Thread: My Sex Drive is Too High!

Girlvamp it is called the" coolidge effect" and is why marriages cool off and die. google it

Originally Posted by Hystorm

As long as you keep it between you and your boyfriend only, you can be a flaming nimpho in my book! If only more wives were like this, the world would be a happier place, at least the husbands would be

Enjoy.

I can't really agree. Then there would be more men with low libido and women with high libido. It's more painful (figuratively) for a women, in my situation, to constantly have high libido because after masturbation it's always "wait, there's more! I need more!" yet the case is only the man can do that job (I don't own "toys" they gross me out wish they didn't lol) and the guy isn't around or he is too tired or already did his deed and can't do much else. My boyfriend has always had low libido. I have always had high libido. I also just had my second child three months ago so self pleasure during the day (when I'm insane with lust) is OUT the window. I want it anywhere from once to three times a day. He wants it once a month. Trust me I have tried and tried and he just won't comply. It's constantly pushing me to go out clubbing until 3am wanting only one thing. OH, here's my other dilemma.. I'm too scared to even kiss another guy, let alone take care of this sexual energy. I have so much of it I'm even sweating and inside I'm throbbing so much it hurts and I eventually get stomach cramps and nearly throw up. I can't make it stop. Nothing even has to trigger it, it comes on it's own. I have tried talking about it with my boyfriend but it just annoys him. I'm only 22 and I'm doomed to have a poor sex life... well, at least when we do, if ever, have sex it's realllly good. So good I don't want it to stop.. yet he's always fast so he's done long before I am and in the end I get so frustrated I just cry.. that's all I can do. Tonight I'm dressing warm and driving to Boston so I can jog for about 2 or so hours to try and beat the feeling out of me.. ha ha ha... I'm kind of tearing up just writing about this. I wish I could just turn it off and never feel this way again. It's ruining my life!

BTW, my doctor says it's normal... what the ... if this is normal I might as well kill myself because I HATE this excessive sex drive!!

If it really that annoying you could try taking some Saw Palmetto.
This is commonly sold for Male Prostate problems but it known to normalise hormone levels in males and females.
Its history goes back to American Indigenous people who used it widely.
Also you could look at trying some DIM( Diindolylmethane ) which is extracted from vegetables and known to normalise hormones as well.

Good luck

i also have a high sex drive. I could quite happily make love every day. In fact in the end it was the result of my marriage breakdown. My husband never seemed interested in me at all. We could go for months without doing it. I tried everything to get him interested just to be turned down. It wrecked my confidence, self esteem and I felt very unattractive. I asked him so many times to try to change things but he never did. In 15 years I can't remember a time when he instigated sex with me. It wasn't just sex thou, he never gave me any form of affection - no cuddles or kisses nothing. I tried hard to except that was just the way he was and live with it because he was and is a good person but in the end you need to feel desired. It made me so unhappy that I put on weight and felt even worse. I have spent the last 3 years loosing weight and gaining my confidence back. I thought that obviously i didn't feel attractive so why would he find me attractive but even now when I feel the best I have ever felt he still didn't desire me. So I ended my marriage, some would say a bit stupidly but I feel there must be more out there for me. When it ended he did say to me that he was glad it was finally over that he had never been in love with me (he's not capable of that feeling - in his words) but he did care for me and would have stayed till the children were grown up !!! Just as well I did it now then.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that everybody deserves to be desired and made to feel like they are someones everything. You only get one life so enjoy it and make the most of it.

Originally Posted by mizogs

i also have a high sex drive. I could quite happily make love every day. In fact in the end it was the result of my marriage breakdown. My husband never seemed interested in me at all. We could go for months without doing it. I tried everything to get him interested just to be turned down. It wrecked my confidence, self esteem and I felt very unattractive. I asked him so many times to try to change things but he never did. In 15 years I can't remember a time when he instigated sex with me. It wasn't just sex thou, he never gave me any form of affection - no cuddles or kisses nothing. I tried hard to except that was just the way he was and live with it because he was and is a good person but in the end you need to feel desired. It made me so unhappy that I put on weight and felt even worse. I have spent the last 3 years loosing weight and gaining my confidence back. I thought that obviously i didn't feel attractive so why would he find me attractive but even now when I feel the best I have ever felt he still didn't desire me. So I ended my marriage, some would say a bit stupidly but I feel there must be more out there for me. When it ended he did say to me that he was glad it was finally over that he had never been in love with me (he's not capable of that feeling - in his words) but he did care for me and would have stayed till the children were grown up !!! Just as well I did it now then.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that everybody deserves to be desired and made to feel like they are someones everything. You only get one life so enjoy it and make the most of it.

I admire your strength and assertiveness. Your story resonates to me - at least some parts of it. I hope it does not end that way though. My husband is still affectionate and loving, but he can be the worst person at times. Maybe we're still learning each other's "things" and hopefully, we do grow old together 'in love'.

In the light of the thread discussion, I do have the higher libido (majority of the time) and I hate the fact that I get frustrated at times when I am turned down on my invitations. It does trigger the low self-esteem in me and my need to feel loved and wanted. It is difficult to find a balance at times, although on some occasions, he is the one who is all over me. Yet, because of the 'track record', I sometimes feel like he 'decides' to initiate coitus because he "decides" he wants to (his own words).

I am in my early 50s and until recently I had a very very very low sex drive! The menopause started for me early last year and since then my sex drive has gone through the roof, I really cant get enough. My husband works away during the week and this doesnt help, I am ashamed to say I have being seeing someone and yesterday had so many orgasms that the mattress was soaked. I have many vibrators but they dont satisfy me

OMG! I laughed so hard at your post. It is all so true, theres no pleasing men. You just need to be who you are and if the guy can't handle it, move on. He should love you for who you are not who he wants you to be!

I have a very strong sex drive.it drives me insane sometimes.
My husband does his best but some days I just want to have sex forever. The feeling of that sort strong amazing orgasm over and over.it's like the best thing ever. I can't get enough. Definitely a distraction during the day. I wish I could set his face under my desk to stimulate me all day.

Originally Posted by sophie1130

I have checked the Internet for what and why a woman's sex drive would be too high and all I find are ways to increase your sex drive...I suppose this must be uncommon or just not spoken about.

I go through phases where I could have sex all day over and over again. I become so aroused I can think of nothing else and often masturbate at work.

Is there something wrong with me or are there other women out there who experience this uncontrollable desire in "spurts" or "phases" as well?

Any info/feedback is appreciated as I cannot seem to find anything and am not inclined to go to my doctor and tell him how "turned on" I get.

wow I say a womans sex drive is 100X stronger than a mans I wish I could have a weekend with you

Originally Posted by CrazyGirl555

I can't really agree. Then there would be more men with low libido and women with high libido. It's more painful (figuratively) for a women, in my situation, to constantly have high libido because after masturbation it's always "wait, there's more! I need more!" yet the case is only the man can do that job (I don't own "toys" they gross me out wish they didn't lol) and the guy isn't around or he is too tired or already did his deed and can't do much else. My boyfriend has always had low libido. I have always had high libido. I also just had my second child three months ago so self pleasure during the day (when I'm insane with lust) is OUT the window. I want it anywhere from once to three times a day. He wants it once a month. Trust me I have tried and tried and he just won't comply. It's constantly pushing me to go out clubbing until 3am wanting only one thing. OH, here's my other dilemma.. I'm too scared to even kiss another guy, let alone take care of this sexual energy. I have so much of it I'm even sweating and inside I'm throbbing so much it hurts and I eventually get stomach cramps and nearly throw up. I can't make it stop. Nothing even has to trigger it, it comes on it's own. I have tried talking about it with my boyfriend but it just annoys him. I'm only 22 and I'm doomed to have a poor sex life... well, at least when we do, if ever, have sex it's realllly good. So good I don't want it to stop.. yet he's always fast so he's done long before I am and in the end I get so frustrated I just cry.. that's all I can do. Tonight I'm dressing warm and driving to Boston so I can jog for about 2 or so hours to try and beat the feeling out of me.. ha ha ha... I'm kind of tearing up just writing about this. I wish I could just turn it off and never feel this way again. It's ruining my life!

BTW, my doctor says it's normal... what the ... if this is normal I might as well kill myself because I HATE this excessive sex drive!!

thats y god created viagra I cant even find the right lady I wish I could find a woman like u so i could tap in to my libido potential and serve u right for a good weekend