Thread: anal!

I wasn't trying to argue about it at all. As I said I was just responding to the "mountain out of a molehill".

Originally Posted by lexi

I disagree.. I did it the first time with high hopes and I had been told that it didn't hurt and it would be great. I didn't like it and it was very uncomfortable...The only thing that made it a little better was a LOT of lube but I still don't enjoy it and it is because it doesn't feel good for me. Everyone has different pain thresholds...There are women who love it and some of us who don't and its not a psychological thing...

What I am saying is that you can tell us about your experience but you can't just generalize that experience and think that everyone has that same experience.

I said that GIVING anal with a dildo was a psychological thing for women... However, even though I didn't say it, I do believe that if you aren't comfortable with it and you don't want to do it - it will hurt. And the women that have been told/telling themself it hurts to **** won't be able to relax, so their own fears etc manifest themselves into physical pain. I wouldn't argue that the size of each relevent bit of kit isn't applicable, because obviously it is.

Why do people have such problems with generalisations? I really don't understand. It's like saying that it's a generalisation that you won't pick the ace of spades out of a deck of cards on your first blind pick. If everyone always hides behind this "generalisation" rubbish, nobody is entitled to think about anything. And I see more than enough generalisation from EVERYONE here.

But my BF was very good, he showed up ready to try this, but he brought a bunch of things along with him. They were all beginners toys to make the whole thing less scary or at least to get things started without any discomfort. I hope that it's all right to share where to get something?

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