Thread: Oral sex question

I admit I'm a bit naive. My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. So we are both "clean". My question is this, even though we are both clean are there any dangers for either of us if I perform oral sex on her? I read about HPV, Herpes, etc but does one of the partners have to have a disease to actually get one?

Yes, one or the other has to carry an STI/STD to transmit it to the other. Both of you being "clean" and I assume you mean disease free, the chances are none to pass anything on or get anything while performing or receiving oral sex. Possible yeast infection is your biggest issue if at all and that is not an STI/STD.

Go nuts. Discover, explore and enjoy.

*agrees with uneeklyme* If you both have never had other sexual partners than you are both STD free and have no worries!

Also, I just wanted to say that it's so wonderful to hear that there are people who still wait to have sex until after marriage. It's a beautiful thing and I admire you both for having the will power to stick it out.

Best of luck to you both!

I don't know where you are posting from, but in the US I think you are tested for STDs when you get the marriage license (it was a LONG time ago -don't remember well, and it may have changed). If you have both been faithful, you have nothing to worry about. One of the great things about being married (or otherwise in a monogomous relationship) is that you don't need to worry about all that STD stuff, and can touch the other person without a layer of rubber between.

That is of course assuming your partner was honest with you and hasn't got any outside of the marriage afterwards too. And just because neither of you have "did it" doesn't mean you've both been risk-free. If either of you have had a cold sore, then you've been exposed to herpes at some point.

True, there is the herpes simplex 1 (cancre or cold sore type) that can be transfered by oral sex. Can be transfered by kissing or just the carrier touching the sore then transfering it to their partner before washing. However, if both are clean neither can pass what isnt there to the other. Now, a cheating partner is another story... you wouldnt know until you had the nasty. They didnt tell you they are cheating so no way are they going to tell you they have "presents"

rcorey... women are titer tested for the german measels(rubella) immunity to make sure they have been vacinated. This is only done if the woman can have children even if they don't plan on having any or more. I don't believe there are any states that require STD/STI testing for marriage or any other thing. It infringes on right to privacy.