Thread: Are Fantasies Normal??

Sorry if I worded things wrong I would never want to force the issue on anything. I have stated in several post How much she has enjoyed things in the past and all of a sudden quit cold turkey?? I was just looking for ways to try to rekindle the interest for right now there seems to be none . I am a very kind and gentle individual who has never in 25 years of marriage pushed or forced an issue on her of any kind sexual or otherwise, How do I get her to do this should have been like CW stated . How do I get her to open up and tell me what she feels about different things sexually??.. Again Sorry....Lee

Originally Posted by rebellee47

Bottom Line: She will not open up and tell me what she really feels??? Dont know how to go about getting her to do this?? Any Ideas?? I think it may be a religiuos hangup of some sort and she thinks it is wrong even though we are not very active she was raised baptist and they are dead set against any type of sexual exploration. I also think if we didnt have kids at home she might be able to open up if we were alone alot. Even though our kids are in college they are still at home for now..Lee

I personally read this as how do I get her to open up and tell me what she really feels. He then goes on to explain why she may be not so open about sex. I dont read it as how do I get her to have a threesome but I do see how it can be construed as such. I do agree if she has already given the heck no then it shouldn't be pushed. I dont feel that(just reading lee's side of the story and having nothing else to go on) she is being fair to him. To be open to toys and sexually satisfying and then all of a sudden just stop without explanation...

Originally Posted by Fallen1

Is it normal? Very normal.

My boyfriend once told me that watching me with another man was one of his fantasies. It didn't offend me when he brought it up, we actually discussed it. I wanted to know his thinking on it.

Would/could I ever do it? Probably not for a few different reasons.

I didn't think I'd find anything on this here, is there a thread I haven't found, I'm new and just did a short search on this topic and didn't find much.
I've never heard of it, other than 'swinging' before my husband discovered this fantasy about ago year now. We only talk about it during sex, I only did it reluctantly at his insistence , but now I'm finding myself curious, especially since he's moved from just talking about it during sex to asking me what I think of other men we see out and his friends and making me talk about my previous lovers.
He is obsessed with how I rate their sexual performance compared to his and penis size, I don't think I'll ever understand, especially since he is very well-endowed. He does have stamina problems and seems to think I am craving a better lover.
I think I made a mistake admitting that my previous lovers didn't have that problem, but I am a little frustrated because he can't last long enough to bring me to orgasm with intercourse, but he always manages to with oral and toys and I've never contemplated cheating on him.

We are very vanilla in the bedroom otherwise, I'm 36 and I have only been with 4 other men in my life before him (I know) and he is by far is the most well-endowed and has no problems getting an erection, so I have been quite pleased with his penis, but I'm wondering if I'm 'satisfied' only because I've never truly experienced a man with really good stamina or have ever been made to orgasm during intercourse.
This seems to be the focus of my husbands fantasy, to see me orgasm with another man while he is inside me.
I guess I joined this site to get the opinions of people who are and who are not into this fetish to tell me what they think before we go any further with this fantasy of his.
I'm reluctant only because I'm afraid of the repercussions if I do in fact have sex with another man, will my husband be jealous? Is this a test to see if I will really do it?
And what if I do find the sex better, how will the sex with my husband be if he doesn't want me to have any more men?
Also, what is the psychology behind this fantasy for the man? It is quite different from 'swinging' or 'wife-swapping', a lot of the things I've read on the 'cuckold' sites he's on have a lot to do with ridiculing the husband's small penis (which his is not) and ridiculing their sexual performance, which seems to be his focus because of his lack of stamina.

I haven't mentioned this to even my closest girlfriend's, I'm actually embarrassed for my husband, I don't want them to know about his fantasy and that I indulge him in it during sex, or that he's obsessed with his inability to last long during sex.
So I came on here.

Any and all thoughts are welcome, thanks -Anette (and guys please no volunteers, my husband would only ever do it with a friend of ours)