Thread: Trouble Keeping it Up

Hello ladies. I come to you tonight a very sad and horny young woman. Let me explain. I am in love with my boyfriend. We are extrememly comfortable with one another. As you all know, I have been a virgin up until March 28th. that was the first time I'd ever had intercourse and it was very painful. My boyfriend and I have tried several times after that and it is still a little painful. it wil hurt when he slides it in, but once he speeds up it feels a lot better. How can I make myself feel no pain at all? I just want him to go in and there be no hurt, just pleasure. We use K Y Jelly and all, but it still hurts a little which causes me to flinch up and puts a damper on the mood.
My second problem is that my boyfriend cannot seem to keep his erection while we are making love. I have never had an orgasm before and my boyfriend is very experienced so he feels like it's his duty to make me cum. I tell him to not focus on this so much, but he doesn't listen. He tells me that in past relationships he has been able to stay hard and that maybe the reason he becomes soft or cums quickly is because I's so wet and tight (i'm new to sex). Since I am inexperienced, he does all of the work (missionary) while we make love and it tires him out quickly. The second he stops to take a breather he becomes soft. We tried doing it from the back, but he cannot seem to find the hole or he goes soft before he can put it in. Which position is good for an inexperienced person to use? And what can i do to keep my man up? Please help me.

It sounds like there are several issues going on there!
Thankfully, since he can 1) get it up for you 2) cum with you, there doesn't seem to be any problem that won't be resolved with just time.

Also, try this. Next time he starts doing stuff with you, moan like you're about to start crying because it feels so good. Stroke his ego. He'll relax, and you won't have to worry about worrying about him, and everyone will calm down, and then things will go very smoothly after that.

Good luck!

-Jennica Morel

Hey sweetie, the hurting part it will ease as you ya'll have sex more and more. Your vagina walls aren't use to him being in you. I've been sexually active for almost 6 years and it still hurts each time I am with a new partner. And the guy that I am with now I lost my virginity to and he still hurts me 6 years later after a few partners. It'll get easier as time goes on I promise you that. You just gotta give it time.

Regarding keeping it up, from a guy's perspective:

1. It is very easy to get a prescription for Viagra or Cialis these days. I personally find that 10mg Cialis works just fine and there are little to no side effects at all, plus it stays active in your system for 24 to 36 hours. I've never tried Levitra so I don't have an opinion about it. I really hated Viagra - it does this weird thing to your vision, like you look at your computer monitor and think someone turned the "cyan" all the way up to play a joke on you.

2. Exercise is very important. Both cardio and some form of muscular exercise contribute to having a healthy level of testosterone. I can personally vouch for the fact that I've had the best sex of my life when I was not just working out, but pursing hobbies that forced me to use my body (i.e., martial arts, yoga, etc.) and included friends to support me in what I was doing.

3. Supplements work. But it's different for every guy. I will vouch for "Maca Root" since I see it directly affect things like how much precum I produce. But like I said it's different for each guy. At the very least use a multi-vitamin supplement that includes zinc.

That's all I can think of. I just don't buy the idea that you are getting too wet and that's the cause of his ED. Getting wet for a woman is like getting hard for a man, it's a natural part of who you are. Nothing makes a guy feel more like a man then to know he can get a woman all wet and turned on.

You might try different positions - maybe try with you on top. He may get physically tired from sex, and that makes him loose his erection. Also, from on top you may be able to control things better and be less sore.

I he a little heavy? 25-35 lbs overweight can make a difference. If he loses a little weight and builds up his stamina he'll be a macho macho man. Ready to find and get a hole in one... or two if you prefer. For me 15 lbs makes a difference between soft and hard.

after i lost my virginity sex hurt for quite a while after it took almost...20-30 more times until i was completely used to it

It didnt help that i wasnt one for foreplay i was far too impatient and wanted to get right down to it

But i've learnt from that and im now a great fan of foreplayy

so thats my advice to you! playplayplay