Thread: Don't enjoy giving BJ - how do i get over it?

My BF loves BJ's but everytime i try to give him one i can't help but gag. Don't like the taste, certainly don't want him to cum in my mouth and just find the whole act pretty revolting - any tips on getting past this?

I'm not sure what you mean. Are you saying you don't like the taste when he comes, or that just having him in your mouth makes you gag?

You don't need to take him all the way into your mouth to give him pleasure. The most sensitive part is near the head. It's also OK to just lick around the head with your lips and tongue and with practice you should be able to get him off that way.

If you keep working at it, over time it will get better. Just remember how much he loves it. As long as he is doing things in return that make it nice for you.

Also read my reply in this thread:

http://www.womens-health.com/boards/...html#post34820

I have this same problem. I don't mind having him in my mouth as long as it doesn't hit my gag reflex but, I don't like it when he comes in my mouth.. we have tried using condoms but he can't feel as much and he doesn't seem into it. Since it doesn't make him feel satisfied it makes me not want to do it. He doesn't push it on me but I just wish I could do it more for him.

Originally Posted by onyx_rose7145

I have this same problem. I don't mind having him in my mouth as long as it doesn't hit my gag reflex but, I don't like it when he comes in my mouth.. we have tried using condoms but he can't feel as much and he doesn't seem into it. Since it doesn't make him feel satisfied it makes me not want to do it. He doesn't push it on me but I just wish I could do it more for him.

If you don't like it when he cums in your mouth don't do it...There is no law nor absolutely nothing that says that this makes wonderful erotic sex....Maybe for some men it does....But for a woman it may not....If and when you want to go this way fine....But if you don't this still makes you a wonderful sexual woman.....

I give my husband oral all the time BUT HE does not cum in my mouth because he feels this is disrespecting me....I have done this before but he saves himself for cumming inside of me....

I feel this way, when a man is eating a woman out and she cums he can move away as she is going to enjoy it either way as he has opened that erotic door to heaven....I doubt many men can leave that place of pleasure at that given time....But if a woman does not want him to cum or swallow then she has two choices....Tell him or take it into her mouth and spit it out into a glass or a kleenex....Swallowing a man's cum may be great for some women and not for another.....Nothing wrong with her sexuality as she is as sexual as the next but just her wishes.....I think you are just great the way you are.....

Honey, don't fret.....Grow and mature....Remember this....Half the women on so many Forums encourage things that they do not even do themselves.....That is part of the internet.....Be yourself and love yourself....Much love to you...Caroline

Originally Posted by CarolineWH

If you don't like it when he cums in your mouth don't do it...There is no law nor absolutely nothing that says that this makes wonderful erotic sex....Maybe for some men it does....But for a woman it may not....If and when you want to go this way fine....But if you don't this still makes you a wonderful sexual woman.....

I give my husband oral all the time BUT HE does not cum in my mouth because he feels this is disrespecting me....I have done this before but he saves himself for cumming inside of me....

I feel this way, when a man is eating a woman out and she cums he can move away as she is going to enjoy it either way as he has opened that erotic door to heaven....I doubt many men can leave that place of pleasure at that given time....But if a woman does not want him to cum or swallow then she has two choices....Tell him or take it into her mouth and spit it out into a glass or a kleenex....Swallowing a man's cum may be great for some women and not for another.....Nothing wrong with her sexuality as she is as sexual as the next but just her wishes.....I think you are just great the way you are.....

Honey, don't fret.....Grow and mature....Remember this....Half the women on so many Forums encourage things that they do not even do themselves.....That is part of the internet.....Be yourself and love yourself....Much love to you...Caroline

I do agree with carolines last paragraph ...hummmmm thats true caroline !!! but not true for me , if i dont do it i wont talk about it ....where are all the SPANKERS ???

Best wishes caroline - you always give me a smile x

One more thing I'll say. It's perfectly normal for one person in a couple to enjoy a particular sex act more than the other, and the person who enjoys it less does it as an "act of love". Like maybe you never swallow, then surprise him by doing it on his birthday.

One woman I was with was very generous with oral, seemed to have no problem with swallowing, but after we were together for about six months she confessed that sometimes, while she was going down on me, she would fantasize that I was forcing her to do it, that is, using my masculine capacity to dominate and making her be the "bad girl". The truth is I'm a pretty normal, mild-mannered kind of guy. And yet she made this confession to me.

Speaking as a guy, I think it's fair to say that there's no way a woman can ever truly appreciate how good a blowjob feels for a man. If you can't do it, that's OK, but don't write off the idea that if you keep practicing over time, you might just get the hang of it. It's the one thing that makes every man feel like a king.

Originally Posted by Richard S

One more thing I'll say. It's perfectly normal for one person in a couple to enjoy a particular sex act more than the other, and the person who enjoys it less does it as an "act of love". Like maybe you never swallow, then surprise him by doing it on his birthday.

One woman I was with was very generous with oral, seemed to have no problem with swallowing, but after we were together for about six months she confessed that sometimes, while she was going down on me, she would fantasize that I was forcing her to do it, that is, using my masculine capacity to dominate and making her be the "bad girl". The truth is I'm a pretty normal, mild-mannered kind of guy. And yet she made this confession to me.

Speaking as a guy, I think it's fair to say that there's no way a woman can ever truly appreciate how good a blowjob feels for a man. If you can't do it, that's OK, but don't write off the idea that if you keep practicing over time, you might just get the hang of it. It's the one thing that makes every man feel like a king.

Here I will agree with you.....The same thing goes for a woman being eaten out.....BUT I will say that a woman in sexual hunger and with all her animal like self coming out and being free, will literally gobble her man up and blow him until the cows come home.....The secret in this is to let her get this way....Don't force something on her that she does not want....Let her get to that hot sexual point in her inner self that she truly wants to let it all hang out.....

You deal with such a delicate line of forcing an issue and wanting it....A man must be able to awaken her enough to bring that howling cave woman of old that needs and wants to suck him dry and still feel like a lady......That is the secret to true sexual happiness.....Needless to say.....I love sex.....TC, C