Thread: anal!

i jus want sum advice please. my bf is always hintin an askin me if we can do it anal but iv never done it before. does it hurt as much as i think it will? any advice will help.

First and foremost don't ever do anything YOU don't want to do. Don't let him or anyone force you to do something you're not comfortable with.

That being said, it's different for everyone. For some it hurts for others it doesn't. For some it is quite pleasurable. For me, it does nothing for me. I just participate on the rare occasion just for his pleasure.

If you choose to give it a try take your time. Do some research, there are several threads here that have good "how to" advice.

Click the Search button and do a search for Anal, etc.
You will find a treasure trove.
Also, there is a current thread on this main page, you may have already read it.

Chou.

Originally Posted by daniee.l

i jus want sum advice please. my bf is always hintin an askin me if we can do it anal but iv never done it before. does it hurt as much as i think it will? any advice will help.

It helps if you are very aroused first. Use lots of lube. Use fingers first. Go very slowly - stop if it hurts.

Some women really like it, some hate it. Some don't find it painful at all - some find slight (not severe) pain a bit of a turn-on.

I think it is fine to try - but he must be willing to stop if you don't like it.

so recently i was in your same exact position, and me and current partner were laying in bed this past friday and he asked me to do it and i said no but in a round about way he sorta talked me into it and i did it for the first time. In my first time experience it wasnt painful, but definatly not pleasureable. It felt awkward and like I was going to the bathroom number 2. So that was my experience I'm not to terribly fond of it.

Yeah bf has been pestering me about it for ages but always in a jokey way so whenever i said no he'd simply say 'I didnt wanna anyway I was only joking'

Anyway we had a big long talk about it and i changed my mind, it was something new, i hadnt tried it so i couldnt judge it, he wanted and just wouldnt admit it and i love him so there was no better person to try with!


One of my reasons against doing it was the fact i thought it'd be very humiliating, being my bumoley and all! But suprisingly it wasnt, he loves me and every part of me no matter what part it is as long as he can put his Nob in it!
^^^^ that last bit was a joke, he really does love me haha


the actual experience was an odd one though, it hurt a little bit at first but that much that i had to stop and once we were finally at it, it just felt like i needed or was having a poo! so i was really very worried that i was haha
But we'd both agreed that if it hurt then we'd stop

I can't really see a reason why not to do it... Get relaxed, go slowly, and enjoy trying something new... It'll probably hurt a bit at first, but didn't vaginal sex? You know some women actually love anal, so there must be something there for them... If the guy is not really very nice, then don't bother, but if he cares for you and is just trying out something new, what's the problem? He'd probably get the poo kicked out of him defending you from someone, so a little reciprocation would be nice...

Anal sex is something that guys have been doing since we were monkeys, by the way. It's not totally messed up, it's natural. If you don't like it, it's not like you have to do it all the time, but a good love life is about give and take, if he can enjoy something more than you don't like it, then fine, I'm sure he does/would do things that he didn't like for your benefit too - and he might even get to like them, as might you.

From what I've read, the first few times are not going to be that pleasurable. But after a few times once you both know what you're doing it can be quite nice...

For the record, I've tried it a couple of times out of curiosity - and I thought that most women are making a mountain out of a molehill about this issue to be honest.

Yes dear it hurts like (at first)..If you can get pass that first initial pain you are good to go. Good Luck

It shouldn't hurt like if you do it right. Pain is the body's way of saying that something is wrong.
Go SLLOWWWWWWW and only do it if you absolutely want to. It's worth trying.

Prep, prep, prep....enema, if you drink, have one, plenty of lube, start with fingers, work your way up to small toys, bigger toys, large toys, a sock to stick in your mouth when you scream. The main thing is to relax, relax, relax because if you stiffen up it will become more painful. Relax, relax....after his penis is in it feels real good!