Thread: Sexuality (Straight,Bi,Homosexual)

Okay, I'd like to say I'm new so forgive me. I'm only 15 but I'm mature so I hope you guys can be open minded to me being here (I don't know if there's an age limit or anything..) but I'm slightly confused and worried about my sexuality.

First off, I'm a virgin. I have no intrest in having sex for a long time, either.

I'm attracted to guys but I'm not boy crazy. I also find myself looking at girls too... is this normal for my age? I mean, I have no sexual attraction to woman whatsoever, I just look. Curiosity? Could I be comparing myself? (I'm not extremely female looking as I have no booty and no chest..) Could it be simply self-countiousness?

I'm just picky I think; boy wise. But I'm also worried that could be some sign of bisexuality or homosexuality. I dumped my first boyfriend because he kissed me and it was way to fast for me. I'm not into dating. It bugs me to hear some, 11-16 year old saying they "need" a boyfriend. Especially when they aren't mature about it.

I have nothing against the two It's just I'm worried because my parents would be seriously dissapointed and may even disown me. They aren't open in the least. Not to that. I couldn't even tell them. If I were I wouldn't tell them, either.

I just need some advice...

Gracias y de nada<3

GOOD GRIEF....

First off, calm down! I know it’s real hard as your hormones are going totally crazy right now! It’s totally natural for girls to look at other girls.
Why not, they are the most beautiful creatures on the planet. If I were a girl, I would look at me too!

Most importantly, DO NOT do anything you have not thought about long in advance. You are at an age that MANY, MANY people would love to go back to and do everything differently. Therefore, think long and hard about everything you plan on doing sexually so you are never caught off guard or with your pants down, so to speak!

Wait until you are at least 18 to break your Hymen (de-virgin) and only screw around with guys sexually (as I imagine you will anyway) that you know well and can trust to not basically rape you!

In other words, learn the art of oral sex (you are at the right place for that) and find a boy-friend that also want only oral for now and stick with it. No cheating and letting him just feel real quick what it feels like in a women, etc, and a long list of other male phrases to try and trick you into having sex before you are ready!

Remember, once you are de-virgin'ed, life is never the same!

Take care.

Um, I don't know what Hystorm's answer had to do with the question, seriously.

When I was your age (not too long ago) I decided I was bisexual, but I WAS boy-crazy and hormone-crazed in general. It's perfectly normal to feel that way; it will do you well in the long run. Do you know how hard it is to get through college when your hormones are telling you to mate with every good-looking guy you see? It's hard.
So, ENJOY the fact that you're not going nuts like the other people your age are; it'll help you out in the long run.
As far as bisexuality/homosexuality, just don't worry too hard about it. Even if your hormones aren't going as wild as other people's, they're still having a party, and everybody's invited. If you aren't having fantasies about performing oral sex on a girl or holding hands with one, you're probably not bisexual/lesbian. At least, not now. In fact, it's okay to be Asexual right now, and into your 20's. It's time for you to focus on you, so enjoy it.

Me either.

Thanks! I have been focusing one me lately. I've been taking a look at my life and seeing what needs fixed and reavaluated and such. I'm uncovering my questions but we're getting there.

Thanks so much for your answer, it means alot.

You too, Hystorm.

Originally Posted by hello_pitty

I check out chicks all the time, but i'm 100% hetro. I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. When I was your age, I wasn't boy crazy either, in fact I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18. But I was more of a nerd back then lol and actually still am lol...ahem...off topic. But theres nothing wrong at all with you, just go with the flow. You're experiencing and experimenting and boy did I do that alot at your age!!! Even kissing a girl just to see what it's like doesn't make you bi or homosexual. I kissed a girl when I was 15 on a dare!!!

So go wild girl, don't let anything hold you back!! And don't let other peoples judgment bother you either, because you're here to live your life, not thiers....

Thanks so much! That made me feel sooo much better like you can't imagine And I see nothing wrong with keeping your virginity. I plan to until I find the one!

Originally Posted by Ticka

Okay, I'd like to say I'm new so forgive me. I'm only 15 but I'm mature so I hope you guys can be open minded to me being here (I don't know if there's an age limit or anything..) but I'm slightly confused and worried about my sexuality.

First off, I'm a virgin. I have no intrest in having sex for a long time, either.

I'm attracted to guys but I'm not boy crazy. I also find myself looking at girls too... is this normal for my age? I mean, I have no sexual attraction to woman whatsoever, I just look. Curiosity? Could I be comparing myself? (I'm not extremely female looking as I have no booty and no chest..) Could it be simply self-countiousness?

I'm just picky I think; boy wise. But I'm also worried that could be some sign of bisexuality or homosexuality. I dumped my first boyfriend because he kissed me and it was way to fast for me. I'm not into dating. It bugs me to hear some, 11-16 year old saying they "need" a boyfriend. Especially when they aren't mature about it.

I have nothing against the two It's just I'm worried because my parents would be seriously dissapointed and may even disown me. They aren't open in the least. Not to that. I couldn't even tell them. If I were I wouldn't tell them, either.

I just need some advice...

Gracias y de nada<3

Hi - well having read your post id say first try to relax a little , and dont panic about this word bisexual or homosexual .

You are only 15 , but im not trying to say your a child because you did write a very well written post . \If you say you are still a virgin and you didnt relly enjoy your first kiss and its just the one time you did kiss . I honestly dont think you have anything to worry about , just give yourself a little more time , more time to date and enjoy dates without concentrating on how you feel sexually , i mean go out with guys and have fun days and then see how you feel abbout being attracted to them to feel you want to kiss thm , not sleep with them but take things slowly .. I think at that age its normal to feel a little confusion certainly for boys ...and many older teenage boys especially have at least one experience with another guy and perhaps more ...it might not be full sex but something sexual . And for younger women too , because of periods and feeling hormonal and sometimes the guys seem too imature to be around they prefer the company of women and then they wonder if they are gay ..dont be frightend of these words ...im sure its true people of 15 do know they are gay and from a much earlier age but i would give yourself more time to discover your sexuality ...a lot of time ...its also normal for girls to compare bodies as it is boys ....but they dont like to admit it for fear of people thinking they might be gay or bisexual . I actually dont think you are, by the sound of this you need to have some more dates with men which will come in time and when you are ready ...not because your friends are dating ...and also have female friends ...and go shopping do things you like to do have friends of both sexes ....

I mean this nicely but dont worry at the moment about telling your parents how you feel ..because how you feel today might not be the way you feel tomorrow - your parents love you and im sure at the end of the day it wouldnt and shouldnt mtter whether your gay, staight or bisexual ...hope this helped a little ....also if you wanted to tell your parent s it should be your own private decision ...nobody shuld talk or advise you about telling your parents of your sexuality ...dont let anyone tell you to do this until your mind is clear over it ...and in a few years give yourself times to develop and express yourself .

Take care
catherine

Originally Posted by Private.Flangeamin

Hi - well having read your post id say first try to relax a little , and dont panic about this word bisexual or homosexual .

You are only 15 , but im not trying to say your a child because you did write a very well written post . \If you say you are still a virgin and you didnt relly enjoy your first kiss and its just the one time you did kiss . I honestly dont think you have anything to worry about , just give yourself a little more time , more time to date and enjoy dates without concentrating on how you feel sexually , i mean go out with guys and have fun days and then see how you feel abbout being attracted to them to feel you want to kiss thm , not sleep with them but take things slowly .. I think at that age its normal to feel a little confusion certainly for boys ...and many older teenage boys especially have at least one experience with another guy and perhaps more ...it might not be full sex but something sexual . And for younger women too , because of periods and feeling hormonal and sometimes the guys seem too imature to be around they prefer the company of women and then they wonder if they are gay ..dont be frightend of these words ...im sure its true people of 15 do know they are gay and from a much earlier age but i would give yourself more time to discover your sexuality ...a lot of time ...its also normal for girls to compare bodies as it is boys ....but they dont like to admit it for fear of people thinking they might be gay or bisexual . I actually dont think you are, by the sound of this you need to have some more dates with men which will come in time and when you are ready ...not because your friends are dating ...and also have female friends ...and go shopping do things you like to do have friends of both sexes ....

I mean this nicely but dont worry at the moment about telling your parents how you feel ..because how you feel today might not be the way you feel tomorrow - your parents love you and im sure at the end of the day it wouldnt and shouldnt mtter whether your gay, staight or bisexual ...hope this helped a little ....also if you wanted to tell your parent s it should be your own private decision ...nobody shuld talk or advise you about telling your parents of your sexuality ...dont let anyone tell you to do this until your mind is clear over it ...and in a few years give yourself times to develop and express yourself .

Take care
catherine

Thanks you so much! It means alot to have so many people backing me up.