I can't give head...help!!!! - Page 2

MzExtra · 10-14-2008, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Richard S

If the guy is circumcised, be aware that the skin above the circumcision line is the most sensitive, as far as bringing a guy to orgasm. Also be aware of the frenulum, that ridge of skin that runs from the circumcision line to the head, just below the urethral opening. In particular that spot where the frenulum intersects the circumcision line can be very sensitive. So instead of focusing on taking the guy all the way into your mouth, just try working your lips and tongue along the frenulum for a few minutes and see how he likes it. If you practice enough you should be able to make him come without even getting any in your mouth.

So the basic thing you can do is use your hand to stroke the shaft below the line, while using your mouth on the area above the line, but like I said focus on the area I just mentioned and you should be able to get him off without gagging or getting your mouth tired. And remember that when the guy starts to ejaculate, he's actually about halfway into his orgasm at that point, and the head itself will become quite sensitive, but you can keep working the frenulum area all the way until he's done, and actually extend the pleasure of his orgasm that way. One way to tell if he's done with his orgasm is if he releases the tension in his leg muscles.

Also, the lead-up, the teasing is very important. While the guy still has his pants on, reach down and see if you can make him hard, and if you can locate that spot where the frenulum is, try using the heel of your hand to rub him in a circular motion around that spot. You can pretty much drive a guy crazy doing that, so by the time you're getting down to business he's already halfway there.

Also, it's the little things, the way you show your personality that really gets a guy. If you spend time at the beginning just gently kissing his penis and scrotum, and throw in a few lines like, "You have a really nice c*ck, I like the way the head gets all nice and round when you're hard," trust me guys eat that stuff up. What you are aiming for is to emphasize your femininity and build up his masculinity. And guys are very visual, so if you have long hair, flip it out of the way so he can see what you're doing. If you ever look at porn, you'll see a lot of women do this "sexy hair flip" thing before they go down on a guy, like it's part of their act.

That's all I can think of for now. Have fun...

This is too funny! Is this a guy? he knows all his ........ he cracked me up, this conversation is interesting. i can never fully understand how to get all the way down with out choking either. its interesting to know other people have the same thoughts.

**crzyredhead21** · 10-14-2008, 08:24 PM

For the most part I don't have a big problem with it. I like giving head as it can be the one thing that will make a man beg, and beg, and then beg some more!.... always good for me!

Back when I was having regular sex, if I didn't want penetration I would just do that to keep him happy. Goign deep isn't too big of a problem so long as he did not force me to. I like keeping my men happy!! Too bad the current beau doesn't believe in giving pleasure as much as I do.....

AlwaysLearning · 11-03-2008, 08:48 PM

I understand where you're coming from. I wanted to be able to pleasure my bf as much as he pleasures me with oral. This is what I have learned through my experimentations which I have to say my bf loved. The fact that you're going to be playing with his in your mouth is exciting enough. I have to say that in my experience when it comes to getting more in your mouth it helps to try and run your tongue down the length of the penis (opens up your throat) as you take it deeper in your mouth. Also, how it is directed in your mouth makes a difference too. If you point it down like you're trying to slide it down the front of your throat not just trying to push it to the back of your mouth it doesnt trigger the gag reflex as strongly.

Hope my sucessfull attempts to increase my bf's pleasure helps you out.

**2morrow** · 11-06-2008, 08:07 AM

I absolutely love to give oral sex to a man I care about. I can't wait to do it, and think about it all the time. When I am with someone I care about, it's not a problem.

I think its the most exciting thing ever. I love to know that I am the cause of his huge erection and that he is waiting for me to give him an orgasm. I feel sorry for the men out there, whose significant others won't perform this awesome act.

But for those who feel they are inadequate or not doing it right.... take your time, communicate and hey, he's not going to mind if you need to practice. Practice makes perfect. Just go for it and your enthusiasm and willingness to learn, will be a sure fire way to show him you want him and care about him.

**Dollface2008** · 11-06-2008, 05:40 PM

I used to have the same problem. And sometimes I still do but a lot less since I looked up some tips online, and of course my girlfriends all had there tips. ha But as far as the gagging goes you defiantly should not try to deep throat anymore because that is why your gagging. My partner likes when I lick up and down the shaft and also pulling on the gonads a bit. Also I incorporate lube as well and use one of my hands and make a "O" with my thumb and pointer finger (not using the whole hand) and I go up and down near the bottom and then lick up and down and put the end up until the middle in my mouth on occasion. Also I use my tongue to cover my bottom teeth because men don't like when they can feel your teeth. Also Ive heard and tried this but couldn't master it but "granny teething it" where you put your lips over your teeth and do it like you have no teeth...this was hard for me. Also humming when your mouth is around him...is a trick of the trade. And I always get complimented on haha. Needless to say it defiantly takes practice, know ones ever a prodigy in the beginning.

sassy · 11-10-2008, 11:20 AM

If you gag while giving head. I suggest getting some of the stuff that you put on the head of his penis. You will then stick it in your mouth until it reaches the back of your throat. It will then numb your gag reflexes and don't worry it doesn't numb him at all. It takes 3 or 4 mins to work. I just lick on it and do some hand work while waiting and if you really want to makes his eyes role back in his head. Try licking underneth his sack and while giving head get it real wet and then alternate between using your mouth and hand with your free hand lick your fingers and rub him underneath his sack with a light amount of pressure. He will love it atleast my husband does. As far as the numbing stuff I got it from Pure Romance it's called GREAT HEAD and my husband says it really is GREAT HEAD. but I am sure you probably can get it or something like it at an adult novelty store. I just went to a pure romance party and actually won it playing one of the games. Until then I had no idea it existed. I hope this helps. I know how embarassing it is to gag this really helped me. I use to gag to the point my eyes water.

**thack** · 11-11-2008, 06:10 PM

As a guy who had an X wife who was in the same boat as you, but also felt (this was quite weird) that it degraded her to do it, in my opinion, in a marriage you should be open to each other and each others thoughts, now, I never forced the event, but I would mention it from time to time, not very much. And she would do it, and she would always get frustrated after maybe 5 minutes and just tell me she was bad at it, I would try to encourage her and tell her that I didnt think so, and I always reciprocated, always.

Just try and look it up, there are techniques that can help you, maybe not make you a sword swallower, but effort exerted will be noticed by your partner, for sure, and that means a lot to guys. if its not your thing and you really dont want to do it, then thats a whole other issue (which isnt the case here it seems). So just try to have fun, enjoy it, and know that you are driving him crazy and he's putty in your hands!

jltca · 11-25-2008, 10:37 AM

I am into receiving oral sex a lot. Above all, communication is the most important thing. He has to let you know what he likes.

I've always liked when my lower part of the shaft is being stroked in unison with her sucking on my head and upper shaft. Try going up and down with your hand while your head is going the same direction and pace. Every now and then, take your mouth off and just stroke it while looking at him with a look like you want him to explode right away. If a guy sees that his girl is enjoying it...he'll get turned on even more.

**Phoebee** · 11-25-2008, 03:39 PM

Learning what he desires and what really feels best vrs what an old 1960s movies showed is a good start! Choking down his penis may "seem" really hot but the part of his penis that is most sensitive to stimulation is the part below the crown on bottom. My DH informed me that being rougher and using more tongue then mouth were huge pluses. Also he might be a tad odd but he really gets off on having his testes gently played with while in the middle of the act.

You can even lick the shaft without it being inside your mouth which is nice if you want to avoid the "gush" when he climaxes.

DO tell him that he must be perfectly clean when your doing anything oral. Men? For Gosh sakes - wash yourself! There is nothing you can do to insure you never get oral EVER AGAIN then to show up in bed unwashed down there!

Rosslyn · 12-15-2008, 11:35 AM

What I find helps with this is if your boyfriend does something to pleasure you while you're giving him head. The more turned on you are, the less your gag reflex works. Otherwise, take it really slow and if you hit your gag reflex and feel sick, stop completely and take a few deep breaths before continuing. If all else fails, do what most people said and put as much into your mouth as is comfortable. Something I heard about from my best friend who is male, is that his girlfriend took both of her hands and wrapped them around him, making the space tight so that it felt like a vagina. She did this while she was sucking on him. I haven't tried this on my boyfriend yet, but my friend said it was amazing.

10-14-2008, 08:24 PM	#12
crzyredhead21 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: California Baby! :) Posts: 182 Blog Entries: 1	For the most part I don't have a big problem with it. I like giving head as it can be the one thing that will make a man beg, and beg, and then beg some more!.... always good for me! Back when I was having regular sex, if I didn't want penetration I would just do that to keep him happy. Goign deep isn't too big of a problem so long as he did not force me to. I like keeping my men happy!! Too bad the current beau doesn't believe in giving pleasure as much as I do..... Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 11-03-2008 at 09:06 PM.

11-03-2008, 08:48 PM	#13
AlwaysLearning Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 6	I understand where you're coming from. I wanted to be able to pleasure my bf as much as he pleasures me with oral. This is what I have learned through my experimentations which I have to say my bf loved. The fact that you're going to be playing with his in your mouth is exciting enough. I have to say that in my experience when it comes to getting more in your mouth it helps to try and run your tongue down the length of the penis (opens up your throat) as you take it deeper in your mouth. Also, how it is directed in your mouth makes a difference too. If you point it down like you're trying to slide it down the front of your throat not just trying to push it to the back of your mouth it doesnt trigger the gag reflex as strongly. Hope my sucessfull attempts to increase my bf's pleasure helps you out. Last edited by Little; 11-03-2008 at 08:51 PM. Reason: profanity

11-10-2008, 11:20 AM	#16
sassy Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 1	How to give great head If you gag while giving head. I suggest getting some of the stuff that you put on the head of his penis. You will then stick it in your mouth until it reaches the back of your throat. It will then numb your gag reflexes and don't worry it doesn't numb him at all. It takes 3 or 4 mins to work. I just lick on it and do some hand work while waiting and if you really want to makes his eyes role back in his head. Try licking underneth his sack and while giving head get it real wet and then alternate between using your mouth and hand with your free hand lick your fingers and rub him underneath his sack with a light amount of pressure. He will love it atleast my husband does. As far as the numbing stuff I got it from Pure Romance it's called GREAT HEAD and my husband says it really is GREAT HEAD. but I am sure you probably can get it or something like it at an adult novelty store. I just went to a pure romance party and actually won it playing one of the games. Until then I had no idea it existed. I hope this helps. I know how embarassing it is to gag this really helped me. I use to gag to the point my eyes water.

11-11-2008, 06:10 PM	#17
thack Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Colorado Posts: 161 Blog Entries: 2	As a guy who had an X wife who was in the same boat as you, but also felt (this was quite weird) that it degraded her to do it, in my opinion, in a marriage you should be open to each other and each others thoughts, now, I never forced the event, but I would mention it from time to time, not very much. And she would do it, and she would always get frustrated after maybe 5 minutes and just tell me she was bad at it, I would try to encourage her and tell her that I didnt think so, and I always reciprocated, always. Just try and look it up, there are techniques that can help you, maybe not make you a sword swallower, but effort exerted will be noticed by your partner, for sure, and that means a lot to guys. if its not your thing and you really dont want to do it, then thats a whole other issue (which isnt the case here it seems). So just try to have fun, enjoy it, and know that you are driving him crazy and he's putty in your hands! __________________ "We easily see what is done to us, Before we see what we are doing to our mate!"

11-25-2008, 03:39 PM	#19
Phoebee Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Minnesota Posts: 272	Learning what he desires and what really feels best vrs what an old 1960s movies showed is a good start! Choking down his penis may "seem" really hot but the part of his penis that is most sensitive to stimulation is the part below the crown on bottom. My DH informed me that being rougher and using more tongue then mouth were huge pluses. Also he might be a tad odd but he really gets off on having his testes gently played with while in the middle of the act. You can even lick the shaft without it being inside your mouth which is nice if you want to avoid the "gush" when he climaxes. DO tell him that he must be perfectly clean when your doing anything oral. Men? For Gosh sakes - wash yourself! There is nothing you can do to insure you never get oral EVER AGAIN then to show up in bed unwashed down there! __________________ "Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." ~ Janis Joplin

11-06-2008, 08:07 AM	#14
2morrow VIP Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 70	I absolutely love to give oral sex to a man I care about. I can't wait to do it, and think about it all the time. When I am with someone I care about, it's not a problem. I think its the most exciting thing ever. I love to know that I am the cause of his huge erection and that he is waiting for me to give him an orgasm. I feel sorry for the men out there, whose significant others won't perform this awesome act. But for those who feel they are inadequate or not doing it right.... take your time, communicate and hey, he's not going to mind if you need to practice. Practice makes perfect. Just go for it and your enthusiasm and willingness to learn, will be a sure fire way to show him you want him and care about him.

11-06-2008, 05:40 PM	#15
Dollface2008 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 110	I used to have the same problem. And sometimes I still do but a lot less since I looked up some tips online, and of course my girlfriends all had there tips. ha But as far as the gagging goes you defiantly should not try to deep throat anymore because that is why your gagging. My partner likes when I lick up and down the shaft and also pulling on the gonads a bit. Also I incorporate lube as well and use one of my hands and make a "O" with my thumb and pointer finger (not using the whole hand) and I go up and down near the bottom and then lick up and down and put the end up until the middle in my mouth on occasion. Also I use my tongue to cover my bottom teeth because men don't like when they can feel your teeth. Also Ive heard and tried this but couldn't master it but "granny teething it" where you put your lips over your teeth and do it like you have no teeth...this was hard for me. Also humming when your mouth is around him...is a trick of the trade. And I always get complimented on haha. Needless to say it defiantly takes practice, know ones ever a prodigy in the beginning.

11-25-2008, 10:37 AM	#18
jltca Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 1	I am into receiving oral sex a lot. Above all, communication is the most important thing. He has to let you know what he likes. I've always liked when my lower part of the shaft is being stroked in unison with her sucking on my head and upper shaft. Try going up and down with your hand while your head is going the same direction and pace. Every now and then, take your mouth off and just stroke it while looking at him with a look like you want him to explode right away. If a guy sees that his girl is enjoying it...he'll get turned on even more.

12-15-2008, 11:35 AM	#20
Rosslyn Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 23	What I find helps with this is if your boyfriend does something to pleasure you while you're giving him head. The more turned on you are, the less your gag reflex works. Otherwise, take it really slow and if you hit your gag reflex and feel sick, stop completely and take a few deep breaths before continuing. If all else fails, do what most people said and put as much into your mouth as is comfortable. Something I heard about from my best friend who is male, is that his girlfriend took both of her hands and wrapped them around him, making the space tight so that it felt like a vagina. She did this while she was sucking on him. I haven't tried this on my boyfriend yet, but my friend said it was amazing.

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