Thread: orgasm denial

Originally Posted by Uneeklyme

I wandered on over here with the intention of asking a question about this and what do I find... heh

Actually, I was going to ask about using c*ck rings but the same principle applies.

I understand delaying orgasm or edging makes for an intense orgasm when it finally happens. Its fun to tease and drive a man wild wanting that release. Im curious tho... when rings are used, arent they just plain uncomfortable? I have very limited experience with rings and even that didn't go well (for him) Do men really like these? Anyone have positive experience with them?

We tried c*ck rings and hated them....Uncomfortable and he felt intimidated with it on.....Threw three brand new one's in the box away....

Originally Posted by macca1001

does anyone have any experience of orgasm denial, not letting him come for mutual pleasure

It is a fine game. One common variant is to tie him up, tease him mercelessly, then "make" him do oral on you until you finish, before you finish him.

Another (more S/M-like) game is to keep stimulating him after he finishes - can drive him completely insane.

Another (works on men or some women) is to set a time limit where the victim tries not to cum, while the other tries to force them to. There is either a sexual reward or punishment depending on whether they succeed.

Don't think any of these are in any way harmful, so if you both enjoy, have fun. But - as with any bondage-like behavior, safe word is a good idea.

C0ck rings aren't about stopping the man from orgasm, they're about maintaining a powerful erection. I've never actually used one, but I have even made myself climax with vibrations at the base of my penis, so vibrating c0ck rings etc. are potentially good fun (and can rub the clit too).

As you mention as well CW, I can (only with me in control with myself, not someone else) have several half orgasms (with ejaculation) before the proper one, although with 2 half orgasms first the 3rd final one become harder to obtain and generally less satisfying.

Also, I might add that safe words cannot work if you're gagged with a tie or some duck tape or something! It only happened the one time, but I inadvertantly sort of put my partner through a bit of trauma before I realised that she was in pain (she was sort of getting strangled by a chain and it's easy to mistake pain noise for pleasure noises....) So in any sort of bondage situation always pay close attention to any discomfort the other might be in!