Thread: My Sex Drive is Too High!

Yeah well I'm in the same boat (almost) as the OP. As I sit here my BF is in the kitchen cooking thankfully. My sex drive is WAY too high. It's getting to the point that he posed the question "I don't know how you can stay turned on all the time like that." I tried to answer, and he says "I'm serious. I don't know how you do it".


It's getting to the point that I think he is tired of my advances. It seems like the more sex I get the more I want it. He's the type that he might masturbate once a month, IF he is single, and never when he is in a relationship. I care about him a lot, but the last time I had a bf somewhat like this... he dumped me b/c I wanted it too much. I've tried masturbating to relieve the problem, and it doesn't work. I HAVE to lower my drive soon I think, or it will blow up.


I'm worse than a man for hounding someone for sex =/

Originally Posted by C

If more married women would have done this earlier in their marriage to keep them alive they would not be disappearing with so many headaches when their husband's need them...

I think it does both sides a disservice to use the same old tired trope that she a sexless prude out of touch with her body and, he's some oversexed monster being turned down all the time. When two people get together there will always be one who wants more than the other and, often times the desire will be out of sync with their partners. I want more, he wants less. I want it from late afternoon till before going to sleep, he likes it in the AM, etc. And, men let anger and resentment in the relationship get in the way of having sex with their partner just as much as women do.

My desire is higher now that its ever been before. Not sure why; lost weight, in my early 40's so might be premenopausal. Discovering that, hey wait a sec when did touching that spot become an wow does that ever feel good erogenous zone? And, yup depending on where I am in my cycle I may or may not be wanting more. So yeah, me too, but I refuse to think of it as a medical condition that needs fixing probably because I don't think there is a "normal" n= value to sexual desire, it ebbs and flows over time for all of us.

By too high the OP, it seems to imply that their is a problem. I think it's relative to the degree to which the desire for sex interferes with normal activities. If she needs sex every day all day long to be satisfied, there is little time for anything else.

Sometimes women who want more sex than the husband are labeled as having a too high sex drive. If her drive is in the normal range and his abnormally low relative to average, that's sexual incompatibility.

I would think that finding an antidepressant that would decrease desire without doing the same thing to the pleasure and satisfaction may work. That's if it's a problem.

Another thing is that untreated manic depression is associated with increased sex drive in the upswing periods. when the disease is treated effectively the desire decreases.