Thread: Have i done something wrong?

Ladylane i know what I’ve got to say to him it’s just the saying that’s difficult, actually talking to him, he’s not the easiest to talk to unless he hasn’t got to think about anything. Right now is unfortunately a bad time for him as he’s under a lot of pressure, i saw him yesterday and he was so busy he hardly said a word and when i phoned him much later he was still very busy. Both him and his boss were hard at work, they had to get something done for the next day and were running out of time to do it in time. I passed by his earlier and they were not home so i didn’t get a chance to see him today but now it’s more important than ever i speak to him as he told me yesterday he is going away at the weekend for the week. I don’t want him to go away without him knowing what it is i want to say. I decided to send him a message online it’s not as good as face to face but it’s better than nothing, the thing is i doubt he will go on there before he goes away, he doesn’t come online much anyway. Me and my sister have decided to try and see him tomorrow but there will be no guarantee he will be there, we can only try, of course there is still a chance i could phone him but i know he’s going to be busy getting everything ready for their trip away.

I have a question about forplay, when me and my boyfriend did it i got the feeling that i wasn't doing it right, i just seemed to hold onto him but not do anything, he had to guide my hands, i found this really embarrasing and have worried that this is why he hasn't done it since. Also when he did it to me i didn't seem to get turned on. As i said above we did it three times and none of those times i have got turned on, he did the second time but didn't the first or third. My question to the women is what have u found your boyfriend or husband like when it comes to forplay and men what do u like ur girlfriend or wife to do to you? I'm not going to rush into anything though, i'll do things once my boyfriend is ready and of course i won't force him as he wouldn't force me.

Maybe you're not getting turned on because you're nervous. Your mind starts to go crazy, all kinds of questions of whether your doing something right or wrong or too hard or too soft, etc., or wondering where his hand is going and why and what if its too hard or I don't like it... we all sometimes have an inner dialogue that goes on when we're supposed to be getting carried away in the moment.

I would say to start slow. Kissing and light sucking on the spot where the neck meets the shoulder has pretty much turned most guys into putty for me. Pressure and a rhythmic movement are sure to get him going, also. Rubbing his erection through his jeans, his underwear, that sort of thing. Not too hard, just enough pressure so he knows your hand is there. Every man is different, but the things I mentioned are pretty much going to work. When you have him in your hand, slowly move your hand up and down the shaft lightly with your fingers and thumb in an O shape. Its okay to ask him what he likes. I'm not sure what you mean when you say "he did it to you" - I don't know what he did.

I hope you were able to have the talk with him that you wanted to before he left on vacation.