Thread: orgasam

Hi.I did not have my first orgasim through intercourse until my first child was 2 or 3.I have been married 8 years this Friday and yet I have had only a couple orgasims through intercourse.Some women have this problem.This may sound gross to some people-but the only way my husband can give me an orgasim is through oral sex.I am not sure why I have this problem.I am only 24.When I have had an orgasim through intercourse it took almost an hour each time and nearly killed my poor husband.I wish I could help you better but the only thing I can tell you is ask him to stimulate you some other way either through oral sex or with his hands.Also,when you have sex with him,make sure you are into it,too.Forget about everything else.Everything else can wait.Just relax and let go.

This is very common for MANY women so don't feel like there is anything wrong. You are just one of the many that need to work a bit harder at an orgasm.

The key to having an orgasm is understanding the various ways that it can be achieved. After all, there's more then one way! First of all, your mental state is vital! You MUST be in the mood and having super steamy thoughts. If your mind isn't in it, then you will probably never have an orgasm. You have to let go of anything else that may be on your mind. Relax and don't try to overthink about your orgasm. It is important to think about things that you find sexually stimulating... whatever they may be. It is also important that you are comfortable with your body and what you are doing. If you are self-conscious about anything, it will effect you.

Next, you need to figure out what feels best to you. Some women have orgasms through penetration, clitoral stimulation, oral sex, or anal stimulation. Some women can only have an orgasm if they use a vibrator on their clitorus while having sexual intercourse. You will have to just experiment until you find something that works.

You might try some new things like watching porn, using toys, or role playing. Anything that will mentally stimulate you will help.

Make sure that you and your man are not putting too much pressure on you to achieve an orgasm. If he keeps asking you if you are going to cum, it's going to distract you and it will never happen. Tell him before you start, that you will let him know if it is happening.

Hope this helps!

thanks for the advice im gunn try to

anyone else got some edvice or anything , hes coming over tonight and were
gunna probly end up you know doing it..

Originally Posted by blueeyeblondesweetheart

Hi.I did not have my first orgasim through intercourse until my first child was 2 or 3.I have been married 8 years this Friday and yet I have had only a couple orgasims through intercourse.Some women have this problem.This may sound gross to some people-but the only way my husband can give me an orgasim is through oral sex.I am not sure why I have this problem.I am only 24.When I have had an orgasim through intercourse it took almost an hour each time and nearly killed my poor husband.I wish I could help you better but the only thing I can tell you is ask him to stimulate you some other way either through oral sex or with his hands.Also,when you have sex with him,make sure you are into it,too.Forget about everything else.Everything else can wait.Just relax and let go.

alot of foreplay has always helped me out like if you let him get right to it then that could be part of it use alot of body language too its always good to yes let him take your clothes off but at least leave the panies on for a bit just wait until your really into it until you start doing it (let him put it in)it took me a long time to finally have an orgasm you just have to experiment but youll get it

have you ever tried masturbating yourself to an orgasm?
because If you're able to do that, you might want to do it until you're close, and then start having intercourse.

my first orgasim was when i was 16 i have had sex with 4 other guys and nothing felt good.... it was like i hated having sex! then i met my boyfriend i have now, 6 months later(still havent had sex) we where talking bout it and then we did it happend like the third time we did it. i loved it and it was magical! i felt like a freak cuz out of all my friends i was the only one who hasn't had an orgasim!

You can try using a vibrator either by yourself or with your partner. The "hitachi magic wand" is said to be quite effective. But - you can also become reliant on a vibrator, and not able to orgasm without one.

For me, what really work is oral sex and lots of foreplay (lots of french kissing, licking, kisses all over, sensual touching, etc) and just keep on with the foreplay until you cant take it anymore. It really gets you going (at least it gets me going) and then when you start with the intercourse, its just so amazing. Also don't put alot of pressure on achieving an orgasm, it will happen when it happens, and you will definately know!! Best of Luck!

Hi Years ago I came across a used book nad regret not saving it for my children Its was an honest and complete guide to marrige for the first timer.

I remember reading about sex and enjoyment for both partners in the book. One thing that remained with me is the discription of how women of differnt ages respond to stimulation. Breifly it stated that younger women need a more direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm while more mature women can achive orgasm by penetration alone or even with no genital contact. Having married at a young age and now have the pleasure of making love to a sexy 45 Y/o Women I can say with confindance that this has proven to be true. With the orgasms you reach through oral sex your clitoris is probably receiving most of the contact Try positons that place you in a more pelvis to pelvis contact than the standard in and out and Im sure you will find the satisfaction you are looking for Good luck and remember practise makes perfect