

He shouldn't need more than one finger on the inside, one on the outside. He can use his middle finger, sliding it in with his palm facing upward, then curving the finger so he is rubbing your g-spot. He can than use his thumb to stimulate your clitoris - double the pleasure, double the fun. You may also want to give him some manual or oral stimulation at the same time - and you should always in control of when he stops using his fingers - and how many.

Originally Posted by metboogie

He shouldn't need more than one finger on the inside, one on the outside. He can use his middle finger, sliding it in with his palm facing upward, then curving the finger so he is rubbing your g-spot. He can than use his thumb to stimulate your clitoris - double the pleasure, double the fun. You may also want to give him some manual or oral stimulation at the same time - and you should always in control of when he stops using his fingers - and how many.

really one finger? my friends have told me that in there experience they recieve up wards of 2 always prior sex. but maybe we arent very equipt for him to use so many fingers because he is not as big as he estimates i need to be for sex. he does the gspot thing pretty well and clitoris action but i think our biggest problem is the amount of fingers he uses ill be sure to tell him next time.

Originally Posted by metboogie

He shouldn't need more than one finger on the inside, one on the outside. He can use his middle finger, sliding it in with his palm facing upward, then curving the finger so he is rubbing your g-spot. He can than use his thumb to stimulate your clitoris - double the pleasure, double the fun. You may also want to give him some manual or oral stimulation at the same time - and you should always in control of when he stops using his fingers - and how many.

Haha OMG. You just described exactly how my boyfriend does it, down to the "two for one" thing and all, haha. Weird.

And yeah, one is plenty. It's definitely not about how many fingers, it's how well he uses them...We tried 2 fingers once and I hated it. Four would friggen' kill me, and I even like it on the rougher side sometimes! Oww...

I forgot on the one finger being inside me he does use his thumb to stimulate the clit......It is very erotic and especially when he is sucking on a nipple...Ah, the wonderful joys of sex....

In any case, tell your man what you like. I'm sure some women like more, some less. He may not be able to tell what you like - especially if it is different from a previous lover.

Originally Posted by CarolineWH

In all our years of marriage, my husband has never used more than one finger on me during foreplay...This way he has kept me tight...Stimulated me until I cried for entry and even after three children, I am as tucked as before we were married....A woman can get too stretched out and this can hinder orgasm's.....

Caroline - im not quite sure i understand your comment "this way he has kept me tight " ? do you mean the muscles of the vagina ? OK im 40 in a few weeks never been married, had any kids ect but of course not a virgin dating since age 15 , dated men aged from 25 up to 61 recent sexual partner aged 28. I wouldnt say i had a lot of sexual experience or that i was promiscuous but just going by some of the things the guys ive dated have told me (quite a few have been divorced) and im in no way trying to cause offence please dont take it as such you say that you are "as tucked as before you were married" agin im confused to you mean your vagina has not stretched as you say you have had three children . Have you had vaginal deliveries if its ok to ask . The reason i say this it seems to me that every man i date seems to be obsessed by the fact i havent had children as they say my vagina is vastly different to a woman that has given birth . I personally find this obsession that guys have eithier just trying to date me/have sex with me for the so called tightness of my vaginal muscles offensive . Ive only been in love once, a French guy a couple of years back he was 46 (abouts) and he seemed to constantly go on about this tightness thing apparently it was the topic of discussion with his workmates he had one child with his last partner and apparently he dint want to have sex after the birth because he said he said it was "too big"" This isnt a subject i could discuss with any of my married friends i just feel like they wouldtake offence so again please dont take offence i just dont understand when you say hes kept me tight ...but then say you have had three kids ...is that possible.
I know from vaginal examinations drs say im extreamly tight but what is the definition of "tight" the french guy has said on many occasions dont have kids take it from me it ruins your body ...im a UK dress size 8 have 34 b bust and weigh 8 stone 7 lb i personally carnt see how my body could change that much or could it ? regarding the fingering issue and the 2 to 3 fingers thing if you have a good relationship with your partner and it seems dollface does could you not just say nicely that its too intense or it hurts a bit ? i know if it was 2 to 3 fingers with me and hard , id be in agony id say gentle on the outside bit for not very long