Thread: Are Fantasies Normal??

CW has given you some great advice. I agree with her.

Also... It is my experience that bringing another into an already troubled relationship just creates more trouble. To deal with altering your sex life that much, a couple must be secure in themselves and each other and their exhisting relationship. It creates whole new issues and not already being strong together...it could easily tear you apart.

Fantasies are common. Our personal thoughts and feelings are ours to have. Even when our minds eye plays out a hot fantasy, its just ourselves to deal with it. Now, acting out fantasies can be hot as all heck but only if both partners are into it. I think sharing our fantasies verbally with our partner lets our partner experience a part of us. If they are willing to act them out then BONUS! If they are not, well, some fantasies are just best left as that...fantasy. Sometimes the fantasy is much better than the reality anyway.

Is your wife aware of how frustrated you are? I mean, not just in a passing honey I have a problem but in a look, this is serious and we need to try and fix it way.

Is it normal? Very normal.

My boyfriend once told me that watching me with another man was one of his fantasies. It didn't offend me when he brought it up, we actually discussed it. I wanted to know his thinking on it.

Would/could I ever do it? Probably not for a few different reasons.

Lord I hope they are or I am in one heap of trouble.....

Sorrid Lives,

Yes i discussed it , told her I had a dream that we did this and thats when she told me about thinking male parts were gross and that she could see herself doing a MFF beforer she could a MMF . but she then stated she wouldnt even think about doing either . Not sure if she was being honest or not wanting me to know what she really felt...Lee

Uneeklyme,

Is your wife aware of how frustrated you are?I think so, I have stated it regularly that we are not together near enough these days.
I mean, not just in a passing honey I have a problem but in a look, this is serious and we need to try and fix it way. Tried to talk it out worked good for 1 month then back into the 1-2 times a month routine.

Thanks to all for the advice , I am trying to keep up ..Lee

Caroline,

Lord I hope they are or I am in one heap of trouble.....


I expected nothing less from you Caroline , You are a Woman after my own Heart!!!....Lee

Fallen1,

If it is not personel , would you like to share some of the reasons for not wanting to? Just curious might be that my wife has some of the same ones or might help me see another point of view? If not thats fine , thanks for the input...Lee