Thread: Pornography And Prostitution

Originally Posted by katty1

A.N.F just to answer first on your last paragraph ....i beg to differ on your last paragraph ...i would say my sex drive has never altered from the age of 18 onwards ...one of the reasons (possibly) is because ive never used the contraceptive pill which according to what i know and have heard does alter womans sex drive ...now im approaching 40 in a few weeks i certainly dont feel any changes regarding sex drive

What I meant was that women seem to "wake up" sexually at 30+. Hormonally speaking, men's drive peaks at 18-20, wheras women are after 30. Hence why there's often a gap in libido.

Originally Posted by katty1

but you say after 30 demanding sex ? dildo and toyboy ...i beg differ ...there many increadably beautiful , sexy women sexy in all ways not just physically! all over the world that are past the age of 30, 40, 50, and onwards think of classy elegant women !! they dont loose thier elegance and class just because they age !!! and if a woman has good bone stucture (cheekbones ect) of course she will age !!...but that beauty will still be there if she takes care of herself...

I just mean that once a woman is sexually awakened she is going to want to follow it up, and will feel strangled if she cant. Just like a man would. That's all I'm talking about.

I would reply more fully but I'm knackered and I'm going to sleep.

I do not believe in prostitution. It is a woman selling her body for money. I see no good in this yet it has been here since the beginning of mankind. To have to use this precious part of me to service another man as a job is about as much mental pain as I can imagine...Kind of takes that road back to rape.

Porn is an evil that is there to be both good and bad...It will be here and exist as long as we all have our sexual bodies...We, as man, are filled with lust for each other...The problem here is trying to identify if we are man or beast. Beast has a tendency to rule...I believe that it does not belong in a committed relationship when only one person desires it... Seeing both of us enjoy Porn sometimes this is great...Actually, we are a matching set......

Masturbation...If both agree on it fine...To have a partner who you love, sit in front of a computer and jerk off in front of you or even alone sucks. It would tear me apart. I take care of him...I will do what he needs. No other woman has a right to him..I am this man's porn...I will be to him everything that any woman can be, and I would not allow him to waste it on a two bit tramp, showing her stuff on a computer.. The same thing would include me playing with myself while looking at male Porn.

Sometimes it is so hard for me being such an open minded woman, trying to figure out how two people can be so in love with each other and not be able to satisfy their sexual needs. For me, fingers, tongues and body parts drive me wild....Makes you wonder about all of us...What if we had been born back in the beginning of time........

You say that selling yourself for cash would be mental anguish - to each their own. I've met several "escorts" that love their job - they like having sex and they like having money. Just because you wouldn't want to do it does that mean that those who don't really care become immoral worthless skanks?

Caroline, you say that you're your mans everything, and that's great. But he doesn't seem to fulfill you sexually (not 100%) as you say you use a vibrator/dildo often. Which I think is fine.

However, a dildo is as much cheating and disrespectful as porn... Men are visual creatures, that's how our brain is wired. Porn is a masturbation aid, just like your vibrator. The reason men don't get (that) insecure and upset when a woman uses a dildo is that we are rational creatures and dont base things off pure emotion.


Mastubation is fine as long as both people agree to it? Haha, well I know I wont be in a relationship where masturbation is not allowed, and I think 99% of people here wouldn't put up with that either.

As for whether we are men or beasts - we are all ANIMALS. We'd do well to remember that. We aren't computers that live our lives by religious/social programming - we are animals with wants, needs, ambitions, dreams and requirements.


Sometimes it can be hard for me having such undefeatable logic

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

However, a dildo is as much cheating and disrespectful as porn... Men are visual creatures, that's how our brain is wired. Porn is a masturbation aid, just like your vibrator. The reason men don't get (that) insecure and upset when a woman uses a dildo is that we are rational creatures and dont base things off pure emotion.

Yes and no. Could it also be that they don't get upset because a dildo is an inanimate object just a piece of rubber etc. He knows his woman is not staring at the screen and wishing she was the one f*ing the person on that screen? .... just a thought.

Yes, and before you even say it I understand that we don't know what is going on in the mind of that woman when she is using that dildo. All I can do is speak for myself and anytime I have "taken care of myself" and needed a little extra help I've always thought of my guy, never anyone else.

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

As for whether we are men or beasts - we are all ANIMALS. We'd do well to remember that. We aren't computers that live our lives by religious/social programming - we are animals with wants, needs, ambitions, dreams and requirements.

True but there is one BIG difference. We have the ability to reason, we have a conscience, and we have (well most of us ) have common sense.

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

Sometimes it can be hard for me having such undefeatable logic

That's your opinion.

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

You say that selling yourself for cash would be mental anguish - to each their own. I've met several "escorts" that love their job - they like having sex and they like having money. Just because you wouldn't want to do it does that mean that those who don't really care become immoral worthless skanks?

Everything that I have read and very learned people that I have talked to about this "art" tell a different story. Each is a wonderful actress. They aren't stu*id. But their sex life sucks. They lost that feeling long ago. It is a job and a job only......Let's put it this way, I don't socialize with them.......

Caroline, you say that you're your mans everything, and that's great. But he doesn't seem to fulfill you sexually (not 100%) as you say you use a vibrator/dildo often. Which I think is fine.

However, a dildo is as much cheating and disrespectful as porn... Men are visual creatures, that's how our brain is wired. Porn is a masturbation aid, just like your vibrator. The reason men don't get (that) insecure and upset when a woman uses a dildo is that we are rational creatures and dont base things off pure emotion.

I use Eric very sparingly. Used him last night... My husband is much older. He is something else. With as sexual as I am, I could have sex anytime he wanted it but I wouldn't...Because like anything else, it would lose something special about this hot relationship. The wild part of me would not drive him off the wall and I am sure that it would hurt me too. But this does not mean that my vaginal walls do not want. This does not mean that they don't come alive and sometimes I ejaculate when he puts his arms around me....It means that I am a very sexual woman and that man just plain turns me to mush....

My husband is my lover. He considers a vibrator or a dildo a threat to his fulfilling my needs. Besides having sex two to three times a week, we also go to bed and he fingers me out probably two more times....This is hot and I have to ejaculate because very simply, I am too much woman and have to be relieved. This I can see with other women here and it will grow. He wants to do this and I cannot mention the word vibrator or dildo or it can bring on one heated discussion. He is my lover 100%.....

Mastubation is fine as long as both people agree to it? Haha, well I know I wont be in a relationship where masturbation is not allowed, and I think 99% of people here wouldn't put up with that either.

What I mean on that is if both people want to do it together as part of their foreplay that is great. He knows that I masturbate once in a while but does not want me to ever tell him. If it hurts him why tell him. If he masturbated, I would want to take over and do it for him...You see Anon, I have never in my life dealt with a husband that masturbated. From the day we were married he would get so hot around me that I could hardly touch him and he would pop his cork. Now I can suck on him and play with him and drive him wild and blow him and it is the most wonderful time in my life...Before that and being younger, it just wasn't possible..

As for whether we are men or beasts - we are all ANIMALS. We'd do well to remember that. We aren't computers that live our lives by religious/social programming - we are animals with wants, needs, ambitions, dreams and requirements.

Amen: I love that....I am still struggling to write a blog of the hottest love making possible. This happened two mornings ago. I found a new part of me that I never thought possible...I guess it is the animal in me...Never did it before...More than ever I know now how the shame factor affects so many women in the bedroom.....either that or I am a lost cause......More animal than man......BUT oh my God what an orgasm I had and met him at the same time......This I must write up today.....

Sometimes it can be hard for me having such undefeatable logic

Yep, life is a bit*h....

Now you have a good day too.....