Thread: Pornography And Prostitution

Hi to all....
Reading Carolines post got me thinking about this subject. I wondered shall i post or not ? ...in the end i decided to .

I am a little apprehensive typing as its not a subject i have posted about on any site before ..in fact i am new to posing in general, perhaps that might be obvious ...but im hoping im ddoing ok so far ...

Before i make my comments ...i think its is important and definately relevant, to mention that i have been sexually asaulted at the age of 22, raped...which resulted in pregnancy ...consiquently i had a termination.. i have posted about it previously on this forum ...to a lady requesting NON religiious views only on termination of pregnancy...however back to the topic.

Its important to me that i do state that my views on porn and prostitution are ONLY my opinion , yes of course thats obvious ...and in no way intended to cause offence to anybody ...be it women who have suffered any form of sexual assault, or abuse in thier lives or women who are distressed having discovered thier husbands are using porn.

Just before i talk about porn , perhaps to those reading , i dont know some might think "i am surprised katty has those views/opinions considering what happend to her" but id like to say i think what happened just happend ...some things happen in life to people that are awful ...some people get over these things ...they dont forget them but they move on ...there is good and bad everywhere, both sexes ...

My views on pornography - having posted before some might already know i am still single - (just havent found that special guy yet) hope to one day...BUT i date ...ive dated all ages of guys sometimes found the younger guys 28 or thereabouts more emotionally mature than a guy in his mid 40's but some of the most stimulating company ive had ...just a fantastic fun date has been from a guy considerably older 61 a very handsome intelligent guy ...i really think age just a number ...in fact guys improve (i think) with age ...now dating these guys in the usual way ...the longer you date you get to know each other, visits to each others places nights out drinks ...funand conversation as you do ...i have known ALL of these guys have been using porn, either watching films, magazines, some having porn sent to mobile phone (pics) ect and for those ive known with a pc of course they dont tell me, the odd one or two might just say if i asked ..."do you look at porn on the net"? they would say yes ...but most of the time i never think of asking i generally accept most guys or all of them do !!! Lot of guys who are working , whatever job they would be doing all the guys in work watch them my opinion is its normal ...perfectly normal ...say i visited his home found explicit magazines (i mean just porn between adults) i would just think he was normal and healthy ie: hes masturbating ...if he wasnt ...and i was dating him and i hadnt slept with him yet !!! i woud thing it was a little unusual . |Dating a guy recently who told me all his workmates are married and they ALL watch porn even though they are married he told me most married men LIKE to watch it but when i questioned what about wives ?? and how they feel ...he explained to me it dosent affect how they feel about thier wives ...of course they love the wife BUT he told me most married men still masturbate and he explained (but to be honest with you its only confirmed what i thought before i asked) that they do it out of boredom ...they love thier wifes of course BUT if they have been together for a while , its just a natural way to be that the excitement does fizzel out of sex with the same partner however hard the couple try to spice the sex life up!, perhaps some couple carnt really go too wild (noises in bedroom sex toys ect ) becouse they have young children ..they are tired with work, the kids, busy ...or just plain old stressed out ...or perhaps frustrated as they dont or feel they carnt ask thier wives to try something out in bed they would like to. BUT regards masturbation (male) my opionions are if i totally accept that he does it BEFORE living together or marriage and i do most women do if the truth be known we are all fine about that AS LONG as WE THINK hes masturbating thinking about US !!!! porn is used as the masturbation aid and agin most of us are fine knowing he watches it before we live together . Again how can we truely EXPECT and indeed who are we to expect a man to stop masturbating just because he is married or in a long term relationship !!! i know personally i wouldnt be in the least offended if married or living withsomeone that i "cought" him masturbating the question is .... thats all very well katty ...but what if you came in to see him watching porn film ...sexy "beautiful" women ect that were YOUNGER how would you feel ???? thats very easy to answer firstly ...if i lost my temper or was angry and hurt seeing these YOUNGER women ...that emotion is plain simple JELOUSY !! jelous because the guy i love, the guy i make love with is looking at younger women !!! that would make me INSECURE im not a jelous person so im being very honest i wouldnt feel jelous ...what i would feel is hurt at his indiscresion !!! if i found him at computer i would think hes not very discreet is he !!! he could have had the sense manners or the decency to know im around i could of walked in any moment !!! but ....then again for some men THE THRILL is about being discovered any moment .

On this younger more attractive women issue - i condsider myself to be reasonably attractive - like any other woman i take utmost care with my grooming, spend a lot of time and a fair bit of money on cosmetics ect clothes ...fortunate with figure as it really seems to have stayed more or less at the same wieght (or drop wieght) if im stressed a bit im running round a lot. I have noticed especially where i live that the longer i am single and when im out socially i have lost count of the number of times another woman has been openly nasty (comments) ect not inviting to parties get togethers beause im sure they think that im some kind of sexual preditor/ seducer of husbands mearly for fact im single a lot of ladies single reaing this must relate!!! what im saying is men will always look , admire , lust and indeed masturbate over younger nubile sexy women just in my opinion its been like that since time began. BUT the most important thing is this does not mean they do not love thier wives in fact adore them ...its jsut something they do . Personally for me i would much rather i found my partner maturbating over porn than having an affair but perhaps thats a different issue ...also if it became a real problem and money out of bank housekeeping money was all going on porn sites then i do think that is a problem . Regarding women who do it ...i do think that is thier life ...just my opinion and if they choose and want to do it thats up to them.

I also mentioned prostitution in the heading ....i jsut wish there was safe places for these women to work ...there are places in every town where these women are working on the street id like to see more protection for them when i hear people making jokes (about working women) i always feel i bit angry ...thats not an easy life ....how would i feel if ever my husband or boyfriend used the services of one of these ladies ??? id be upset ...of course i would ...BUT id rather he did that than have an affair and i hope to god it wont happen but you never know in life ...also i would say if a man was very frustrated and he didnt have a girlfriend/wife isnt it better that he used the services of these women than went out and raped somebody and made her pregnant as in my case or got hold of an innocent child .. I dont work in sex industry and i dont know any ladies that do ...

Thanks for reading, if ive said anything to offend , again, it wasnt my intention, and i do understand any body that would feel hurt over finding husband and porn . katty x

I'm a man.

First off, I'm very sorry for what you went through - obviously the guy should be shot. I know it's not the subject of the thread, and I'm sorry if it's a difficult subject - but I believe you morally did the right think in aborting the foetus (it's not a child). This can be easily justified: It isn't actually alive and sentient yet, or if it is it's to the level of a fish or something. Therefore, it becomes an issue of preventing a life from happening - and by that rationale every time we use contraception we are potentially preventing a child from happening. It can also be substantiated by utilitarianism, the theory that the morally correct action is the one that brings the greatest happiness to the greatest number of people. Assuming that you have another child 5 years later, which you wouldn't have had otherwise, and most likely in a stable relationship, this next child would lead a happier life than the first, but wouldn't have existed if the first had.... Therefore, it is morally right. Try not to let religious freakshows upset you.

Onto the topic now...

I'm very impressed by your ability to be rational, and to think about things from a male perspective.

I completely agree with everything that you say, pretty much.
I don't really know what to add. Erm, I guess first off if your husband is spending money on pornography, get him to type "torrents" into google and learn how they work (that way you can legally download the latest linux distribution <_<). No need to pay for that in this day and age.


That said, if women think when their man fantasizes it's 100% about her, they're sorely mistaken. And it's a shame that they have to be wrong, and it's a shame that they decide to be hurt about it, but that's just reality. Just like it's a shame that we grow old, or pay taxes - that's life. I always wonder how "real" a relationship can be when one party makes no effort to understand the other, and tries to change them in ways that are so radical the suggestion would make you laugh, were it not for wanting to spare their feelings.

I definately think that insecurity is the main issue women have with pornography, and that is pretty much their issue. Just like if a woman wants to go out with her male friends the fact that the husband feels insecure about it is insignificant. One's life cannot be controlled by what you know are the irrational fears of your other half. People should be trusting.

Taking things a bit further I pretty much also think that monogomy is pretty much a remnant of Christianity or other religions, the views of which I value as zero. , because of christianity in the UK you'd still go to jail for having homosexual sex in the 1960's. The fact that we've managed to (not quite) change human nature to become monogamous for fear of burning in a hypothetical cum social stigma is quite impressive - the very idea of controlling the fantasy life of someone as well is ludicrous. Weren't one of the only groups who tried to control your thoughts the Nazis?

I'm not certain that you can say that pornography is also an alternative to cheating, its more a case of "what's the difference of seeing things with my real eyes as opposed to my minds eye, which WOULD be thinking about this anyway?".

As for rape/prostitution - Unfortunately I don't think things are that simple, in that I don't believe that when a man rapes a woman it is soley because they desire to have sex. There is also an abundance of psychological issues like power play etc, these people get turned on by the cries of their victims - which they wouldn't get from 'consentual' sex with a prostitute.

But for sure, if we legalised prostitution perhaps they would be able to work in far safer environments without fear of beatings/forced drugs/rapes/murders etc. Hopefully we could eliminate the "pimp".

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

Try not to let religious freakshows upset you.

Whatever your view is, I believe it can be expressed by not making attacks on certain groups of people.

Ok, fair point.

It is however, those people that are doing exactly that by labelling her as a murder or a heretic or whatever. I think people should be more sensitive to people in her position than they should be to someone who's religious.